Carol the Coach is interviewing Bonny Burns and her mission is to help couples re-engage in sexual intimacy after sexual addiction. It is easy for couples to feel defeated. Usually couples experience sexuality at different levels, Listen as Bonny gives some tips to restore the trust and communication that a couple needs to build safety.

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Is It Possible to Renew Your Sexuality Again with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is announcing her new model that she is teaching clinicians and coaches to Help Them Heal. ERCEM teaches the addict how to help them heal.

ERCEM--New Couples Recovery Model with Carol the Coach

One of the greatest casualties to sexual addiction is when a partner has to deal with triggers. Dorit Reichental  has developed a Trigger Busters technique that sex addicts can use with their partners to assist in managing the triggers. Listen as she and Carol the Coach dialogue about how a husband can be the support she needs to quiet the triggers!

The Queen of Trigger Busters with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dan and Angie Andrew who want the community to understand the difference between sobriety and true recovery. They believe that the coupleship with thrive when both people do their work and support each other's recovery. They will discuss the tools for recovery  that keep the lines of communication open and promote good self care.

The Difference Between Sexual Sobriety and Recovery with Carol the Coach

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing James Annear of Core Relationship Recovery who has researched the attachment styles of betrayed partners and has found extreme wounding that effects deep trust and intimacy. Today, he will be talking about the 4 attachment styles and how they are effected when "heart wounding" occurs.

Attachment Styles of the Betrayed with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dan Drake and Janice Caudill on their new book, Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual Betrayal.  They recognize that doing a full disclosure can be both daunting and difficult, so they will be talking about their step by step approach they have created in their new workbooks. They have participated in hundreds of disclosures and have years of experience and are committed to helping you navigate a complicated yet vital part of healing after sexual betrayal.

You Deserve to Know the Truth with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Marie Kriebs an expert in intimacy disorders, partner betrayal and vulnerability. As an APSATS trained therapist, she believes it is important to educate betrayed partners about healthy intimacy and the importance of personal growth and self awareness. She will be sharing some of the myths about vulnerability and helping our listeners to identify how and when they can be more vulnerable.

Does Your Partner Have An Intimacy Disorder with Carol the Coach

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Catherine Etherington who is a part of the Naked Truth Project about some new programing that is coming out that will help you and the church know how to support addicts, partners and families all over the world! They have set up a P Word Conference to stream critical information to help set up programming to keep our communities safe. This conference will have experts from all over the world who will start the conversation to find hope and strength in the recovery process. And it can start with the church!

Educating the Church About "The P Word"with Carol the Coach

Sex addicts who knowingly have sex with their spouses while having unprotected sex with others are violating their spouses by undermining her self-determination over her body.  When the partner of the SA has no idea she's been "having sex" with her spouse's sex workers, a crime has been committed. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Alex Katehakis, Ph.D, Clinical Director of Center for Healthy Sex, who believes that sex in a relationship where intimate deception is taking place is a non-consensual act and leaves many partners feeling "raped"  having been exposed to multiple sex partners and the potential to contract an STI, some of which can be fatal. Find out why few women get honest enough with themselves about the gravity of this type of gross violation!

Is Sex Addiction a Crime with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Laura Jenkins and Sherri Payne, who have joined the APSATS team to help women who are hurting and alone. They would like to share their story of the betrayal they experienced in their marriages over many years, how Ithey  said “no more”, and overcame their fears to rebuild a life that was shattered. You may have experienced this, or know a woman close to you who struggles in her married relationship. Our struggles are held very close and hidden, the pain and isolation leading to additional trauma beyond what our partner’s sexual acting out has dealt us. Having gone through this and found a certain level of healing, They have felt a definite call to help women Iand as a result Laura Jenkins founded Safe Haven Mentoring to be a resource, to provide a safe, compassionate haven for women to be heard and help them navigate this minefield of hurts and disillusionment. My first step in rebuilding my life was focusing on myself, and getting educated and as a coach she is here to help you rebuild yours too!

Healing Broken Hearts with Carol the Coach

Partner betrayal is devestating and you need the skills to get through it. Listen as Carol the Coach gives you tips on how to work through the pain! Today, Joanna Raabsmith is going to be talking about how she empowerw partners as their spouses struggle with sex addiction, infedelity and betrayal. When partners find out about the discovery, they typically feel disempowered and the imbalance can make them feel even more unsafe and insecure. As they become more empowered, they have more control and their personal healing increases.

How To Work Through Partner Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Grief is a step that many many betrayed partners miss in the aftermath of Discovery day. However, it's vital in the healing process. It is in the 2nd phase of the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. It matters. Today, Lyschel Burket is going to talk about why grief is so important to the mind, body and spirit and how to effectively work through it to get to restoration of self.

Why Grief is Vital to Healing

Today Carol will be talking with Melissa and Rebecca who are coordinating a community for women who have been through partner betrayal. They describe WeTonglen as a safe community for partners and ex-partners of , sex, and love addicts to share their stories of healing and hope, and find comfort and resources to aid on the journey of mending our broken hearts. We believe sex addiction is a deep-seated intimacy disorder created by early life attachment wounds in the addict. We support partners and ex-partners as they experience deeply distressing and traumatic reactions, also known as betrayal trauma. We do not believe the partner or ex-partner of a sex addict is to blame for causing or contributing to the addict’s acting-out behavior. Victim-blaming, collusion with the addict’s gaslighting, and blame-shifting to focus on the supposed contribution of the partner to the addict’s dysfunction can be retraumatizing to partners. WeTonglen is based on the perspective of Dr. Rob Weiss’s Prodependence, a model based in the field of attachment science, which does not pathologize partners as inherently damaged individuals, but instead affirms partners as relatively healthy people responding to an incredibly stressful situation. WeTonglen is all about supporting each other as we confront our new realities, grapple with life changes we never expected, and safeguard ourselves with thoughtful boundary-setting and self-care.

A Community Filled with Rich Resources with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach is talking with trauma specialist Dr. Diane Hovey who believes that after the disclosures, the endless questions, river of tears, and tsunami of shame, the pain remains. The journey to uncover the roots of what went wrong fades in and out of the mists of  reality. Some resign. Others encounter a shift in perspective that no longer allows them to continue in the same manner. This is a turning point. A point where possibility is an opening for a new beginning. It is a place of clarity, where one can finally take flight or put down new roots.  It is a place of healing, growth, and possibility. Dr. Hovey asks what is needed to get to this point? The focus  of this talk is on fostering a paradigm shift that allows us to move beyond the never-ending search for answers and the ultimate fix. We will explore the meaning making process and spiritual dimension of healing that contribute to a new way of being. This will include ways to contemplate our own relationship with pain and suffering, on how we store and re-story our experience in a manner that is transformative.

How Can You Create Your Own Transformative Experience with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach and Dr. Jake Porter will be talking about the Empathy Certification that is teaching Clinicians and Coaches how to encorporate empathy skills in early couples recovery work. ERCEM (Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model), is a premier relational training and certification that navigates professionals how to work through sexual addiction and partner betrayal from the APSATS model using the 3 phase model that works with couples to get them to post-traumatic growth. This is a premier training that has ground-breaking exercises to instill trust and empathy. The 4-day training is  from September 28th thru October 1st, 2021. To register go to APSATS.org and look for the training tab. Working with couples is hard work, but with infidelity and compulsive sexual behavioral disorder, the picture becomes much more complicated and requires extreme knowledge of how to work with couples from a partner sensitive approach and ERCEM will provide strategies that will repair the relationship and build trust back into the coupleship. Register now to be guided by these amazing couples therapists who believe in restoration for the couple and want to show you how to help couples navigate through the devestation of partner betrayal!  

Teaching Empathy Skills Around the World with Carol the Coach

This podcast will help partners of sex addicts work through the betrayal trauma that naturally occurs. You have been traumatized and we want you to have the resources to take care of yourself and find safety in an unsafe situation.

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