Motherhood is hard. I don’t even have kids and I know that. I have this amazing opportunity to speak with Kiri Honey, Life Coach for Moms whose mission is to inspire women to empower themselves to take the lead in their lives and relationships. To support them to take action that feels aligned and authentic to their wants and needs and on a practical level, help them focus on the key steps needed to rekindle the passion and fun in their relationships. In this episode we hear about Kiri’s experience in being a mom of 2 children, her postpartum depression she didn’t know she had, and how to repair a relationship when an affair occurs — what kind of conversations, honesty and accountability are truly required. We also discuss her new digital series – 30 Interviews from Sex & Intimacy Experts called, “Falling in Love Again, Season 1.” These interviews are FREE until October 17th so sign up NOW. (Click link in show description or IG bio) Kiri’s mission is to have a community of Mother’s who are equipped with the confidence to value themselves and their worth as well as honour their truth are an unshakable force! Helping Mother’s feel valued and part of a team will do wonders for humankind and future generations. The benefit of feeling loved, appreciated and respected has no bounds. Imagine how many families we could keep together if women were equipped with the tools they need to communicate their desires. Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching ____________________ Links we talked about: Falling in Love Again Digital Series for FREEuntil October 17th: https://kirihoney.com/FallingInLoveAgainEvent_Ellen All episodes for Falling in Love Again will release October 18th – Nov 4th, with a Replay Weekend Nov 5-7th Where can people find you? Kiri@kirihoney.com ____________________ About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________

To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon

#41. How intimacy changes after kids, postpartum, and repair after an affair - with Life Coach for Mums, Kiri Honey

  Links we talked about: Find Melanie Cain and her stuff here: https://www.instagram.com/mel.unfiltered/ https://calendly.com/mel_unfiltered/group-transforming-trauma-after-mormonism?month=2021-09 Pleasure Priestess - 1on1 Coaching: https://www.ellenmelon.com/1on1 Workshop & Events: https://www.ellenmelon.com/events ____________________ About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com

#40. Sexual abuse, religious trauma, and her healing journey - PART 2 of 2 - with Faith Deconstruction Coach Melanie Cain

There’s a whole movement we're experiencing when it comes to religious shame and trauma. People are waking up, sick of being oppressed. The controlling nature of purity culture in religious communities has hurt women the most. In this episode Part 1 of 2, we hear a detailed story from Faith Deconstruction Coach, Melanie Cain about her religious upbringing. Trigger warning: This episode excplicitly talks about rape, assault, molestation, and other violence. Please take care of yourself as you listen along. ____________________ Links we talked about: Find Melanie Cain and her stuff here: https://www.instagram.com/mel.unfiltered/ https://calendly.com/mel_unfiltered/group-transforming-trauma-after-mormonism?month=2021-09 Pleasure Priestess - 1on1 Coaching: https://www.ellenmelon.com/1on1 Workshop & Events: https://www.ellenmelon.com/events ____________________ About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________

#39. Sexual abuse, religous trauma, and her healing journey - PART 1 of 2 - with Faith Deconstruction Coach Melanie Cain

Welcome back to Season 3! We are kicking off our first episode of the season with some real talk — like I know any other kind? ;) I’m going to share some findings around my experience with grief, loss, and being alone, aiming at giving you greater awareness into your own process, patterns, behaviors, fears — the uncomfortable stuff. This is the type of stuff we don't really want to look at because it’s painful. I’m going to share about my 48 hour weekend staying at a hermitage retreat center (a Franciscan tradition) in the summer of 2019, and the discomfort of being alone. My failing to grieve my 8 year relationship by covering it up with more relationships, grieving my body after becoming a type 1 diabetic, my experience with ayahuasca (a plant medicine) and what it revealed about grieving, and some readings around the grief and rupture, especially for women. I also offer an embodiment breathing exercise at minute 17:10 so fast-forward through that if that’s not your thing. Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching ____________________ About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com

#38. Grief, loss, and being alone - with Ellen Melon

In this episode, I reveal my journey of becoming what I call a Pleasure Priestess. My journey of being a self-hating, angry, boundary-less woman to a self-compassionate, holistic, spiritually leader for women. Little did I know at the core of this was a very hurt and neglected inner child that needed healing. My holistic journey started in 2008 when I gave up dairy. My spiritual journey started when I was 27 and started thinking about my relationship with alcohol. My healing journey is life long. I’m still on it. Pleasure Priestess 1-on-1 coaching for women who want to develop awareness of their deepest desires so that they can cultivate deeply connected, authentic relationships. Enrollment is open until August 31st for September 1-on-1 coaching! For 3 months, I am your support system for all things internal: Unearthing limiting beliefs, healing childhood wounds, mapping triggers, learning to calm the nervous system, and building new ways of self-talk and communicating with loved ones. First come, first serve basis. There are only 8 spots available. Fill out your application today to ensure your spot: www.ellenmelon.com/1on1 Deadline: August 31st If you’re searching for self-compassion, sober-curious, and seeking pleasure and joy, I’d love to support you on your journey. This program means you’re choosing courage over comfort. This program means to invest in yourself, your growth, your female divinity and royal worthiness. Uncover your power, fall in love with yourself. It is time to remember your worth.

Becoming a Pleasure Priestess - The Journey of Self-Hate to Remembering My Worth

  Links we talked about: Sam Sarver: https://www.instagram.com/noshirt_noshoes_/ Food for Worms: https://www.instagram.com/foodforwormspodcast/ Ellen Melon Events: https://www.ellenmelon.com/events ____________________ Aneros Prostate Massagers:  https://www.aneros.com/#a_aid=ellen 10% OFF with coupon code ELLEN ____________________ About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________  

#37. Fathers with daughters, Catholic shame, and quitting drinking - with Sam from Food for Worms Podcast

In this episode, I speak with Darien Washington, co-host of podcast Food for Worms about a lot of different stuff. We touch on his sexual upbringing – early sexual encounters, period sex, and porn usage. We talk about his work in in the music industry, managing a label during a pandemic. We also talk about childhood memories - being out past dark and getting in trouble. He shares with us his personal insights on being a black man in Minnesota, with all this racism and shootings in the background, and some insights around black cultures’ dismissive approach when it comes to boys feeling their feelings, “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.”  Shame resilience workshop: How to quit taking things personally and calm ourselves down Register here: https://www.ellenmelon.com/events Aneros Prostate Massagers for Male Anal Pleasure: https://www.aneros.com/#a_aid=ellen Use coupon code ELLEN for 10% off your first purchase. Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching

#36. Being raised around women, the fear of STDs, and the erotic nature of Morticia & Gomez Adams - with Darien from Food for Worms Podcast

#35. People-pleasing, self-abandonment, and how to set boundaries - with Aparna Sagaram, LMFT

You know the sensation you get when people discount your feelings? Like when you’re noticing a feeling and someone says, “Just think about something good or happy.” That’s toxic positivity. Being positive has become a new normal for moral correctness and it’s actually causing us harm. Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset. It's a "good vibes only" approach to life. And while there are benefits to being an optimist and engaging in positive thinking, toxic positivity instead rejects difficult emotions in favor of a cheerful, often falsely positive, facade. In this episode, Love Coach, Rosa Maxwell and I speak openly about our behaviors of toxic optimism (a term she coined for herself), some examples of toxic positivity, and why we should show up to our difficult feelings. We discuss a little bit of shadow work integration, and some stuff around “the need to fix” and why we want to take away peoples pain. Rosa shares with us an example in her own relationship of how to redirect your partner when they are “trying to fix you.” Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching ____________________ About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________ Links we talked about: More on Toxic Positivity: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-toxic-positivity-5093958 https://www.rosamaxwell.co.uk/ https://www.instagram.com/rosamaxwell/ ____________________ Sources: Brene Brown, Dare to Lead Podcast, Episode on Emotional Agility by Dr Susan David  

#34. Toxic positivity, toxic optimism, and feeling your feelings - with Love Coach, Rosa Maxwell

How the heck do you make time for sensuality and intimacy in your long-term relationship? In this episode, we are going to get some amazing perspectives from an expert couple... Erwan and Alicia Davon, the best Extended Orgasm teachers in the world and arguably the most comprehensive relationship teachers in the world, have been together for almost 20 years. We’re going to hear from them about their daily sensual orgasm practice, what they teach as pleasure experts, explore feminine/masculine dynamics and polarities, learn what is “extended orgasm,” and what it is like to have kids and make time for pleasure in their long-term partnership. Their education & teachings cover psychological issues, lifestyle design, masculine/feminine dynamics, and sex/orgasm technique. They offer coaching for couples, individuals, and group coaching, both in-person and online. Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching ____________________ About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________ Links we talked about: Meet Alicia and Erwan: https://erwandavon.com/about/ Let's Talk Chemistry Video: https://youtu.be/XASFgI5giDo 5 Keys to a Successful Relationship: https://youtu.be/u1UKQ-X_Qs4 Erwan Davon Teachings # to text to set up Love Life Consultation: 415 308 9580 Link to click to set up Love Life Consultation: https://erwandavon.com/consult/   Links to the next Pleasure Courses in 2021: MAY 15 & 16, 2021 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pleasure-course-unleash-your-relationship-potential-tickets-138473123841?aff=erelpanelorg AUG 14 & 15, 2021 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-pleasure-course-unleash-your-relationship-potential-tickets-153561325057   https://www.instagram.com/erwandavonteachings ____________________ Sources: Masters and Johnson Orgasm Graph

#33. Extended orgasm, feminine/masculine dynamics, and sensual practices from relationship experts - with Alicia and Erwan Davon

#32. On fathers who set bad examples, porn, virginity, and erotic poetry - with Khaliq Sim

What is holistic kink? Conscious sex? Sexual fluidity? Energetics of sex? We’re gonna find out. In this episode, adult performer and coach, Mr. Dex Parker gives us a lesson in what to means to be an authentic sexual being. We’ll discuss his sexual upbringing, how he found himself in making adult content, and male conditioning — what society labels as “masculine” and the pressures that come with it. We unpack stigma and self-pleasure through his article, called, “Sexual Fluidity & Playing with my Butt.” We also speak personally to our own life experiences around love, loss, our kinks, and plant medicine. Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach?: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching ____________________ About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________ Links we talked about: Sexual Fluidity & Playing with my Butt — A personal Memoir of Sexual Emancipation: https://medium.com/@MrDexParker/sexual-fluidity-playing-with-my-butt-a-personal-memoir-of-sexual-emancipation-49b33f6e4b1e https://www.instagram.com/mrdexparker/ https://linktr.ee/Mrdexparker www.mrdexparker.com ____________________ Sources: NONE

#31. Holistic kink and conscious sex - with Mr. Dex Parker

How do you talk to your kids about sex? One conversation and done? Or start to lay bread crumbs from when they are young all the way to adolescence? Natajsa Visser has some great solutions and frameworks to help parents get some perspective on the topic. In this episode, we’ll discuss how her parents talked to her about sex – growing up in a religious household – how to approach “the talk” targeting mistakes parents should avoid, what age should your child be dating, how to define love, and hard conversations around pornography and technology — even what to do if your child is sexting.  This was a really eye-opening conversation for me, shining a light on my sexual behavior as a teenager. I realized that a lot of my actions came from a place of seeking external validation and the approval of others. Again, it all comes down to loving yourself. At the same time, I really liked pursuing erotic experiences when I felt like I was providing and guiding the experience. #ControlFreak Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching   ____________________ About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________ Links we talked about: Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNKcBZmGBJrr4aTf1r__MJA Coaching Program, Let’S Explain: https://letsexplain.org/ Natasja's Email: natasja@letsexplain.org ____________________ Sources: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNKcBZmGBJrr4aTf1r__MJA ____________________

#30. How to set the stage and actively engage your kids in “the sex talk” - with Natajsa Visser

What influences someone to become a Female Dominatrix? What does it look like in the room with Female Dominatrix? How does this career influence your personal life? In this episode Goddess Aviva, NYC Lifestyle Female Dominatrix, will tell us all about her career in sex work for the past 6 years. We’ll hear about her sexual upbringing (how was sex talked about in the home, at school, among peers), the stigma of sex work — how this industry is still looked down upon — and having worked with so many men, Goddess Aviva’s insights on how men are seriously sexually repressed, perhaps just as much as women. Aneros Prostate Massagers: https://www.aneros.com/#a_aid=ellenmelon Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching ____________________ About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________ Links we talked about: How to serve/contact Goddess Aviva, & where to find her goodies: Website: http://GoddessAviva.com Clips: http://AvivaAddict.com Onlyfans: http://AvivaFan.Club AVN: http://WorshipAviva.com Niteflirt: http://CallAviva.com Text/Call: http://Sextpanther.com/Goddess-Aviva ____________________ Sources: N/A

#29. Inside the life of a Female Dominatrix in NYC - with Goddess Aviva

#28. Male bashing and how we’re socialized - with Ellen Melon

Interviews, discussions and storytelling around sex, relationships, and intimacy: “The Sex-Ed Curriculum You Never Had.” A podcast for adults who need help building language in how they talk about sex with partners and children, “To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon” offers communication tools and new ideas around intimacy, anatomy, and relationships. Sex is something most of us do it yet find it difficult to talk about. Ellen Melon is enhancing the language and conversation around sex while giving communities the courage to speak up and ask questions.

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