Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Marie Damgaard who works at the Mindfulness Center and has completed the MBATT which is a mindfulness certification for sex addiction and partner betrayal. This segment will focus on learning about the power of mindfulness in addictions and trauma recovery.   Sex addicts will learn how to define mindfulness, and how these techniques help a variety of individuals in becoming more aligned with who they are at their core; while developing the capacity to have more choice in their day-to-day decision making. Mindfulness work has inspired optimism in recovery work and I hope that those who are listening, can be inspired to explore, learn, grow and heal with what they gather from today’s show.

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Mindfulness is at the Center for Good Recovery with Carol the Coach

Listen as Carol the Coach talks about a spiritual path that she frequently uses to guide her in her daily life.

ASpiritual Path to Recovery with Carol the Coach

John and Elaine Leadem, who are experts in the field of addiction, will be sharing personal information about their lives as they discuss the faces that they wore when they first married. In this riveting interview, the Leadems who wrote One in the Spirit: Meditation Course for Recovering Couples openly share their early struggles with maintaining a relationship while combating their own demons from years of addiction.  Sexual Addiction is a disorder that requires strategies to assist you in maintaining recovery. This show is to help you access the books, the experts and the people who are managing recovery with The 12 Step Program and Patrick Carnes Recovery Task Model that reinforces the steps you need to take to manage your recovery and take your life through the journey so that you not only conquer the "Addict" but develop into the person you were meant to be! Carol the Coach is a Certified Sexual Addictions Therapist who is ready to take you on the journey and expose you to the experts who will guide you through the steps.

The Duality of Sexual Addiction with Carol the Coach

In this segment Carol the Coach  will be discussing boundaries with Jocelyn Hamsher. Boundaries are defined as a set of expectations and limits we have around our interactions with ourselves and others. They help us keep our side of the street clean and sets our relationships up for success because we are able to communicate our expectations in a healthy way. Boundaries are not about manipulating or changing anyone else, they are solely about protecting ourselves. A good way to determine areas of our life that may need boundaries is to look for pain points in our life and from there establish what we need in order to minimize the pain point. Often we struggle most with boundaries when we struggle with knowing what our wants and needs are, which is a symptom of unresolved trauma. Once we are able to identify our needs and wants, then we need to formulate boundaries to help get those met and then communicate them in a healthy way. This also includes action steps for instances where the other person chooses not to respect our boundaries. In sex addiction specifically, we need to establish boundaries around our pain points in recovery such as safe guards on technology and having consistent accountability. 

Bouondaries Are All About You with Carol the Coach

In any relationship where betrayal occurs through acting out in any harmful manner, the partners’ breakage leaves them in unbearable distress and fear for an unknown future. Defense mechanisms further create distance when trauma triggers negatively influence the reactions of both parties in the relationship. The acting out partner uses maladaptive coping skills to relieve distressing feelings learned in childhood. The betrayed partner loses trust and suffers a multitude of painful emotions. Further acting out and boundary violating behavior of the addict compounds distrust, fueling distance from the betrayed spouse. IF there is any chance for spouses; this I where CSAT and ASAT therapists enter the picture.

Seeking the Right Resources After Betrayal with Carol the Coach

It is not uncommon for clients who have  sexual addiction to suffer from trauma that later causes PTSD. Dr. Jerry Borikhin from the Meadows will be talking about PTSD and how this disorder can be managed if you are suffering from these symptoms. Listen in as he shares with Carol the Coach the criteria and diagnostic elements that would tell you if you have PTSD. Sexual Addiction can be managed if you utilize a variety of resources. This radio show teaches you the recovery tasks needed to work through the shame that accompanies this compulsion. Carol the Coach has worked with 1000's of clients who have fought this disorder and learned how to manage it and live fully optimal lives. Listen to her as she shares her wisdom and interviews the experts in her field. Carol Juergensen Sheets is a certified sexual addictions counselor and was trained by Dr. Patrick Carnes who has been instrumental in developing programs and clinical skill sets that promote recovery,

The Impact of PTSD onn Sex Addicts with Carol the Coach

Today Carol the Coach is reinterviewing WeTonglen who is a safe community for partners and ex-partners of , sex, and love addicts to share their stories of healing and hope, and find comfort and resources to aid on the journey of mending our broken hearts. They believe sex addiction is a deep-seated intimacy disorder created by early life attachment wounds in the addict. They support partners and ex-partners as they experience deeply distressing and traumatic reactions, also known as betrayal trauma. They do not believe the partner or ex-partner of a sex addict is to blame for causing or contributing to the addict’s acting-out behavior. Victim-blaming, collusion with the addict’s gaslighting, and blame-shifting to focus on the supposed contribution of the partner to the addict’s dysfunction can be retraumatizing to partners.  WeTonglen is based on the perspective of Dr. Rob Weiss’s Prodependence, a model based in the field of attachment science, which does not pathologize partners as inherently damaged individuals, but instead affirms partners as relatively healthy people responding to an incredibly stressful situation. WeTonglen is all about supporting each other as we confront our new realities, grapple with life changes we never expected, and safeguard ourselves with thoughtful boundary-setting and self-care.

WeTonglen a Community for Partners with Carol the Coach

Abandonment in childhood effects self esteem and often contributes to the issues of sexual addiction. Tonight I will be interviewing Mark Smith Director of Family Tree Counseling who has written an e-book called MANAGING ABANDONMENT ISSUES THROUGH RECOVERY. He will discuss what you can do to resolve and reprocess the aftershock of abandonment and what you can do if your abandonment issues are feeding your addiction. Sexual Addiction is a disorder that requires strategies to assist you in maintaining recovery. This show is to help you access the books, the experts and the people who are managing recovery with The 12 Step Program and Patrick Carnes Recovery Task Model that reinforces the steps you need to take to manage your recovery and take your life through the journey so that you not only conquer the "Addict" but develop into the person you were meant to be! Carol the Coach is a Certified Sexual Addictions Therapist who is ready to take you on the journey and expose you to the experts who will guide you through the steps.

Abandonment Leaves Scars with Carol the Coach

As a Sex Addict, can you love yourself despite the fact that you have an addiction. Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Jace Downey who looks at sex addiction with an unusual perspective about the reason for your addiction. Jace explains that with addiction reaching epidemic levels, we are seeing a revolution in the recovery sphere, a whole-person holistic approach to healing. Yet, we risk the unnecessary suffering of countless people if we set the foundation wrong. In her work with people recovering from sex addiction, Jace Downey, founder of You Got This! Recovery discovered a core theme across all demographics - the belief that we are not enough to be loved, just as we are. This intrinsic, inescapable need for acceptance, connection, for love is at the root of addiction as well as the solution for it. How can we expect to eradicate addiction in a system that reenforces the very beliefs that cause it?   Jace and her clients have experienced freedom from addiction through a radical twist to the recovery process - starting from the foundation that there is nothing wrong with you.

A Foundational Recovery Program That Starts with Unconditional Love with CTC

Being betrayed by someone you trusted is beyond painful! It’s a tsunami of emotions that are terrifying and out of our control. And those close to us may misguide us, well-intentioned as they might be. So it’s critical to have some professional guidance to help us ride the waves in a healthy way. You didn’t ask for it, and it might feel really unfair to be called upon to do the work to heal, but your healing is paramount for your own well-being. It will also allow you to rebuild trust within yourself, which can often get shattered, especially when our feelings become unmanageable. Today, Carol will be interviwing Rebecca Rosenblat PhD,who specializes in sex addiction and  partner betrayal. Her background is in understanding how loving an addict can cause trauma.

Helping the Partner Become Unstuck with Carol the Coach

Are you someone who constantly struggles with  someone who is too clingy or too detached. Often times in sexual addiction, there is one partner who tends to be love avoidant and one partner who is love addicted. This can be a frustrating issue for each partner which invariably keeps each person from getting their needs met.Ben Galloway has worked in the field of Addiction and Trauma Treatmen since 1989. Ben is the owner and director of Enchantment Workshops and agency that customizes intensives and workshops for individual's couples and families who suffer from the effects of Trauma and Addiction. He is going to be helping us to understand how relationships are formed and how co-dependency can result from unhealthy relationships where trauma has occured. He will be giving concrete tools that promote recovery and improve and restore healthy relationships.

Is it Love Avoidance or Love Addiction with Carol the Coach

Your sexual addiction has devestated her. Her self esteem has been devestated and she does not know how to compensate for what she thinks that you need.Professionals see the daily devestateion but don't know how to help and today Rochelle has developed a course to reignitght that sense of appeal. Her topic is a new program that she is offering called Your Big Sexy Comeback for women who are moving on after betrayal and ready to (maybe) explore what dating, love, sex and intimacy mean for them now.  These are women who have done a lot of healing and are ready to really start experiencing what it means to thrive. Even if you question if you are ready, know that you deserve to have that energy back!

How Do You Find Yourself Again After Sexual Betrayal with Carol the Coach

In this podcast, Carol the Coach and Dr. Jill Manning discuss the power of affirmations and how to effectively utilize affirmations in relational trauma healing work. Affirmations can sometimes be dismissed as simply "happy thoughts" or "nice statements," but when affirmations are truly understood and practiced, they can powerfully interrupt shaming or distorted thinking patterns and nurture physical, emotional, and relational health. Practical resources, ideas, and research-based information will be shared throughout this engaging discussion.

How Do I Stop this Shaming with Carol the Coach

We are all products of the messages we receive in our lives. None of these messages are as powerful as those we receive in childhood. Tom Gagliano focuses on the messages given to us in childhood, verbal and non-verbal, and how they impact the roles one grows up to play and the ways these roles affect one’s intimate relationships. He discusses the steps to identify the roles one plays in order to grow as a person will be outlined, as well as the ‘People Pleaser’ and ‘Caretaker’ roles. The challenges associated with these roles, as well as ways to overcome these challenges, will be discussed.

Childhood Messages Feed Addiction with Carol the Coach

Sex Addiction can appear so entitled. That is the very nature of addiction and so entitlement and self absorbtion keeps the addict alive. Listen as Carol the Coach explores the fundamental maladaptivecoping style that keeps addiction alive.

Why Do SA's Seem So Entitled with Carol the Coach

Sexual Addiction requires that you know the tools to seek and manage recovery. Learn the strategies to restore your life.

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