Are you hurting badly now and wondering whether infidelity pain will ever go away? Are you concerned about what life will be like after you heal? This is not unusual. This, or some form of this line of thinking, is a concern both hurt and unfaithful partners share. This is particularly true for couples who are trying to heal and go back to normal.  Even that very word, “normal,” can be triggering. So many quest Are you hurting badly now and wondering whether infidelity pain will ever go away? Are you concerned about what life will be like after you heal? This is not unusual. This, or some form of this line of thinking, is a concern both hurt and unfaithful partners share. This is particularly true for couples who are trying to heal and go back to normal.  Even that very word, “normal,” can be triggering. So many questions and concerns come up for couples and to help get some answers, I talked things through with a guest therapist. Tune into this episode to learn tips to better handle the aftermath of the aftermath of infidelity. You are also invited to learn more about our infidelity recovery coaching program. If you like what you read, schedule a 45-minute free consultation to see if it would be the best fit to enhance your healing process.  Links mentioned in this episode: 45-minute Infidelity Recovery Coaching Program Consultation Yael Haklai-Neagu, LMFT - senior couples therapist at Idit Sharoni - Relationship Experts Episode #68: How to Recover From Infidelity PTSD State of Affairs - book by Esther Perel  

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Episode 071: Does infidelity pain ever go away?

In this episode relationship expert Idit Sharoni discusses the symptoms of infidelity PTSD including intrusive thoughts and how to help your hurt partner get past the triggers. She also shares about whether it is even possible to help a hurt partner with this and the do’s and don’ts around that. 

Episode 070: Intrusive Thoughts After Infidelity: How to Help Your Partner Get Past Infidelity PTSD Triggers

I recently met with Dr. Marie Murphy on her podcast, Your Secret is Safe With Me to discuss how an affair recovery program can help couples in the aftermath of infidelity. We also shared about how unfaithful partners can get help ending affairs or making decisions on how to proceed with an ongoing affair.  Dr. Marie and myself discuss the most difficult shame ridden topics that most do not even try to understand about infidelity and betrayal. We look at the multidimensionality of relationships and the healing after infidelity.

Episode 069: Can an Affair Recovery Program Save Your Relationship

One of the most common yet difficult issues hurt partners experience in the aftermath of infidelity is post trauma symptoms or PTSD. I interview relationship expert Yael Haklai-Neagu, LMFT who specializes in helping hurt partners handle their intrusive thoughts and Hypervigilance as a result of their partner's affair or betrayal.  As a certified hypnotherapist, Yael shares tips and ideas about how you can utilize hypnotherapy to recover. This Episode is Brought to you by It's Okay To Stay Program  - A Roadmap to Healing After Infidelity by Idit Sharoni, LMFT Links Mentioned in this episode: Yael Haklai-Neagu's Webpage - Yael is an expert team member at Idit Sharoni - Relationship Experts, a private practice offering marriage counseling, couples therapy, and affair recovery programs. 

Episode 068: How to Recover From Infidelity PTSD

In the aftermath of infidelity, what does a hurt partner need most? What comes to mind? Most people, unfaithful partners, or even therapists routinely answer the same way: hurt partners need true remorse from the betrayer, to forgive, and to know why among other things.  Of course, these are all true and important. Yet, the more fundamental and vital concern any betrayed partner needs to be addressed is for their pain to be heard.  Relationship expert Idit Sharoni shares 6 tasks hurt and unfaithful partners can start implementing right now to facilitate hearing the pain.  Episode Sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Idit Sharoni's infidelity recovery and healing program: It's Okay To Stay. ‘It’s Okay to Stay’ is a complete 8-week coaching program that involves an online roadmap course and one-on-one work with an affair recovery specialist. If you have faith in your relationship, if you want to stay together, and heal— Idit is offering a 45-minute free consultation for couples who want to save their relationship after infidelity and need expert guidance.  Schedule your free consultation today at www.iditsharoni.com/45  *Both partners have to be present for the consultation. Episode Full Blog Post: https://iditsharoni.com/what-hurt-partners-need-most-in-affair-recovery/ Links mentioned in this episode: The Monogamy Myth. Not Just Friends  

Episode 067: What Hurt Partners Need Most in Affair Recovery

When we think of healing from an affair, we focus on the betrayal of the faithful partner. We rarely think of the unfaithful partner’s wounded mind. In fact, the unfaithful partner’s ability to recover from the affair is quite routinely ignored.  And when it comes to women’s affairs? Well, there’s even less attention paid to healing for unfaithful women. That’s where the expertise of Debbie Rose comes in. Listen to my interview with Debbie to learn the steps to ending an affair.   Infidelity Recovery Free Masterclass: Idit's infidelity recovery masterclass   Links mentioned: Debbie's website aftermyaffair.com Debbie's Facebook group Idit's support community on Facebook The book Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass Idit's infidelity recovery online program   Contact: idit@iditsharoni.com

Episode 066: How a Woman Can End An Affair Without Falling on Her Face: A Discussion with Debbie Rose

Tackling a big relationship issue that has the potential to end it? You know you need an expert to help you, but how do you get the best of the best to work with you? This episode is mind shifting because it will change your understanding about how to get help from professionals you normally can't afford or can't reach.  The world of service is totally changing, and with it the world of couples counseling. Gone are the days where experts were out of reach, too expensive, or too far. Tune in to find out how you - yes you - can get an expert to help your relationship.  Links mentioned: Rekindling Desire (Esther Perel) The Art and Science of Love (The Gottman Institute) It’s Okay to Stay (Idit Sharoni) Infidelity Recovery Free Masterclass: Forgiving & Forgetting is NOT the Key to Healing After Infidelity Contact: idit@iditsharoni.com

Episode 065: How to Get an Expert to Help your Relationship Without Having to See One

Are you and your spouse equal partners in your relationship? Or has one of you become more of a parent to the other? When a couple starts to fall into a parent-child dynamic, codependency, rather than a balanced, cooperative relationship starts to emerge. Essentially, this means that the overall patterns of communication and behavior push one partner (either the male or the female) into a parent or a child position within the relationship.  In this episode, I do the following: help you take a closer look at what this destructive dynamic may look like share why you shouldn't promote this in your relationship suggest two strategies to avoid it Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Masterclass: Forgiving & Forgetting is NOT the Key to Healing After Infidelity www.iditsharoni.com/masterclass for more information go to: www.iditsharoni.com

Episode 064: Episode 064: Are you in a Parent - Child Relationship With Your Spouse?

Today, I want to talk about who can heal your pain after infidelity. You’ll learn who really can help heal the pain, who doesn’t have the power to help, and what you can do if you’re stuck feeling unable to move past the hurt. I dive into the topic by telling you about a contact that I recently received from a spouse who had been cheated on and wanted to be seen individually. There was nothing alarming about this at first, but the person then shared something troubling: a therapist had told this person that seeking individual help to overcome the pain was needed before the couple could healthily recover together. The first issue that I have with this is that sending one partner off to seek help alone is very difficult. I talk about how it takes so much courage to trust anyone after infidelity and that isolating sends a bad message to the hurt partner.  The second issue I have is that many therapists have the assumption that the pain after infidelity is individual and, therefore, the hurting individual is capable of fixing it. You must remember that forgiveness is a journey that both sides need to go on and that it needs to be earned. The third issue I have is the sense that hurt partners who are not ready to forgive are considered unable to surrender to the process. I provide my opinion that surrender should not be expected because the situation that the couple has found themselves in is not a war.  Therapy is not a body shop where you check your problematic spouse in to get fixed. The betraying partner needs to understand that they are the person who will help the healing. Links mentioned in this episode:  It's Okay to Stay - Idit's Online Course Waitlist Idit’s It’s Okay to Stay Facebook group Book: How Can I Forgive You / by Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com  

Episode 063: Who's going to Heal Your Pain After Infidelity?

Feel like you don't even know what is going to make your relationship work anymore? Let relationship expert Idit Sharoni give you a surprising strategie to help you get insight as to what can save your relationship, when everything seems like chaos.  As promised in the episode, here's what you ask yourself: “Suppose this episode is over, you go about your day, do whatever you planned to do for the rest of it. And then, some time in the evening, you get tired and go to sleep. And in the middle of the night, when you are sound asleep, a miracle happens and the problems in your relationship are solved just like that (snap). But since the miracle happened overnight you don’t know that the miracle has happened. When you wake up the next morning, how are you going to start discovering that the miracle happened? What would be the first thing that would tell you a miracle must’ve happened? What else are you going to notice during the day after you wake up?” To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

Episode 062: Will it Take a Miracle to Save Your Relationship?

We're deep into creation mode, and a a result my team and myself are taking a short break. We will be back with more great episodes filled with relationship tips and ideas on January 21st, 2019.  Until then, have a happy holiday season and a wonderful New Year! Don't forget to check back in with us Monday, January 21st, 2019.

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Have you stopped couples counseling because there was no result? Are you now in the stages of looking for a therapist but aren't sure what to look for? Do you desperately wish you had a tool to measure whether couples therapy is the right fit for you? Couples therapist Idit Sharoni shares from her thousands of hours experience helping couples save their relationships, what are the most important components that make your couples therapy process a success.  Listen and learn what you can do now to ensure your couples counseling has the best chances to succeed.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com  

Episode 061: Make Your Couples Counseling a Success

If you are human, you probably engaged in escalating a conflict by being defensive. In this episode, relationship expert Idit Sharoni shares what is defensiveness, how it looks inside a conversation, what it does, and how to avoid it. You'll get tools and ideas on what you can do when you feel attacked by your partner. By the end of this episode you'll know to better react and diffuse the conflict.  Links mentioned in this Episode: Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse Video - The Gottman Institute To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

Episode 060: Why Do You have to Be so Defensive?

Betrayed partners are exposed to a great amount of uncertainty when they learn their spouse has been unfaithful. One of the things they often hear is "Once a cheater always a cheater". Is this ture? Listen to Miami's relationship expert Idit Sharoni expressing her thoughts and ideas about the old saying based on her experience working with coupes in the aftermath of infidelity.  FREEBIE: Download the "5 Ways to Know if You’re Dealing w/ Always a Cheater" guide Idit created to especially for this episode listeners. Simply click the link below.  Links mentioned in this episode: FREEBIE: 5 Ways to Know if You’re Dealing w/ Always a Cheater Idit’s FB Group: It’s Okay To Stay - Healing After Infidelity Where Should We Begin Podcast Season 2 ep. 7   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com  

Episode 059: Once a Cheater Always a Cheater… Thoughts and ways to know

Do you hear from your spouse that they need to feel more loved? Do they tell you you're not making time for them, attending to them, or making them feel appreciated enough? That is a very real issue for many modern relationships these days. So, how do you make your partner feel loved and cared for without jeopardising your individual needs?  Listen to Miami's relationship expert Idit Sharoni giving you 5 tips on how to go from having a partner who feels uncared for to a relationship where both of you feel nurtured. You may be surprised... Links mentioned in this episode: Episode 46: Date Night Will Not Solve Your Problems TED Talk: The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship Article: For a Better Marriage Act Like a Single Person   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com  

Episode 058: How to handle partners who feel uncared for and unappreciated

Relationship expert Idit Sharoni is bringing you invaluable relationship advice to make your marriage thrive. Idit is a couples therapist in Miami, Florida running a successful private practice and an online relationship course platform . She takes pride in helping people improve their relationships or heal after infidelity. This show is all about un-complicating and demystifying social messages about relationships while offering easy-to-apply tips and ideas about common relationship issues such as communication, trust, infidelity, breakups, divorce, and many more.  *Not intended as a replacement for psychotherapy.

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