00:00 Introduction  0:50 “Bully” is defined and introduced as the topic of discussion and the ways and which someone can be defined as such. 2:42 Merisa and Erica discuss bullying from a familial perspective and how it can possibly break one’s relationship with their loved ones or community 5:20 As an adult, it’s important to not allow yourself to be bullied and taking your power back 5:55 Merisa and Erica discuss fake sincerity and “fun” shade that comes from a bad place 7:01 First Impressions and their how it may play a part in bullying also hazing newcomers into social groups. 9:22 Taking accountability for our bullying  10:09 Bullying in a relationship, does it exist? 10:50 Discussing the ways in which to discern between bullying and help by paying attention to tones and motives 12:18 Merisa and Erica discuss Kevin Samuel’s controversial statements made to a woman seeking counseling 15:00 This segment addresses the infamous rating game college guys play on women volunteers 16:24 Questioning people who pretend to be helpers and counselors but in fact, do not like people 17:33 Merisa and Erica discuss a mutual negative experience with a career counselor in the master’s program 20:42 Using the Real Housewives as an the case study, Merisa and Erica discuss “shade” 23:19 Revenge bullying, and when it may or may not be acceptable  26:38 Closing  Kevin Samuels link :https://youtu.be/VI6XWGKvUrE  

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In Today's episode, Erica and Merisa discuss all aspects of unlearning.

Unlearning

This week Erica and Merisa discuss black conservatism with guest Curt Bender and Christian Williams.   Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/ 

Politickin': That's That Sarah Palin

Boundaries In this episode, Erica & Merisa discuss boundaries, the set of rules or expectations we place on ourselves to avoid compromising who we are. A boundary can look like not allowing certain people to know private matters, determining who can physically touch you, and simply saying “no.” Not to be confused with standards—qualities that must be present before a certain level of engagement—boundaries are very important when practicing self–love and shift depending on who we’re interacting with at any given moment.    0:49: Introducing the book that sparked the conversation, Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend   1:32: Merisa and Erica discuss their Boundaries Quiz scores and some of the questions   3:02 Merisa explains her boundaries, or standards rather, regarding the topic of weight   5:15 Defining boundaries as rules created to avoid being used manipulated, used, or violated. Whereas. standards are requirements prior to connecting with someone.   6:51 Merisa and Erica discuss relationship boundaries, specifically concerning passwords and phones   08:34 Discussing whether people truly know if they are crossing a boundary with you and how to solve issues once crossed.   10:18 Erica discusses her struggles with unsolicited relationship advice from friends.   13:08 Merisa discusses people taking her kindness for weakness   14:15 Discussing how our boundaries says a lot about our life goals and aspirations.      18:02 The different ways we can tell if our boundaries are healthy,  and how to  avoid reactionary boundaries   21:35 Parental boundaries and how your role in people’s lives determine your boundaries for them and yourself   24:00 Personality shapes our boundaries and not feeling the need to make friends therapists   27: Stepparent boundaries & Outro     Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/  Music by: Dystinkbeats.com      

Boundaries

Rejection vs. Redirection   In this episode, Erica & Merisa discuss rejection and its consequences on how we think and react to our environment. Social and familial rejection has a profound effect on our mental health causing stress, depression, envy, and anxiety throughout our life if not confronted properly. By simply taking a more optimistic approach to rejection, such as looking at it as a redirection, we are able to move forward with our lives with more confidence & peace.   2:10: Defining rejection & redirection, per Oxford Dictionary   3:00: Discussing where rejection comes from & the evolutionary biology behind it   5:40 Determining if we’re being rejected versus being challenged; Also, understanding when quit especially if your goals are not purpose-driven   10:04 How men versus women handle rejection in romantic relationships & in their career   13:25 The negative effects of dwelling on past relationship trauma   18:40 Rejection from parents; the effects of divorces & having empathy and compassion for our parents   24:07 Cultural rejection and outcasting people based on their political views; cancel culture   28:00 Stop rejecting people who may have some ignorance but are trying to find common ground   32:35 Rejection in friendships, in particular, gift-giving   34:06 Setting friendship expectations, having self-awareness in friendship, & friendship audits   37:28 Discussing “ghosting” and the hypocrisy amongst people who do it but hate when it is done to them   38:54 Understanding that no one owes us anything and taking accountability for your self-esteem by not chasing people who are rejecting you   41:15 Being cautious of people who want to keep you in a rejected mindset & also understanding that rejection is often so painful that their anger can be projected onto the wrong person   46:33 Define yourself so you don’t absorb other people’s opinions or rejections   48:20 Takeaway on rejection and closing     Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/  Music by: Dystinkbeats.com  

Rejection Vs. Redirection

This week E. Lew and Merisa catch up and talk about life during COVID-19. They cover everything from Trump checks to cancel culture. Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/  Music by: Dystinkbeats.com

The New Normal: Rona Chronicles

Do you have wanderlust? Are you itching to get away from reality and go on a vacation? In the final episode of Season One, Mer and E.Lew discuss one of their favorite bonding activities...Traveling! Both ladies provide their Travel Dos & Don'ts, their favorite places,  and destinations soon to come!  Take a listen as they dive into their lessons, tips, and memorable moments. Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/ 

10. Wanderlust (Season Finale)

There's a pandemic among us, and we're not talking about Coronavirus. Have you ever felt hopeless? Does joy seem to be missing from your life? Do you have a friend who you know is depressed, but you feel powerless to help them? In this episode,  E.Lew & Merisa discuss their experience and suggestions on how to overcome sadness we all may feel at a certain point in our lives. Seeing the bigger picture will take work, but anyone can do it. Let's heal! If you want to express yourself or feel alone, you can always reach out to ithitsdifferent@gmail.com. --  completely anonymous.   Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/   

9. The Silent Pandemic

The entrepreneurial mindset is growing rapidly, and many young adults are opting to start their own business rather than securing a “stable” job. Side hustles are also growing in popularity with the rise of freelance websites and the power of social media’s marketing capabilities.  However, there are challenges young entrepreneurs face despite their fearlessness such as student debt, barriers to entry, access to start-up capital or resources, and a fundamental lack of financial literacy. In this episode, the Lewises discuss entrepreneurship with Latanya White—a business coach, college professor, author and entrepreneur.  Professor White has made a career out of business coaching, stressing the importance of mindset, accountability, resilience, and challenging sources of self-doubt. She walks us through the following topics: Breaking free of familial expectations that do not align with one’s passion- 4:40 Creating systems, structure and habits for people who are confident they want to start a business- 8:00 The next step after a business idea fails & identity mapping- 11:03 How to grow your money in college and responsible self-care- 17:15 Work-life Balance for Entrepreneurs- 20:24 The importance of valuing your products & services appropriately & fighting Imposter Syndrome- 23:05 “Side Hustle of the Month” by Essence- 25:30 Ideas on creating passive income by leveraging things you already know - 29:00 You can get more information about LaTanya on her website meetprofwhite.com. Free guide to start your business! https://www.meetprofwhite.com/ithitsdifferent Prof. LaTanya White's Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MeetProfWhite/   Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/   

8. Entrepreneurship 101

This week E. Lew & Merisa discuss the age old topic of self awareness and quickly find out how much of a burden it can be. Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/ Music by: Dystinkbeats.com

7. Self Awareness Is Ghetto

“To develop a complete mind: Study the science of art; Study the art of science.” In this episode E. Lew & Merisa speak to Patrick Hunter aka Patcasso, one of the nation's leading live performance painters. Patcasso discusses his passion for bridging the gap between science & art through his many projects including STEAM (STEM +Art) and Ted Talks.    Follow Us! Patcasso TED Talk: https://youtu.be/k4iZSur1CFQ Patcasso IG: https://instagram.com/patcassoart?igshid=1esgkelr5k9m6 Patcasso Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/patrick.hunter1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/ Music by: Dystinkbeats.com

6. The Art of Science with Patcasso

So good we had to make it two episodes! Sorry I Don't Speak Dutch: Part 2 is a continuation of the Lewises relationship conversation with special guest, EJ. In this episode, Merisa, E.Lew & EJ continue discussing gender roles, "going dutch," and our conclusion on the Valentine's Day debate. Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/ Music by: Dystinkbeats.com

5. Sorry I Don't Speak Dutch (Part. 2)

Are men suppose to get a gift on Valentines Day? Is it even necessary to celebrate? How have cultural norms changed the way we think about roles in relationships? In this episode, Merisa and E.Lew invite a special guest, EJ, for his male perspective on Valentines Day gift-giving, gender roles in today's society, and why more and more people are opting to "go Dutch."   Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/ Music by: Dystinkbeats.com

4. Sorry, I Don't Speak Dutch (Part. 1)

Friends! The family we get to choose. As one of the most ambiguous relationships you can have, friendships take many different forms.  In this episode, Merisa & Erica will discuss friendship topics such as boundaries, totem poles, forgiveness and how to choose the best circle for your personality. And of course, the question we may ask ourselves until the end of time--Can women and men be friends?   Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/ Music by: Dystinkbeats.com  

3. Friends, How Many of Us Have Them?

Ah, Self Love. Popular phrase these days. How do you express self love? Are you still on the journey? What kind of behaviors, actions, & attitudes reflect the way you show appreciation to yourself?  In this episode, E. Lew & Merisa explore our perspective on self love and how it affects us and our interactions with others. Take a long hard look in the mirror for this one guys.   Follow Us! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ithitsdifferent/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ithitsdifferen1   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ithitsdifferent/ E. Lew: https://www.instagram.com/__ericalewis/ Merisa: https://www.instagram.com/mer.lew/ Music by: Dystinkbeats.com  

2. Self Love

It Hits Different is a culture podcast featuring Merisa and Erica aka "The Lewises". By serendipity, these two former grad school roommates (who oddly shared the same last name) became soul sisters. Bonding over a shared love of travel, philosophical debates, spirituality, food, dance, and unpopular opinions, there is no telling where the conversation may go.

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