Check out our sponsor:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Building a successful business takes confidence and some level of skill no matter who you are. As women, there are sets of challenges we face that have to become part of an intentional way through to success. Natalie Ellis and Danielle Canty are the genius inspiration, muscle and energy behind the infamous online community for ambitious women, BossBabe. Even after building an 8-figure business they share how imposter syndrome is still something to be dealt with at every level of success. They share the lessons and wisdom they’ve found along their journey and explain how to start having the right conversations to change your upper limits and reimagine what is possible. This episode is about having the understanding of the many forms of confidence it takes to be a successful entrepreneur and a Badass BossBabe!   SHOW NOTES:   Imposter Syndrome | Why imposter syndrome meets you at every level of success [0:35] Mindset | What it looks like being all in, getting resourceful, & deciding where to go [6:54] Competence | Finding confidence in what’s unknown through growing competence [9:06] Capabilities | How women doubt themselves more and ways to have more confidence [12:39] Confidence | Recognizing what your good at and celebrating yourself and others [14:32] Receiving | People struggling to receive compliments without deflecting back [19:26] Recognition | Why being recognized is important and can create positive spiral [22:28] Communication | Being open to conversation, being more efficient, avoiding triggers [25:19] Managing Emotions | Advice to manage emotions in business & personal relationships [29:15] Triggered | Being triggered and learning to work through it and not taking feeling as truth [34:33] Lifestyle | How lifestyle decisions impact confidence, productivity, and your responsibility [37:00] F.O.M.O. | Pursuing your goals and sticking to your decisions over what you miss [46:03] Money Talk | Why women are uncomfortable talking about money & the need for more [51:04] Upper Limit | Pushing through upper limits to find success without overwhelm [1:02:09]   QUOTES:   “Give yourself a reality check and do it anyway. There really is nothing that is going to set you up for success more than just being willing to do something, getting resourceful, leaving your excuses at the door and not waiting for anything to be perfect.” Natalie Ellis [1:28]   “A lot of my imposter syndrome was doing the things that I actually wanted to do, and the thought of not doing them then became worse or like the thought of not achieving the goals became worse than the imposter syndrome.” Danielle Canty [3:09]   “You have to own how you're feeling. So that you can start addressing it head on.” Danielle Canty [5:51]   “If you're all in with something, you get resourceful. I can't say that enough, getting resourceful being the kind of person that just figures it out.” Natalie Ellis [7:31]   “When you look at people who are famous or experts in the industry, they start at nowhere, like they started at the beginning to” Danielle Canty [12:17]   “The people around me that actually matter will celebrate that I'm celebrating myself. And if they don't, I can't be around them.” Natalie Ellis [15:54]   “If you struggle to receive, it's actually very hard, [...] like you actually repel that too, because you're just not good at receiving anything: knowledge, money, love any of it.” Danielle Canty [21:18]   “You have to take responsibility for your words, your actions, everything. If you want to change your life, if you want to do something new, if you want to, if you don't like the situation, you have to take responsibility.” Danielle Canty [27:17]   “Your only success was going to be mentally and physically capable of being.” Danielle Canty [39:16]   “I don't have FOMO so much because whatever I'm missing out on is a choice.” Natalie Ellis [46:54]   “Choosing an easy life now leads to a harder life later. Choosing a hard life now leads to an easy life later.” Danielle Canty [50:38]   “If women are serious about building wealth it's important to really acknowledge that, and claim that, and not be ashamed to talk about it.” Natalie Ellis [53:40]   “You get to change your narrative around money, you get to learn about money, and you get to understand how other people use money is part of the process.” Danielle Canty [55:39]     Follow Natalie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamnatalie   Follow Danielle Canty: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellecanty/     Follow Boss Babes: Website: https://bossbabe.com/ Podcast: https://bossbabe.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bossbabe.inc/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/teambossbabe/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6h1nurnE-9auq41a5oiPnA

Women of Impact

How to BEAT Imposter Syndrome and Feel WORTHY | Danielle Canty & Natalie Ellis on Women of Impact

This episode is brought to you by Evy's new course Becoming Bulletproof: How To Read People And Detect Deception. Go to http://Bulletproof.ImpactTheory.com to learn more.   Though we all know how important communication is for literally every relationship you have, very few have taken the time to learn how to do it well. When communication is not done well, relationships suffer, individuals suffer and the consequences can be high stakes.   If there’s any chance of your communication needing improvement, you’re in the right place. Grab and pen and paper, you’ll want to take notes and add this to your favorite playlist to listen to again. Evy Poumpouras is a former secret service agent and an Unstoppable Badass, here to lay out everything you need to know about communication alongside Unstoppable Badass, Lisa Bilyeu. Spoiler Alert! This is about you, and the tactics you can learn and practice to improve your communication skills to build rapport. It’s not about what the other person should do.   Unstoppable Women of Impact Tips: ● Build rapport ● Tell the other person exactly what you’re looking for   Evy’s Strategies for Building Rapport 1. Acceptance: recognize what is being said without trying to change or protest it. 2. Adaptability: able to adjust to new conditions or circumstances. 3. Autonomy: having the capacity to make informed and uncoerced decisions. 4. Empathy: ability to see from the other person’s perspective   Unstoppable Communication Questions to Ask: ● Who are you speaking to? ● Who is that person? ● How do I speak to this person? ● What is your goal and what is the best way for you to achieve that goal?   Unstoppable Key Terms: Rapport: The ability to understand and communicate with people Mirroring: When one person imitates how the person across moves, talks or acts Identify Based Motivation: Where perception of self motivates you to take action toward a goal Instrumental Based Motivation: The end state is what’s motivating the person to take action Relational Motivation: The way that two or more people are connected   Order Evy Poumpouras’ book, Becoming Bulletproof: https://amzn.to/3hDQ4e4   SHOW NOTES:   Build Rapport | Eva on why established rapport is a ping pong match for communication [0:45] Strategies | 4 ways to build rapport and keep people talking and communicating [1:41] Using Strategies | Example for using these strategies with close relationships & situations [8:07] Building Blocks | How building rapport establishes connection, trust and faith [10:23] Close Relationships | Handling rapport and these strategies with close family & friends  [13:28] Being Adaptable | Not being so rigid, allowing people the space y build rapport [16:15] Lisa’s Rapport | Lisa shares behind the scenes ways that she builds rapport with guests [17:51] Get In Synch | Identity motivation vs instrumental motivation & getting to cooperation [19:26] Cooperative Zone | When you find a way to move the conversation forward together [26:53] Motivation | Eva explains how to use base motivations to get in synch and adapt [33:20] Identity Vs. Instrumental | Lisa and Eva showing you how it’s done [34:03] Choose Your Words Thoughtfully | Define words that you use, comply vs. resist [35:40] ‘No’ | Improving ways that you say no with compassion and without being harsh [41:38] ‘Sorry’ | Ways that language diminishes you when you apologize for everything [43:13] Word Play | How words land with people: powerful, shut people down, provoke reaction [46:25] Word Challenge | Lisa & Eva share how different words make them feel [47:13]   QUOTES:   “When it comes to communication, rapport is king. When you have rapport you have trust. When you have trust you have cooperation.” Evy Poumpouras [0:48]   “I have someone who’s giving me no trust, and I want to move that relationship forward, I do it through rapport.” Evy Poumpouras [8:00]   “People don’t remember what you say to them, what people remember is how you make them feel.” Evy Poumpouras [26:23]   “Rather than me trying to change you, I’m going to adapt to you.” Evy Poumpouras [29:23]   “Language can also diminish you and there are some people who their language is littered with, ‘I’m sorry’ and I think when you use that language when it lands on that person, it lands in a negative way for you.” Evy Poumpouras [43:39]   Follow Evy Poumpouras: Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/

Former Secret Service Agent Shows You How to Find Your Voice, SPEAK UP, & Communicate Well

Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Girls begin going through puberty as early as 8 years old. From the moment you become aware of your body and people begin commenting on your changes, shame, discomfort, and confusion begin to settle in. While we all settle into our bodies in different ways and at different ages, the harsh reality is that 53% of American girls are not happy with their bodies by 13 years of age and by 17 the amount of unhappy girls grows to 78%! Behind the onslaught of body image issues and societal pressures that mark the barometer of where you fall on the ‘acceptance meter,’ are a mounting number of quietly misdiagnosed hormonal issues. Dr. Sara Gottefried is a Harvard and M.I.T. graduate, medical physician, and NY Times bestselling author of, The Hormone Cure. She shines light on the issues women are having with being properly diagnosed, treated and even heard on health issues that have been sold as not being related. As females, the number of factors that impact our hormones, our moods, our ability to function and feel like we have worth and value is mind-blowing. Dr. Gottfried is sharing some of the issues, their sources, how to resolve them and most importantly how to speak up confidently for yourself. She’s debunking myths about what’s the best diet for you and misconceptions around the “man hormone” testosterone and why it’s so critical for female health.   “Genetics loads the gun and food pulls the trigger”   SHOW NOTES:   Misconceptions | Ways women can take ownership of their health and transparent risks [0:51] Testosterone | Why testosterone can cause problems with confidence and empowerment [4:15] Hormones | Identifying hormonal issues, and why cortisol is a big concern to watch for [7:13] Precision Medicine | How it starts with diet, lifestyle, & nutrition observed with wearables [13:34] Average Treatment | Dr. Gottfried shares reality of how medicine for the average works [16:58] After 40 | How hormonal changes affect women and allows us to speak our truth more [20:35] Food Plan | How to use elimination diet to assess how food is impacting your health,  [24:15] Eating for Hormones | Connecting the dots between your food, hormones and mood [32:05] Body Messages | Stop ignoring the messages your body is sending you  [38:33] Antibiotics | The havoc antibiotics caused Dr. Gottfried’s microbiome, changing it by 87% [43:28] Feeling Shame | How shame is holding you back from being honest about your health [46:29] Confidence | Feeling okay with challenging your doctor and getting hormones checked [52:38] Fertility Value | Women not given full evaluation and tests based on not wanting kids [54:52] Gut Related | Dr Gottfried explains why gut health has everything to do with estrogen [57:10] Nutrigenomics | How genetics predict food and nutrient response to gluten, salt, caffeine [58:30]   QUOTES:   “Whatever you're experiencing, is your truth, and you don't need a doctor to validate that for you.”  [2:35]   “When it comes to your hormones. Your food is the backbone of the hormones that you make.” [32:10]   “What is a perfect meal for you today might be different than 10 years ago might be different than five years from now.” [36:32]   “Women have such clear messages about what's going on in their body, and yet were invalidated when we bring them to our doctors.” [38:56]   “It is normal for women to be moody. I just want to normalize that right now, that is totally cool, like that is our superpower to use our moodiness to use our willingness to speak our truth...” [47:56]   “A big part of stepping into our power is not just not allowing a physician to disrespect you, but to not do it to yourself, like not reinforce the habit by putting up with it.” [54:11]   “Medicine is set up to reinforce fertility in women.” [55:34]   “Genetics is part of the story. Environment is a bigger part of the story. So, the way that we sometimes think of it is that genetics loads the gun, but environment pulls the trigger.” [1:01:27]   “So much It is under your control the choices you make with food, the time that you go to bed tonight, the amount of morning sun that you get the, the people that you feed yourself with…” [1:04:59]   Follow Sara Gottfried: Website: https://www.saragottfriedmd.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrGottfried Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saragottfriedmd/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrGottfried/ LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/drgottfried/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrGottfried

Harvard Doctor on How to BALANCE Your Hormones & Take Back CONTROL of Your Emotions | Sara Gottfried

Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Boundaries don’t push people away, they can actually make relationships closer. Anna Yusim says, “the stronger your boundaries, the closer you can get to somebody.” Have you ever stopped to think about boundaries in that way? I’m sure many of you, myself included, are guilty of thinking if we have stronger boundaries we’ll end up pushing people away. The fear we face of disappointing people or somehow offending them can easily keep us stuck in a space of not honoring ourselves. This episode is for all the strong women (even if you don’t feel strong every day) that need a little more assurance that it’s not only okay to have boundaries, but it’s essential to the health of your relationships and critical for your own mental health. Start standing up for yourself (no one else can) and prioritize you, your needs, and what matters for you to flourish in the life you choose to live.   SHOW NOTES:   Tip #1 | Communicate Your Boundary [0:34] Tip #2 | Set Boundaries with Those Close to You [5:34] Tip #3 | Know Who’s In Your Corner [14:03] Tip #4 | Get Clear on Your Priorities [18:30] Tip #5 | Separate work from your personal life [22:20] Tip #6 | Stand up for yourself [27:30] Tip #7 | Decide if the boundary is worth breaking [32:15]   QUOTES:   “A lot of times it means them changing, it means them experiencing you differently. It might mean them not having that role that used to play for them performed anymore, and they might need to find somewhere else to go with that need.” Nicole Lepera [2:31]   “To know your own boundaries, you have to be comfortable enough with yourself to really feel in real time what you're comfortable doing versus not.” Anna Yusim [6:01]   “Not every person in your family can help you promote growth, and to create an environment for you to incubate hope some people are blowing your candle out while you're trying to get the flame going” Sara Jakes Roberts [14:20]   “What I do need to carefully covet and protect is my time because I can't get more of that.” Chalene Johnson [22:06]   “Assertive is clearly stating what you want or need, being mindful of your tone, and trying to say it in the right setting.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [28:46]   “If you're trying to turn these healthy habits into a lifestyle, you have to learn how to hold your boundaries in those social situations.” Melissa Urban [35:03]   “There's no guilt, there's no shame, there's a consequence, and the only person who can decide at that consequences worth it is you” Melissa Urban [37:34]   Follow Anna Yusim: https://www.annayusim.com/ Follow Sara Jakes Roberts: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ Follow Chalene Johnson: https://www.chalenejohnson.com/ Follow Nicole Lepera: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ Follow Natalie Ellis: https://bossbabe.com/ Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Follow Melissa Urban: https://whole30.com/  

How to STOP Being A Pushover, Set Boundaries and Stand Your GROUND!

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How to CONTROL Your Emotions When Feeling TRIGGERED | Lisa Bilyeu

Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. At what age did you become aware of your body? How long after becoming aware of your body did you start to feel shame or embarrassment? When your walking down the street, sitting in a class, at work, or scrolling through social media, everywhere you look, consciously or unconsciously you are silently judging others and judging yourself. Maybe you think to yourself, ‘she’s so pretty,’ ‘at least I have more curves than her,’ or ‘she’s too skinny (or fat).’ From Khloe Kardashian to Billie Eilish, from your grandmother to your best friend and the last woman you saw today, everyone seems to be struggling with body image, self-love and confidence. Emme, the first plus-size supermodel that flipped modeling industry standards for how thick or thin is actually beautiful, joins Lisa and discusses her experience getting into modeling and on her first big photo shoot, being called a ‘fatty’.Emme is an international ambassador and champion for changing beauty standards to help “real” women embrace and love the body they have. She is speaking out against unrealistic standards and talking about leveling up your life, your vibe, your passion and purpose for living.   For more information on eating disorders and body image issues, Emme highly recommends: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/   SHOW NOTES:   Big Photo Shoot | Photographer refuses to work with Emme. This was her response [0:31] Not About Me | Emme on why it's more about where the other person is coming from [4:31] Fear | Identifying when people are coming at you from a place of fear and bullying [7:45] Body Dysmorphia | Think about what your relationship is with food and view of self [8:53] Comparison | Emme on why comparison is problem, know what’s right for you first [12:11] Solutions | Limiting social media, knowing yourself and connecting to nature is a start [15:00] Gratitude | Reframing gratitude and having appreciation for your body and soul [19:15] Confident | Emme shares how she found confidence in spite of body shaming at home [22:48] Empowered | You choose your journey and how you decide to feel, it’s empowerment [29:51] Self Talk | How to talk to yourself & counter negative self talk, you’re a work in progress [33:38] Self Acceptance | Love yourself and be free with who you are in the present moment [35:33] Passion |How to live a full with joy and a meaningful life with purpose on purpose [38:36]   QUOTES:   “If I let one person trip me off of my game, that's my fault. [...] you don't know where people come from with their own ideas of body image” [3:31]   “The goal is always to be the master of your own universe” [10:49]   “It touches me deeply when you can really get into that place of gratitude, and thankfulness when it's all hairy and crazy all around you and you can save yourself” [19:15]   “You learn and then you go forward, and it's like life was presenting me with opportunities to get beyond that, but not to forget it.” [27:04]   “Set yourself free to be able to to be okay with just exactly who you are in this present moment. Not a second later. Not a second from before, but right here. And now.” [35:35]   “go for what really gets you so excited that [...] gets you so excited that when you talk about it and when you're engaged with it, that you feel it all throughout your body and you know that that moment of truth is real.” [39:41]   “Go for what really gets you so excited that I'm goosebumps and pumps all over gets you so excited that when you talk about it and when you're engaged with it, that you feel it all throughout your body and you know that that moment of time Truth is real.”   Follow Emme: Website: https://www.emmestyle.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/supermodelemme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theofficialemme/?hl=en

How to Accept Your Flaws, SILENCE the Haters, and Love Yourself to the Fullest | Emme

This episode is brought to you by Evy's new course Becoming Bulletproof: How To Read People And Detect Deception. Go to Bulletproof.ImpactTheory.com to learn more.   In this special episode Lisa and Evy tag team and bring you into their world of confidence and share all the tips you need to walk into your day with the most confidence. As Lisa shares, competence is confidence, and this episode is about empowering women to become more confident and learn what it means to be unstoppable.   Former Secret Service Agent and friend of the show, Evy Poumpouras, never disappoints and challenges you to reflect on all that you’ve overcome and everything you’ve accomplished to give your confidence an immediate boost. Think about your daily habits and examine if those habits are building your confidence or diminishing your confidence.   TIPS FROM THIS EPISODE: ● Don’t be afraid to raise your voice ● Be proactive to avoid being reactive ● Use clothes to feel confident and also affect how others perceive you ● Don’t let people's negative perception of you affect how you present yourself ● Being authentic to yourself helps you feel grounded and confident ● Shift and adapt to what you are doing and how you feel   A CHALLENGE FROM EVY: Write a list of the greatest accomplishments and difficulties you’re overcome.   SOMETHING TO TRY ASAP FROM LISA: Put on your best outfit and say out loud, ‘I got this,’ ‘I’m confident,’ ‘I’m unstoppable!”   Order Evy Poumpouras’ book, Becoming Bulletproof: https://amzn.to/3hDQ4e4   SHOW NOTES:   Confident Woman | How to step into a space with comfort of being woman not stereotype [0:50] Watch Self Talk | Flip negative voices so you are not tearing yourself down with words [4:00] Confident Now | Looking at your accomplishments can help boost your confidence now [11:00] The Inner Voice | Listen in on the inner voice Lisa and Evy use to push through training [14:15] Over Prepare | How preparation is the secret to confidence, over preparing is peace [15:18] Proactive | The value of having a plan in place, not being reactive, just being prepared [21:20] Lisa’s Prep | Quick peak into how Lisa prepares for another amazing interview [25:54] Look Confident | What you wear has an effect on the way you act & feel about yourself [27:07] Identity | Remaining confident and not having your identity tied solely to how you look [37:17] Camera Ready | Behind the scenes of how Evy and Lisa get ready to show up confident [42:24]         QUOTES:   “Confidence is not like genetics, you either have it or you don’t. I really think it’s like a skill you cultivate [...] I think you build it by gaining competence.” Lisa Bilyeu [6:07]   “50% is what the world does to you but 50% is you. This you can manage, and so if you want to be those things and you want to change those things, it’s something you can do.” Evy Poumpouras [13:21]   “When I’m over prepared, it’s one less thing I have to worry about.” Evy Poumpouras [16:36]   “I am proactive at prepare, prepare, so that when things happen I am less reactive. When you’re reactive you’re sloppy, you’re emotional, you’re in that moment, you’re going to make mistakes, you’re not sure.” Evy Poumpouras [23:20]   “We shift and adapt to how we’re feeling in that moment to what we’re doing, or maybe what we’re trying to feel.” Evy Poumpouras [39:41]   Follow Evy Poumpouras:   Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/   Check out our AMAZING theme song by Lorenzo Taft here: https://open.spotify.com/album/12AV0W5m9SyUBE7GG6Liw8?si=LAp9IIl1TzSgAUWIZ5tA4Q&dl_branch=1

Former Secret Service Agent Shows You How to Get CONFIDENT, Beat Your INSECURITIES & OVERCOME Fear

Check out our sponsor:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! So, you’re up early, get the kids ready (or not), grab a coffee and you’re running out the door to start another- busy day. The problem is everyday is a busy day, and the reality is that a majority of women (and men too) never feel like there are enough hours in the day. This leads to more stress and more anxiety. Add to all this the fact that in 2020 it was estimated the average person was spending almost 2 and a half hours on social media every day. This would be okay, except that Dr. Wendy Suzki points out that continuous exposure to news and social media is contributing heavily to anxiety and stress. According to Dr. Wendy, there are healthy levels of stress you need in your life, and there are detrimental levels of stress and anxiety that do you no favors. So how do you cope with all the added stress? Avoid it? Pretend it’s not a thing, or even worse, spiral out of control ? There are free, simple, very portable and easy ways to effectively lower levels of “everyday stress and anxiety.” Dr. Wendy Suzuki is a Neuroscientist and Psychology professor that brings movement, joy and fun into brain science. This episode is best listened to before your next anxious situation or immediately after if it’s too late.   Order Dr. Wendy’s new book, Good Anxiety, Harnessing the Power of The Most Misunderstood Emotion: https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1982170735?tag=simonsayscom   SHOW NOTES:   Value of Anxiety | Dr. Wendy on why anxiety is a protective emotion that is really valuable [0:41] Identify Anxiety | Dr. Wendy explains how anxiety shows up and useful tips to calm down [4:30] Self-Reflection | How to productively reflect on your anxiety to rebalance with positivity [8:40] Connection to Smell | Dr. Wendy explains why smell is so effective conditioning memory [10:51] Foolish Reframing | Why calling failure a failure is healthier than pretending you don’t [17:10] ‘What If’ Playlist | Dr. Wendy explains how to turn worry into action with a positive effect [25:44] Social Stress| Being prepared for social situations and the danger loneliness is shocking [29:32] Get Moving | Dr. Wendy on power of movement with verbal information you can do now [34:45] 5 Points in Anxiety | 5 points to help emotionally regulate and get out of anxiety [36:24] Change Responses | Dr. Wendy explains why your brain is capable of change for better [39:42] Power Reminders | What you remind yourself matters and your brain can learn anything [41:44]   QUOTES:   “I like to call a big failure, a big failure. And I think it's healthy, to be able to, to be able to admit that and to learn from it, because everybody has failures.” [18:34]   “Negative emotions, like embarrassment and fear and worry, are very useful for us.” [19:02]   “We are human, we have this whole array of emotions for a reason, and the reason for those negative emotions is to help us learn, help us learn about ourselves, help us motivate ourselves.” [20:00]   “It helped me realize how much wisdom comes from great pain.” [23:24]   “Just because that scary person or that scary question is there doesn't mean you have to go there. You can tactfully and thoughtfully avoid that to decrease your anxiety.” [38:06]   “The human brain is the most powerful structure known to humankind, and it was designed to learn.” [43:11]   “You can train your brain to learn anything. If you remember that. That is the best mindset that you can go into life with.” [43:58]     Follow Dr. Wendy Suzuki: Website: https://www.wendysuzuki.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/wasuzuki Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.suzuki/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WendyASuzuki/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-suzuki-5a509411/  

Neuroscientist Shows You HOW TO STOP Stress, Anxiety and NEGATIVE Emotions In Their Tracks

Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. How many times have you come across that person that really sparks your interest and makes you want to get serious? What about that moment when you find out they’re not ready for a serious relationship, they just want to have fun, or go with the flow and see where things go. If you’re honest, how many mental gymnastics have you gone through to continue pursuing a relationship like that? You know they don’t want the same level of commitment, but you just feel like, ‘if only I hang in there long enough…’ Matthew Hussey is no stranger to Women of Impact and in this episode he’s addressing everything you need to know about commitment and why trying to commit and stick it out with someone who’s already told you they aren’t ready is not only foolish, but it’s high stakes and a total waste of your time. Matthew is the relationship expert many of you already know and love, but get ready because in this episode he’s going off to let you know how serious he is about the time you’re wasting on people that just don’t want a relationship. It’s hard truth ladies, but it’s a powerful dose of medicine you may need right now.   Make sure to check out this FREE 30 Day Challenge from Matthew Hussey to build confidence: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/challenge/   SHOW NOTES:   Committing | How dating apps and social media has made fear of commitment worse [0:59] Giving Yourself | Why it’s only painful in the wrong hands and choosing who to give to [6:36] Conditional Love | The costs involved with committing and how to assess what’s worthy [10:04] Energy Management | Protecting yourself from dating burnout from misplaced energy [13:50] Dating History | When a person’s character is questionable from their relationship history [19:00] Trust Yourself | Trust your gut and rely on people around you to make accurate decisions [24:16] Validation | Engineering answers you want to hear and not being honest about yourself [29:16] Communication | The purpose is making progress through the friction to get closer [32:39] Timing | Staying with someone not ready stunts their growth and wastes your time [41:00] Not Ready | When someone says they’re not ready what’s the best way to proceed [47:11 High Stakes | Why it’s arrogant to think you can change someone to want a relationship [50:15]   QUOTES:   “When we're away from someone and we're investing in them through our thoughts. Even if it's not visible to them, we're investing psychologically in the situation.” [3:10]   “Take the beauty in what you gave, and know that in the right hands, that remains a beautiful thing.” [7:49]   “The danger is if we say giving equals pain. No, giving doesn't equal pain. Ignoring things, ignoring the fact that I'm giving to the wrong person equals pain.” [8:29]   “Romantic relationships are conditional, because who would want to be in a relationship long term with someone who never gave back?” [9:56]   “Your game is not to worry about someone else. Your game is energy management for yourself.” [13:50]   “I have a limited amount of energy. Not everyone can have it. And my heart isn't something I give. It's a house that I invite people into.” [14:36]   “Character is something that you see in people's actions every day. It's not in a grand gesture. It's what behavior Am I seeing from this person every day” [20:40]   “On a first date, your job is not to be a human lie detector. Your job is to see if what they're saying aligns with the kind of person you're seeing in front of you.” [24:19]   “Every time we're hung up on a mistake we've made or something someone else has done, or whatever we're not, we're not living in the moment of what can be made beautiful now.” [40:16]   “The fallacy is that, because I've invested this much time and energy, I now have to make it work. That is the easiest way to throw away your life.” [43:02]   “Assuming that the relationship that evolves is going to fit the template that you want for somebody else, that's fantasy” [52:40]   “You have all this pain staying here anyway. So at least have the pain that's a question mark. This pain is a period, it's not a question mark. At least leaving means possibility.” [56:34]   Follow Matthew Hussey: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/ Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/  

Relationship Expert REVEALS Why He’s NOT READY to COMMIT & What You NEED Know | Matthew Hussey

Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Real Good Foods: Click the link for $25 OFF any order of $25 or more! https://realgoodfoods.com/discount/WOMENOFIMPACT In what ways did last year’s pandemic impact you as an individual? Yes, it was disruptive to all of our daily lives, routines, and relationships, but what fundamentally changed about you as a person? Mel Robbins, author of the 5 Second Rule, joins Lisa for the first time on Women of Impact, and she came in so real, so raw and so authentic to her truth, her failures and how much she uncovered and found unhinged in her own life from the pandemic. If you’ve been dealing with any kind of self-doubt or if you’ve ever stood eye to eye with yourself in the mirror and felt disappointed, disconnected or unworthy this interview is going to speak straight to your core. Mel is sharing the power she found in giving herself a simple high and why this simple gesture that packs so much meaning may be the catalyst you need to start connecting with yourself again and start dealing with the truths and pain we’ve all ran from at some time or another. Maybe you’re still running. If you are, sit down, catch your breath, and dare to see yourself in a new light today. Order Mel’s new book, The High 5 Habit: https://www.amazon.com/High-Habit-Take-Control-Simple-ebook/dp/B096JQSWQ6   SHOW NOTES: The Imposter | Mel exposes feeling like a total failure leading up to her Impact Theory interview High 5 Attitude | How Mel developed a high five attitude in the middle of perceived failure Pursue Dreams | What happens when something becomes so important to you, it takes over High 5 Habit | How Mel formed the high habit standing in her bathroom on a bad day Mirror Moments | Mel breaks down the power of taking a moment in the mirror in the mornings Celebration | Mel exposes how self validation and celebration is hard wired & not to be denied Put Yourself 1st | How to acknowledge your own existence by fulfilling your own needs R.A.S. | Mel explains the reticular activity system as a hair net and a filter you control Visualization | Mel breaks down why visualizing the suck part of the process is more effective Responsibility | Mel on how you are your own responsibility and that’s liberating power High 5 Your Heart | Mel breaks down why placing your hands on your heart helps anxiety Stop Running | How being busy is a distraction from the need to face yourself, slow down! Self Relationship | Mel on the importance of loving and respecting yourself first regardless Failing to Win | Mel gives the difference between loser mentality and winning mentality Look Forward | Mel shares why you have to look at the best days ahead not what past   QUOTES: “Your feelings are going to rise and they're going to fall, and feeling nervous and feeling scared and feeling on edge and imposter syndrome, it's all normal stuff. You’ve got to develop the ability to feel all that stuff, have your cheeks be as red as a baboon’s butt, and walk out there and do it anyway.”   “You need celebration and support so that you can do those things that you deserve and you want in your life.”   “When you realize you can change the filter in your mind, at any time, you can silence the bullshit you've been saying to yourself.”   “Instead of visualizing the finish line, which is what we all want to jump to in life, right? Visualize all the crappy, horrible things you have to do, in order to get to the finish line. [...] If you just visualize the good stuff, you are not preparing yourself to do the work that it takes to get that stuff.”   “You are not responsible for the shit that was done to you. Period. You survived it, which shows you're worth celebrating, but you are responsible for healing, for changing and for who you become next.”   “Know that no matter what, you are going to be okay. Because you have your own back.”   “Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of every single relationship that you have. If you don't love and respect yourself, how on earth are you going to do that for other people?”   “At any moment, you can choose to change, but no one's going to come in and do it for you. You got to look yourself in the mirror and you gotta say ‘I see you. I see that you're not happy, and I'm going to fucking do something about it.’”   Follow Mel Robbins: Website: https://melrobbins.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins

How to Beat SELF DOUBT, Pick Yourself Back Up, and FINALLY Break Free From SADNESS | Mel Robbins

Relationships inevitably have arguments, fights, and disagreements, but are you experiencing them more than normal? Are they taking a toll on the relationship? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to address these questions and discuss how to overcome chronic fighting and begin loving each other instead. They talk about how arguing is a sign of deeper issues, why you need to choose compassion, the importance of reframing your partners motives and understanding their perspective, how to let go and move on from arguments, and tools you can use to deescalate any disagreement.   SHOW NOTES: Constant Fighting | Lisa and Tom address a couple’s case of constant-explosive arguing. [0:35] Collision of Values | Tom and Lisa on how arguments are about something much deeper. [3:41] Choose Compassion | Tom and Lisa discuss strategically approaching problems. [4:34] Reframe Motives | Tom describes the letter he wrote himself to hack his neurochemistry. [7:30] Understanding | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need sympathy for your partner. [10:04] Fight for Them | Tom and Lisa reveal you need to know if you want to fight for them. [11:49] Let Go | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of truly letting go and moving forward. [13:39] Needs | Lisa recalls a time when both her and Tom’s deep needs weren’t in sync. [16:32] Tactics | Lisa and Tom discuss effective practices to keep yourself rooted in love. [19:31] QUOTES: “You can’t let dust settle in a relationship.” [2:10] “There’s a generosity of framing.” [10:04] “It comes down to people’s ability to make something sacred.” [21:12]   FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0  

Practical Tools to Help You Stop Fighting with Your Partner | Relationship Theory

Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Gaslighting is one of those words that once you hear about it, you think to yourself “that’s what I’ve been dealing with all this time!?” When someone is gaslighting you, they are undermining your reality by denying facts and making you think you’re crazy. You find yourself asking questions like: Am I at fault? Did I do something wrong? Am I crazy? Do I need to start recording my conversations? Nedra Glover Tawwab is joining Lisa in this episode to take a deeper dive into manipulation and more specifically, gaslighting. If you’ve been in a relationship where you weren’t even aware that you were being gaslit, or you didn’t have the word to perfectly capture all the craziness and frustration, this is for you! Knowing how to recognize it is the first step in knowing how to respond and avoid being a victim of gaslighting in the future. These are unhealthy relationships to be a part of, getting the knowledge you need so you can apply it in the future is the beginning of stepping into your power.   3 Impactful Ideas from Nedra: 1. It's completely okay to not be perfect. 2. Arguing is a choice. 3. Conflict is a growth tool.   Check Out Nedra’s 1st Episode, Don’t Be Manipulated: https://youtu.be/RslMYasPpxo   SHOW NOTES: Gaslighting | Nedra explains why most people don’t realize it’s happening Apologies | The harm of apologizing when it’s not your fault, not being given apology Change Behavior | Focus on the behavior first not the origin story, action is a must Arguing | Nedra breaks down why arguing is a choice, you do not have to engage Speak Up | Nedra on finding courage to stand your ground and say it’s not your fault Internal Work | Practicing how to externalize the internal dialogue you should be having Be Assertive | Nedra explains difference between assertive and aggressive behavior Behaviors to Stop | Nedra breaks down conflict, the need to be right and denying others Preferences | Nedra exposes why arguing is usually about preferences Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: Website: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nedratawwab/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/nedratawwab/_created/

Therapist PROVES You’re Not CRAZY!! This Is How You Deal with GASLIGHTING | Nedra Glover Tawwab

We’ve heard it from every relationship advice column ever: communication is key. But what does that even mean? In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share their secrets for effective communication. Now you have the chance to learn easily what they had to learn with great difficulty to make their relationship last for over 20 years. After you watch this episode, you'll know why communication is the secret to a long-lasting relationship and how to communicate in the right way. Furthermore, Lisa and Tom share how to use the right love language with your partner. SHOW NOTES: Why communication is the secret to a long-lasting relationship and how to communicate in the right way. [1:02] How to use the right love language with your partner. [2:24] The one word that Tom should never use because Lisa gets very upset. [2:59] QUOTES: “I think the more areas you have specific, discussed, and agreed-upon rules of engagement, the better off you´re gonna be.” [0:46] “Let me tell you if you know certain words gonna rub the other person the wrong way, don´t use them in an argument.” [2:24] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0  

Tips For Effective Communication in Any Relationship | Relationship Theory

Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. In 2018, ‘toxic’ became Oxford’s word of the year. You’ve likely fallen victim to toxic behaviors in different relationships in your life. Even more shocking, is that you’ve even been toxic at varying times in your life. We all have. Whether the word is overused and completely misunderstood, this episode will help you think through toxic relationships and behaviors that may be costing you more than you know. After this episode, you’ll be able to identify some of the relationships that are no longer serving you and start examining the options you have for letting go of toxic people. Learning to set boundaries and identify language that you can use to spot red flags will serve you for many years to come.   Don’t miss the  full episodes of these incredible guests on Women of Impact: Sarah Jakes Roberts - https://youtu.be/IbriO6QIxoU Dr. Ramani - https://youtu.be/uwtwnIxSO9s Amy Morin - https://youtu.be/fHzaceSFLwg Matthew Hussey - https://youtu.be/ny2KL8mYyFE Nedra Glover Tawwab - https://youtu.be/RslMYasPpxo Lori Gottlieb - https://youtu.be/gBRwYDZ4Vrs   SHOW NOTES: Vilify Toxicity | Don’t Vilify Toxic People with Sara Jakes Roberts [2:36] Complainers | Avoid Complaining About Them with Amy Morin [6:30] Vulnerabilities | Be Thoughtful About Sharing Vulnerabilities with Matthew Husssey [12:02] Stand Up | Stand Up For Yourself with Nedra Glover Tawwab [16:12] Empathetic | Reconsider Your Relationship With Them with Lori Gottlieb & Dr. Ramani [19:39] Boundaries | Create Clear Boundaries with Vanessa Van Edwards [24:33]   QUOTES: “When we encounter someone that is toxic, we have to understand that they are acting, thinking and speaking from their brokenness.” Sara Jakes Roberts [3:49]   “If you have a toxic person in your life, and you find yourself wanting to complain about them all the time, it's probably a good sign that you need to do something different” Amy Morin [8:16]   “Confronting someone is sometimes the most loving thing that you could do, and that it's really the kind thing [....] it doesn't have to be bad. It's about saying, I respect myself, but I respect you enough that I think we need to talk about these talk about these things” Amy Morin [11:41]   “There needs to be some separation between labeling someone a toxic person and saying the way they're behaving is toxic, or the effect of their behavior is toxic.” Matthew Hussey [12:58]   “Once you start to recognize the tactics that people will use to silence you, you can stand up for yourself better.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [17:24]   “We must have tremendous empathy for narcissistic people. Otherwise, we lose the best part of ourselves, and I'll be damned if somebody who's toxic is going to be the reason the most beautiful part of myself gets turned off.” Dr. Ramani [23:57]   “I don't have people in my life who put me in step number three very often. And that way, I know that I can totally be easy when I'm in interactions.” Vanessa Van Edwards [25:22]   Follow Sara Jakes Roberts: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ Follow Dr. Ramani: http://doctor-ramani.com/ Follow Amy Morin: https://amymorinlcsw.com/ Follow Matthew Hussey: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/core-confidence/ Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Follow Lori Gottlieb: https://lorigottlieb.com/

Tips on How to Handle TOXIC and NEGATIVE People In YOUR Life | Women of Impact

Are you or your partner extremely competitive? Does it sometimes get out of hand? Are you looking for ways to support each other while still having a healthy dose of that intensity? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you and your partner can be competitive with one another in a healthy way that pushes each other while still showing support, care, and love. They discuss the tactics they use to strengthen their relationship, how to properly be competitive in your relationship, how to handle intensity when competing, why you should push each other, and how to be each other’s biggest fan.   SHOW NOTES: Tactics | Tom and Lisa discuss the best tactics they use to strengthen their relationship. [0:30] Competitive | Tom and Lisa discuss being competitive with each other in their relationship. [2:16] Intensity | Lisa and Tom reveal how they handle intensity when being competitive. [5:22] Working Together | Lisa and Tom discuss how they want to push each other. [7:10] Winning | Lisa and Tom discuss encouraging each other on a path towards winning. [9:08] Be Their Fan | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should cheer on your partner. [10:40]   QUOTES: “You can’t imagine how gross I would find it if you thought you had to lose to me. That’s so emotionally weak when somebody can’t, like, tolerate that.” [8:34] “Just putting them first and saying, “I believe in you so much and I really want to see you succeed,” gives a support that I don’t know how to replicate other than that, like be your partner’s biggest cheerleader. So powerful.” [10:19]   FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0  

Do This For a Stronger Relationship | Relationship Theory

Hosted by Lisa Bilyeu, co-founder of the billion dollar company Quest Nutrition and President of Impact Theory, this show features women who have overcome incredible hardship to achieve massive success. Our mission is to empower you and all women to recognize that you really can become the hero of your own life. Welcome to Women of Impact.

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