Most polyamorous couples want to find compersion… to be really, truly happy when your partner finds joy in another relationship And yet, while most polyamorous folks WANT compersion, the way they try to find it is completely wrong. So they never get it. And they stay stuck in jealousy, anger, and resentment. Want to know the secret to finding compersion in your relationships?

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Finding Compersion In Polyamory

When you’re exploring non-monogamy, it’s common to run into rough patches along the way. And when that happens, you might wonder: “Should we close the relationship? Should we stop being non-monogamous? Should we go back to it just being us?" Here’s the answer.

Closing an Open Relationship

Are you playing whack-a-mole in your polyamorous relationships? A problem pops up. You knock it down. It’s immediately replaced by a different problem. And you never actually get to that peaceful, passionate, secure relationship you’re working towards. That sucks. So how can you stop playing the game and build the relationship of your dreams?

Coming Out as Polyamorous

Polyamory Whack-a-Mole

If you’re getting started with polyamory, then you probably have a burning question: Does polyamory work??? Well, it’s entirely possible to build a thriving non-monogamous relationship. But there are a lot more ways to fail and blow up your existing relationship. Here’s what you should know if you’re getting started with non-monogamy.

Getting Started With Polyamory

Are you feeling resentful of your partner(s)? Even a little bit? If so, stop whatever you’re doing and listen to this episode.

#131: 3 Steps to Solve Resentment

What would it be like to completely reset your relationship? To have, as we teach our clients, a "day zero?" To put the arguments and history behind you and to move forward together as a team? That's exactly what Chris and Lelly did. They had patterns that had been festering in their relationship for YEARS. But now they have FINALLY put the past behind them. And they're approaching all their challenges—polyamory, children, house fires, COVID—as a team. Here’s how they did it.

#130: Chris & Lelly

Healthy agreements in non-monogamous relationships are essential. But what do you do when they are not working? Here’s why your agreements aren’t working, and what you need to do about it.

#129: Why Your Agreements Aren’t Working

It's all good and well to talk about consensual non-monogamy... But what if you've been cheating? How do you tell your partner? How do you rebuild the relationship after you've come clean? If you've been wanting to move into honesty but are terrified about what comes next, this episode is for you.

#128: What If I’m Cheating

When your relationship isn't going well, the first thing people do is spend more time together. But if you're like most people, you likely found that more time together just means more time to argue. More time to sit across the room from each other engrossed in your phone. More time to reflect on how much spending time together SUCKS. Here’s why “spend more time together'' is horrible advice, and what you should do instead.

#127: “Spend More Time Together” is Awful Advice

When your partner discovers they’re non-monogamous after you’ve been together since high school? That's tough. But what about when it’s four years later, you thought it was over... and now your partner has fallen for someone? That can seem impossible. Here’s how David and Brandy overcame that barrier and got back to the thriving relationship they used to have.

#126: David and Brandy

How do you deal with jealousy in a new relationship? How do you make Don’t Ask Don’t Tell (DADT) work? What do you do when your partner hates your other partner? In today's episode, we answer these questions and more.

#125: DADT, Metamour Hate, and Quality Time

Today we're talking about five reasons polyamory can be beautiful... and why you should never accept anything less.

#124: 5 Reasons Polyamory Is Beautiful

Here's the cold, hard truth that all non-monogamous folks in struggling relationships need to hear: Waiting for your partner to be “ready” to work on your relationship is a complete waste of time. It might even be the thing that destroys your relationship. And you don’t have to believe me, check out this interview with our client Julianna! When Julianna came to us, her relationship. had taken her to a dark place. She wasn’t eating. Wasn’t sleeping. Was falling behind at work. Now, her relationship is loving and connected. And she’s thriving in EVERY aspect of life. And... she rebuilt her relationship WITHOUT her partner doing the work! Want to know how she did it? Listen to this episode.

#123: Julianna’s Interview

Your partner has it BAD! They met someone new a few months ago, and are head over heels. The sparks are flying. The sex is hot. It seems like they're spending every spare moment texting. Life is good. Well, life is good for THEM. For you, not so much. In fact, that feeling of compersion that you strive for? It's nowhere to be found. You can't seem to get enough time with your partner. When you do finally have some time together, they're miles away. You see the little touches or hear them talk about how passionate things are and wonder... Why can't YOU have that?  And you might even be wondering... are you going to be left behind? Sound familiar? Want to know what to do?  Listen to this episode. Our free Facebook Community for non-monogamous folksBook a free breakthrough call

#122: Your partner is in NRE… What do you do?

Relationship advice for polyamorous and kinky folks

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