This week we dive into a listener recommended book, "Make Your Move: The New Science of Dating and Why Women Are in Charge" by Jon Birger. We discuss the chapter 'The Make Your Move Offline Dating Challenge' and tips for meeting new prospects while on a dating apps cleanse. Erica and Molly talk about how to be direct in shooting your shot, making - and ranking- lists of offline dating prospects, when rejection is a good thing, and the power of vulnerability. They also debate an interesting 'Would You Rather...' scenario at the start of the episode. 20% off your order at Sunset Lake CBD with PROMO CODE: SGS20 at SunsetLakeCBD.com Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

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#109 Make Your Move

This week the girls revisit a tried and true book "Attached: The Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find and Keep Love." Specifically they discuss the chapter on effective communication and explore how various attachment styles both struggle and succeed in communicating with their partners. The girls also share their own experiences with communication efficacy and breakdowns in past relationships. Erica approaches the conversation having tested as a 'secure' attachment style and discusses times that she's related to the 'anxious' and 'avoidant' styles in her attempts to communicate with partners. Molly, a rarer 'anxious-avoidant' attachment style, talks about her past struggles to communicate needs and emotions to romantic partners. 20% off your order at Sunset Lake CBD with PROMO CODE: SGS20 at SunsetLakeCBD.com Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#108 Effective Communication Based on Your Attachment Style

New Book City. Population: Us. This week Erica and Molly dive into "Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You" by Susan Forward, Ph.D and Donna Frazier. The two talk about the times they've experienced emotional blackmail in their relationships (in both small and big ways), what constitutes emotional blackmail, the role victims play in this game of emotional rollercoasters, and much more. 20% off your order at Sunset Lake CBD with PROMO CODE: SGS20 at SunsetLakeCBD.com Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#107 Are You Being Emotionally Blackmailed? ?

Your two favorite nerds are back in the books and take on Ty Tashiro's "The Science of Happily Ever After." Erica and Molly debate what actually is true love, talk about biological and societal occurrences that have shaped modern dating and how marrying for love is a relatively new concept for the human race. They also discuss the qualities that were originally considered most attractive in a mate and how they have or have not changed today. 20% off your order at Sunset Lake CBD with PROMO CODE: SGS20 at SunsetLakeCBD.com Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#106 Love or Survival?

This week we are joined by Ben Higgins (The Bachelor) and although all of the roses have been given out, there are still many more stories to tell. Ben dishes to Erica and Molly about his engagement and upcoming wedding, as well as about how he made a bold move on his now fiance. Ben also shares how his experiences on The Bachelorette and as The Bachelor impacted his future relationships, what he learned about dating from the shows, and even tells stories of shooting his shot and missing. This episode is sponsored by Sunset Lake CBD. Use Promo Code: SGS20 at https://sunsetlakecbd.com/ for 20% off everything! Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly // Ben Higgins: instagram.com/higgins.ben Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#105 Slide in Their DMs w/ Ben Higgins

This week we take a fan recommendation and dive into Helen Fisher's TedTalk "Why we love, why we cheat." We unpack the MRI studies of human brains when individuals are in love and when individuals are experiencing heartbreak. Erica and Molly also discuss the biology behind love and attachment, the three brain systems of romantic love, and much more. 20% off your order at Sunset Lake CBD with PROMO CODE: SGS20 at SunsetLakeCBD.com Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#104 Your Brain in Love ?

You were always told to listen to your grandma, but on dating advice too? This grandma- absolutely. This week we’re joined by Kim Murstein and her Grandma Gail, (co-hosts of Excuse My Grandma Podcast) to chat about old school vs new school dating. Grandma Gail offers her wisdom, while Kim, Erica and Molly bring their experiences - and challenges - with modern dating to the conversation. This episode is sponsored by Sunset Lake CBD. Use Promo Code: SGS20 at https://sunsetlakecbd.com/ for 20% off everything! Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly // Kim Murstein: instagram.com/kimmurstein // Excuse My Grandma: instagram.com/excusemygrandma Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#103 Grandma Knows Best w/ Kim Murstein & Grandma Gail

This week we are joined by none other than co-author of The Rules series, Sherrie Schneider. Erica and Molly have cracked open The Rules at various points over the years and in this episode chat with Sherrie about what inspired her and her co-author Ellen Fein to write the books, what rules have worked in her own relationships and eventual marriage, if she has ever broken rules, what’s different in today’s dating scene, and much more. This episode is sponsored by Sunset Lake CBD. Use Promo Code: SGS20 at https://sunsetlakecbd.com/ for 20% off everything! Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly // Sherrie Schneider: instagram.com/therulesbook Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#102 The Rules w/ Sherrie Schneider ??

Grab the vodka and olives and pour one out as you listen, because our guest this week holds nothing back. Danielle Silverstein (Marriage and Martinis Podcast) joins us to talk about wedded bliss and when it's a miss. We discuss overcoming challenges in relationships like mental health, financial inequality, severe illness, loss of intimacy and much much more. Danielle also chats with Erica and Molly about her new eBook "Date Night Questions" and when to take them on with your partner. This episode is sponsored by Sunset Lake CBD. Use Promo Code: SGS20 at https://sunsetlakecbd.com/ for 20% off everything! Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly // Danielle Marriage and Martinis: instagram.com/marriageandmartinis Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#101 Relationships Can Have Many Lives w/ Danielle Silverstein

We're celebrating 100 episodes this week by taking a look back on what we've learned and how far we've come since launching the pod. Erica has also been a Friends rewatch binge lately, so the girls dive into the Bustle article "The Best Dating Advice From Your 'Friends'" to give their take on advice from the iconic show. They also share advice that their own friends have given them through the years that has stuck with them. In celebration of 100 episodes we're giving away a free Womanzier vibrator from our partner WOW Tech Group once we reach 500 reviews on Apple Podcasts. Leave your review for your chance to win! 20% off your order at Sunset Lake CBD with PROMO CODE: SGS20 at SunsetLakeCBD.com Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#100 The One Where "Friends" Weigh In

We've brought you the Hot Girl Summer of episodes people, so pour a drink on ice and settle in for this one. Erica and Molly dive into Dr. Emily Morse's (Sex w/ Emily) article published in AskMen "What Men Need To Know About The Female Body." The girls share what they think is most important for men to know about how to turn women on, what they think most men don't know, and debate the tips in the article based on their own experiences -- good, bad and of course the mind blowingly sexy. 20% off your order at Sunset Lake CBD with PROMO CODE: SGS20 at SunsetLakeCBD.com Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#99 What Turns Women On?

This week we're talking all about the anatomy of love and our individual personality traits that make up the way we express ourselves. Erica and Molly took Helen Fisher's Personality Test, which tests the degree to which a person expresses four broad styles of thinking and behaving, each associated with one of four basic brain systems: the dopamine, serotonin, testosterone and estrogen systems. The girls discuss the traits that they believe have been complimented and hindered in past relationships as well as what traits they need in a future partner. 20% off your order at Sunset Lake CBD with PROMO CODE: SGS20 at SunsetLakeCBD.com Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#98 What's Your Love Anatomy?

It’s been a minute since either of your girls have gone through a breakup (or locked someone down), so with plenty of time to process the demise of our past relationships we’re chatting with Kendra Allen, also known as the Breakup Bestie. We talk about some of the biggest mistakes that people often make fresh off of a breakup, if you should cut ties with your exes friends and family, what it means when your ex watches your Instagram stories, "winning the breakup" and so so much more. This episode is sponsored by Sunset Lake CBD. Use Promo Code: SGS20 at https://sunsetlakecbd.com/ for 20% off everything! Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly // Kendra Allen: instagram.com/yourbreakupbestie Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#97 Rules of Breaking Up w/ Breakup Bestie Kendra Allen

It’s the best day of the week once again and your girls are talking all about FOMO and FOBO with the creator of the terms himself, Patrick McGinnis (TEDX). They discuss the difference between The Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) and The Fear of a Better Option (FOBO) and how both can negatively impact modern dating. They talk about how to make better decisions in relationships and how being more decisive can actually make you a better partner. They also chat about outside factors that can increase FOMO and FOBO and how to navigate those factors. This episode is sponsored by Sunset Lake CBD. Use Promo Code: SGS20 at https://sunsetlakecbd.com/ for 20% off everything! Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly // Patrick McGinnis: instagram.com/patrickjmcginnis Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#96 FOMO vs. FOBO in Relationships w/ Patrick McGinnis

This week Erica and Molly unpack relationship psychologist James Bauer's Hero Instinct Theory. They dive into the article "19 Ways to Unveil the Hero Instinct in Men" and discuss ways they feel they have failed and succeeded to bring out the Hero Instincts of men in their past relationships. They also debate whether the pieces of advice given in the article would be well received by men and suggest ways to approach certain situations. The two also discuss the difference between needing a man and wanting a man -- and which will win him over in the end. 20% off your order at Sunset Lake CBD with PROMO CODE: SGS20 at SunsetLakeCBD.com Get extra exclusive episodes & discounts by joining the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Shootersgottashoot Check out our new blog posting every Sunday! **LEAVE US A RATING AND REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS** Follow us on Instagram Erica Spera: instagram.com/spericaa // Molly DeMellier: instagram.com/theguaca_molly Email us your questions & DM stories at: shootersgottashootpod@gmail.com or DM us: instagram.com/shootersgottashootpod If you'd like to join Erica's NYC based Herpes Support group: https://www.meetup.com/NYC-Herpes-Support-Meetup/ or email: herpesgroupnyc@gmail.com www.shootersgottashoot.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shootersgottashoot/support

#95 Bringing Out Your Man's Hero Instinct ?‍♂️

NCAA athletes Erica Spera and Molly DeMellier have always taken shots on and off the court. They know how to get what they want, except when it comes to men. Recently, dating has become a harder to navigate with Erica getting diagnosed with herpes and Molly’s sister/best friend excommunicating herself from the family. But instead of giving up on love, they've made a pact to challenge each other to test modern and old school dating methods. They'll stay in the game and laugh at the rejections they take along the way.

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