Are you part of the 7% of adult Americans who are experiencing a depressive episode this year? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares what depression is and how you can treat it mind, body, and soul. In this Tip Talk episode, she focuses on body-centered techniques for overcoming depression, including getting 20 minutes of sunlight in your eyes daily, vigorous exercise, getting restorative sleep, nutrition, and anti-depressant medication. To download a free PDF of Dr. Jennifer's "Tips for Overcoming Depression," go to https://www.jenniferdegler.com/free-resources-tip-sheets/

Tip Talk with Dr. Jennifer Degler

069 Overcoming Depression Part 1 -- What is Depression -- Body Techniques for Treating Depression -- Tips for Getting Good Sleep

Want to make your guy feel loved and appreciated? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares tips for celebrating your husband by giving him what he needs, like letting him be your hero, asking for his advice, and joining him on an adventure. Pick one tip to apply and watch your man grow in confidence and your marriage thrive!

068 Celebrating Your Man -- 8 Tips for Making Him Feel Loved and Appreciated -- What Husbands Need From Their Wives

Men get so much confidence from being sexually desired by their wives. Pursue your man in the bedroom, and he'll slay dragons for you in the world. Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler gives practical tips to help a wife pursue her man sexually even if she doesn't feel much sexual desire herself. Sign up for the free CWIVES Dare of the Month newsletter at http://cwives.com to help you shift out of neutral sexually and into drive! http://cwives.com http://jenniferdegler.com

067 Sexually Pursuing Your Husband -- Making Your Man Feel Desirable and Sexy -- CWIVES Dare of the Month

Need help making peace in your family? In this Tip Talk podcast episode, psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares how to be a true peacemaker based on Abraham's example as he navigated a family dispute in Genesis 13. What is it that you could unselfishly yield in order to end a quarrel? "At the heart of every family quarrel is selfishness. What right could you yield in order to bring peace? God blesses those who work for peace... Genesis 5:9" "There's a time to dive in and help people. There's a time to step back and wait. Only prayer will tell you what time it is." To download a free PDF of Dr. Jennifer's Top Ten Tips for Building Strong Family Relationships, go to https://www.jenniferdegler.com/free-resources-tip-sheets/

066 How to Make Peace in Your Family -- How to Quit Quarreling -- Praying for Your Family -- Genesis 13 -- Abraham and Lot

If you'd like to connect more with family, in this Tip Talk episode psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares ten tips for building strong family bonds. Listen for fresh ideas on how to more deeply connect and enjoy both your immediate and extended family, as well as celebrate one another, show physical affection, and embrace new family members. You can download a free PDF of this Top Ten Tips list on her website at http://jenniferdegler.com/free-resources/. "The family that plays together stays together. Shared laughter immediately eliminates distance between people, so take a shortcut to connection by having fun together." "Make the effort to show up. We all get exactly one opportunity to be there for someone’s once in a lifetime event." "Ban screens during meal times so everyone makes eye contact and feels heard and seen. We connect with what we look at, so look at your family, not a screen." Teach your children "In this family, we celebrate one another’s joys and mourn each other’s losses, and we never do the opposite." "Strong families are made up of imperfect people who will own their mess ups, apologize, ask for forgiveness while also forgiving themselves, and then work toward not repeating the same mistake. " "We weaken our family bonds when we withhold love until people measure up to exactly what we want them to be. Ask God to help you love everyone for who they are right now. " "An accelerated pace weakens family bonds and rushes us past those little moments where connections are made. People connect in the white spaces."

065 Ten Tips for Building Strong Family Bonds -- Importance of Family Dinner -- Embrace New Family Members -- Slow Down the Pace of Life -- Creating Meaning and Purpose for Your Family

Can you recognize when you're being controlled and exploited so someone else can get what they want? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares 5 more tips for identifying manipulators based on a fascinating and gruesome story from Judges 9. Manipulators: --Serve only themselves --Offer false security --Destroy what displeases them --Repeat patterns of using and deceiving. --Don't listen to God. "Often people who most desire power are the least deserving of it. Power is best wielded by those who live lives of genuine service." "Manipulators will promise you what you want most knowing full well they are not going to deliver it." "Manipulators repeat the same patterns of using and deceiving people. If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you. Today you may be the favored one, but someday you'll be their victim." To download a free PDF of our "Top Ten Tips for Handling Emotional Manipulation," go to http://www.jenniferdegler.com/free-resources/ Check out our online store for resources to help you enjoy emotional and spiritual health, rewarding relationships, and sizzling married sex. http://jenniferdegler.com/store

064 Emotional Manipulation Part 4 -- More Tips for Identifying Manipulators Before They Take Advantage of You --Judges 9 -- Abimelech

Tips to help you sharpen your ability to spot a manipulator before you get played. Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares the first 5 of 10 tips for identifying manipulators based on a fascinating but gruesome story from Judges 9 in the Bible. Manipulators: 1) are all about self-promotion and image. 2) use deceptive appeals to get what they want. 3) rationalize sin to get their way. 4) drive people apart for personal gain. 5) surround themselves with corrupt people. "If your every step is all about promoting yourself and polishing your image, you're not on the road to spiritual success. Be humble or stumble." "Manipulators twist perception, limit your options, or downplay other options so their way seems like the only option you have." "There's no right way to do the wrong thing." To download the free Top Ten Tips for Handling Emotional Manipulation, go to https://www.jenniferdegler.com/free-resources/

063 Emotional Manipulation Part 3 -- How to Identify Manipulative People -- Judges 9 -- Abimelech

If you're in or coming out of a relationship with a difficult, controlling person, in this Tip Talk episode psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler has ten tips to help handle emotional manipulation and its after effects. It's time to quit trying to help and change the emotionally manipulative person. Instead, you can focus on developing your emotional manipulation detection and management skills. You can download a free PDF of this Top Ten Tips list on her website at http://jenniferdegler.com/free-resources/. The book she mentions is No More Christian Nice Girl: When Just Being Nice--Instead of Good--Hurts You, Your Family, and Your Friends. Available on her website, bookstores, and online retailers. "Be deaf to what people say and listen to what they do. The truth about people is found in their actions, not their words." "It's not your job to fix emotionally manipulative people. Your job is to maintain your safety and well-being." "If you feel worse about yourself or increasingly unclear about who you are after spending time with someone, you are likely being emotionally manipulated."

062 Emotional Manipulation Part 2 -- Ten Tips for Handling Emotional Manipulation -- How to Set Boundaries with Manipulative People

Is someone pulling your strings and emotionally manipulating you to get what they want while disregarding the effect on you? In this episode of Tip Talk, psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler explains what emotional manipulation is and provides a list of tactics emotional manipulators use, including guilt trips, negative comparison, criticism, mind games, gas-lighting, denying, false concern, playing the victim, pressuring you to make quick decisions, temper tantrums, false accusations, threats, making excuses and rationalizing, hostile humor, evasiveness, forgetting, playing dumb, being habitually late, charm, flattery, the silent treatment, and triangulation. To download Dr. Jennifer's Top Ten Tips for Handling Emotional Manipulation, go to http://jenniferdegler.com and click on Free Resources. "Emotional manipulation is when you unfairly or deceptively influence, control, exploit, abuse, or coerce another person or situation for your own personal gain while disregarding the needs of the person or situation you are manipulating."

061 - Emotional Manipulation Part 1 - What is Emotional Manipulation - Tactics That Emotional Manipulators Use to Control You

When should we pray and who can pray powerfully? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares how Christians are to pray powerfully when we are in trouble, feeling blessed, sick, or have sinned. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful! Based on James 5. Are you stuck in a troubling situation? Pray "God, give me sustaining grace and eyes to see what you are developing in me through this problem that isn't going away." It feels good to nurse a grudge until we realize bitterness makes us physically sick. Say goodbye to your grudge and hello to health. To pray powerfully, we don't have to be perfect, but we do have to be right with God and right with people. "The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective."

060 - Tips for Praying Powerfully When We Are In Trouble, Blessed, Sick, or Have Sinned -- Who Can Pray Powerfully -- James 5

What's behind conflicts and quarrels? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler explains how selfish desires and pride are behind every quarrel and the relational and spiritual consequences of unnecessary conflicts. Based on James 4. Are you in a quarrel? Ask your

058 The Causes of Conflict and Its Consequences -- How Selfish Desires and Pride Lead to Edging God Out of Our Lives and Increasing Quarreling -- James 4

Need to quit quarreling with someone? Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler provides practical tips and powerful prayers for ending a fight by humbly submitting to God, resisting the Devil's temptation to pride, drawing near to God in complete obedience, and both forgiving the other person and asking for forgiveness for your own wrong attitudes and actions.  Save yourself the cost of a counseling session by asking the other person, "What's it like to be in a relationship with me?" Then listen without explaining or defending why are you like that.  In a conflict? This submission prayer will help stop the quarreling. "God, I yield to you, your way, and what you want in this situation even if it means I don't get my way. God, you know best what's best here." In a conflict? This warfare prayer will help stop the quarreling. "God, please show me where and how Satan is stirring me up to give in to pride and selfishness, and show me how to firmly resist his temptation." In a conflict? This obedience prayer will help stop the quarreling. "God, please show me where I've edged you out and how to instead draw close to you with complete obedience to what you tell me to do." In a conflict? This forgiveness prayer will help stop the quarreling. "God, please show me my own wrong attitudes and actions. Forgive me and help me to forgive the other person and to ask for his or her forgiveness for my wrongdoing."

059 How to Quit Quarreling -- How to Humbly Submit to God, Resist the Devil, Draw Near to God, and Ask for Forgiveness -- James 4

Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares tips for improving relationships based on James 3:13-18 including looking at whether our own arrogance, bitter envy, selfish ambition, or lack of wisdom is contributing to a chaotic or confusing relationship. Also covered are 8 characteristics to cultivate to improve relationships, including having pure motives, being peace-loving instead of a pot-stirrer, being considerate by not overreacting when someone messes up, being willing to yield in matters of opinion, being full of mercy and forgiveness, doing practical actions to help others, practicing impartiality, and being sincere and honest about our own mistakes.  "Knowledge can build a house, but it takes wisdom to build a home." "Without humility, we will believe we are human lie detectors. Only God can know another's person's heart." "Angrily giving someone 'a piece of your mind' doesn't promote peace. Plus you'll wish you had held on to all those pieces of your mind when you get older and can't remember why you walked into a room."  

057 Tips for Improving Relationships -- What Causes Chaos and Confusion in Relationships -- How to Do the Right Thing in Relationships -- James 3

Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares three more tips for managing the tongue based on James 3, including controlling your tongue's power for good, not evil; asking God to tame your tongue and purify its poison; and listening for what your tongue is revealing about your heart's condition.  "Controlling your tongue is always an uphill battle. You can't stop working on it, or you'll go backwards." "Out-of-control tongues can ruin in a moment what you've worked for years to build." "What we say reveals what we are like inside. Our words are a spiritual CT scan."

056 Taming Your Tongue Part 2 -- Tongue Management 102 -- Controlling Your Speech -- James 3

Psychologist Dr. Jennifer Degler shares three helpful tips for managing your tongue based on James 3:1-5, including: Using your tongue to benefit others, not glorify yourself; keeping your tongue in check instead of letting it run wild; and steering your your tongue in a godly direction, not toward destruction. Other topics include how to identify gossip and how your speech can either inflame your heart or direct it toward good. "An unchecked tongue is like running with scissors. Someone's going to get hurt." "If you share the private affairs of others for any other reason than to help or protect someone, you're gossiping--plain and simple."  "The ability to control your mouth is a sure sign of spiritual maturity."  "The inability to control your mouth is a sure sign of spiritual immaturity."  "Before you say "Hi" and let your words flow, THINK:  T   hi   N   K : Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?"

055 Taming Your Tongue Part 1 -- Tongue Management 101 -- James 3

Tips for happy, healthy living from Christian psychologist and life coach, Dr. Jennifer Degler. With her trademark wit and warmth, Dr. Jennifer and her guests provide practical tips for enjoying emotional wellness, rewarding relationships, and satisfying sex. For more info, go to http://jenniferdegler.com.

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Tip Talk with Dr. Jennifer Degler

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