We all have our own image of our ideal spouse. We have different preferences in choosing the person we believe is best for us. That ideal individual might also be the one we ought to marry.  Despite those characteristics, traits, and looks we often see first, it is up to God whom he has planned for us to marry. We ask for His guidance to send us the right person in our lives, oblivious to his plans for us.  Whatever the cause or circumstance, whether we are praying to God for it in preparation or out of desperation, we all have one thing in common: our faith in God's ability to provide us with our hearts' desire of a so-called "ideal companion" or "our forever."  In this episode, we are joined by Roger and Daniela Wetherall, a blessed couple who have been married for 33 years. They are conducting a free webinar program called The Marriage Course designed to help couples invest in their relationship and build a strong marriage.  If you’re interested to learn about how a God-designed relationship or marriage works, be inspired and listen to Roger and Daniela Wetherall talk about their marriage and how they trusted God to understand the purpose of their family's journey. Listen to Episode 93 for more! Shownotes How Roger and Daniela met [3:44] The idea of commitment [13:21] Daniela’s maternal instinct as her saving grace [16:08] A difficult time in their relationship [18:08] Importance of praying to God [23:13] Significance of relinquishing expectations [25:27] Healthy way of interpreting “making your husband” [31:33] Falling in love again after 21 years of marriage [39:37] Roger and Daniela Wetherall’s journey of marriage [41:33] A good trajectory for the future [46:03] Importance of being proactive in a relationship [48:34] 

Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

#93 - In Love After 33 Years (Life Goals) | Roger & Daniela Wetherall

Because we grow up in different types of environments, we have varying understanding or comprehension of the world through our senses and experiences. Our upbringing and the environment and community in which we were raised play a big role in shaping our lives, attitude, and personality as we interact and live from childhood to adulthood. A child adopts or follows the actions of the people around them without the ability to distinguish between what is right or wrong. This is also when they start to build impressions. Just like children, when someone is exposed to porn, they start to build a concept in their minds of what sexuality is without having an idea of what it portrays or means. Porn will try to create a sexual template inside someone’s mind that causes them to have the wrong idea and appreciation of sexuality and relationships. In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about the importance of imprinting and how it affects your impression of what relationships should and shouldn't be. They share how porn creates the wrong interpretation and expectations of people in relationships.  If you want to recondition yourself to start to imprint more with the good people around you, this episode will lead you to a vision for your sexuality, relationships, and what your sex is connected to. You’ll also get to know about the importance of clearing yourself up spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally before getting married. Listen to Episode 92 to learn more! Shownotes The nature of pornography [2:46] Definition of sexual imprinting [4:57] How sexual imprinting affects the idea of marriage [8:13] How to balance a God-centered approach to sexuality [10:25] Pornography is not sexual in nature [14:35] Definition of sexuality [16:02] What High Noon is all about [16:54] Choosing what you imprint to [17:17] Click HERE for the show transcript.

#92 - Sexual Imprinting

It is important and beneficial to connect yourself with really good people. Someone who will motivate and inspire you to grow as a better individual. Growing connotes becoming the “better” version of oneself. But in order to grow, one has to take a big leap. And that big leap will enable you to acknowledge and accept the things that are keeping you from doing so. Growing is a process - wherein along the way, you’ll slowly recognize and be able to deal with the mental, emotional, and spiritual baggage that you have.  In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about the events at the recent staff retreat where their families joined as well. They share the meaningful experience that they had and the biggest realization from that experience.  If you’re someone who wants to grow as a person but doesn’t know how or where to start, this episode can guide you to get yourself together as you hear about the importance of positive people in your life. Also discussed in this episode are the effects of freeing yourself from unnecessary things in your life. Listen to Episode 91 to learn more! Shownotes Importance of connecting with people physically [2:08]  The process of being able to loosen up [5:46] Habits that you can adopt to get rid of porn [6:21] Realizations from the retreat [8:08] How to maintain good healthy habits and be inclined to the deeper work  [9:35] How to experience fullness in your daily life [15:05] Being a good listener is the greatest gift that you can give someone [16:47] Importance of deep conversations [18:18] Challenging yourself to set an internal goal [19:21] The divine principle 101 [20:48] Click HERE for the show transcript.

#91 - Dealing with Baggage in Order to Grow

The proliferation of pornography is one of the downsides when using the internet. Because of modern technology, it is accessible to anybody with a computer and an Internet connection. Pornography may be more acceptable in some cultures, but when one considers the messages and impact that it has, one may understand how troubling it truly is.  In this episode, we are joined by Lily Moric, who came all the way from Canada and works for the National Center on Sexual Exploitation. Lily started an advocacy group on campus throughout Canada, trying to change age verification and raising porn awareness on campuses in her country. If you’re someone who wants to do something with your life and make a difference, be inspired by Lily Moric and her story of how she made a difference in her community in a very powerful and meaningful way. She has started her own initiative called Questioning Pornography where she’s helping to create awareness about pornography, its disadvantages, and the harmful effects it can bring to a person. Lily brings us along her journey on when, why, and how she started her vision to help inform others, started her own podcast, and her reason behind creating a club to gather people and share her advocacy in the form of a meaningful conversation. Listen to Episode 90 to learn more about her story! Shownotes What is Questioning Pornography? [2:52] Meetup Groups through meetup.com [5:44] Questioning Pornography Podcast [6:36] Creating awareness-based off of a predetermined worldview [8:31] Why pornography is harmful [8:45] Challenging the status quo and getting people to actually think [9:42] A healthy way to create deeper conversations [11:54] The concept of sexual objectification [17:06] Pornography as a suboptimal expression of human sexuality [19:04] Different harmful effects that pornography poses to individuals and society [20:23] How conversations can get very polarized, emotional, and separated into ideological boundaries [23:39] How pornography is fueling sexism [27:52] Implementation of age verification for pornography [34:54] Click HERE for the show transcript.

#90 - Porn Awareness on Campus | Lily Moric

What does it mean to have God-centered sex? What does it mean to be a single person and trying to build sexual integrity centered on God? How do you invite God into your sexuality, mind, spirit, and your body? Throughout human history, people have been misusing their sexual organs and learning how that has affected their lives, children, and lineage will give you a better understanding of how God and sexuality connect with each other. In this episode, Benjy and Andrew delve deep into the cross-section between God and sexuality. This topic is quite confusing but it is a fundamental matter of high importance. Tune in and learn how to start having God-centered sexual integrity whether you’re single or married, to put your sexual energy into good use.  Focus on fully developing yourself, focusing your energy on just creating something new for yourself, and developing yourself into a new person to experience God with love, and grace.  High Noon will help you to live the light, become the person you wanted to be, regain your sexual integrity while finding your purpose in life, and have the access to humility through prayer. You might also want to check out High Noon’s Book: Core of the Universe and have a greater understanding of what sex was really designed to be.  Shownotes The core of the universe book [2:05] My sexual organ is the original palace of love, life in the lineage [2:18] Building your sexual integrity [3:26] A functional relationship with God [5:05] Difference between using the sexual energy for yourself or using it for productivity and creation [5:59] Have God at the center of your sexuality [7:18] An ideal relationship with God [8:19] Living sexual integrity with five values [11:35] Putting your integrity in check [13:25] Having humility through prayer [15:21] Seeing things from God's perspective [20:15] Living a healthy sexual relationship [25:01] Experiencing grace, forgiveness, and love [31:55] Core of the Universe book [34:39] 

#89 - God and Sexuality Part 2

In the old days, talking about feelings and emotions with the opposite sex is considered taboo. Young men and women are taught to avoid having deep conversations with the opposite sex as it may lead to something else. But in this generation, having guy or girl friends is totally normal. Some believe that a normal friendship between a man and a woman is not possible and many still have the fear of trusting the opposite sex.  In Episode 88, Benjy and Andrew are joined by the two ladies, Carina, and her friend Joo Yeon. They talk about how important it is to have friends of the opposite sex, and how to create a balance between being friends and knowing your boundaries. They also share their experiences from their childhood about dealing with crushes, infatuation, and building strong relationships with the person they love.  Learning to admit your feelings, and allowing yourself to control and understand it will be your first step to dealing with the opposite sex. Having feelings are normal because we are humans, it is our natural reaction when we meet someone attractive, nice, or kind. But, it is up to us if we can learn to control them.  Join us in this week’s episode to learn more about how to find your purpose, learn to control your emotions, overcome awkward situations with the opposite sex, and finally feel safe and build genuine relationships may it be with a man or a woman. Evolution is all about getting better [00:47] Feeling free to have more conversation with the opposite sex [5:50] Creating a healthy balance in relationships [9:14] The pressure to live by a certain standard [12:40] Recover that relationship as a friendship [17:22] Learning how to identify attractive qualities in every individual regardless of what they look externally [20:50] Understanding infatuation [24:01] Why motivation is very important? [30:47] How to deal with your feelings? [35:32] How your time, attention, and energy affects your feelings [38:50] Having a real and genuine connection with someone [44:23] Click HERE for the show transcript.

#88 - Men vs Women: A Discussion About Dealing With the Opposite Sex

Our emotions make us humans. We normally feel sad, happy, scared, angry, or frustrated every time we encounter joyful events, scary situations, or even difficult moments in our lives. We also handle our emotions differently. However, suppressing and hiding from our emotions for too long may cause a negative impact on our well-being. So, aside from understanding and learning to control our emotions, we should also acknowledge what we truly feel at the moment and allow ourselves to process them in a healthy way. In this episode, Benjy reveals the secret sauce of sexual integrity based on his own experiences. He will also bring us an overview of what it looks like to be in your darkest moments. Benjy will share some ways to understand and overcome frustrating situations to move throughout your days with more clarity, focus, power, and integrity. Emotions are extremely powerful but gaining emotional control will support you in becoming mentally prepared for bigger and more overwhelming challenges in life. By doing so, we can avoid those triggers, temptations, and temporary solutions to escape these emotions. Listen to this episode to learn how to direct your sexual energy in a productive and creative way by paying attention to your thoughts and emotions throughout the day to reflect on them later on.  You might also want to check out High Noon Connect to start answering your ‘whys’ and start taking responsibility for what you can do right now. How to direct your sexual energy productively and creatively [1:58] Having awareness of your state of mind [2:40] Self-reflection in the form of journaling [4:00] The process of self-reflection [4:34] Dealing with your emotions [8:51] Feeling confident and comfortable about yourself [11:00] Click HERE for the show transcript.

#87 - The Secret Sauce to Sexual Integrity Success

Gaining back your sexual integrity isn’t as easy you thought it would be. It takes courage, discipline, and willingness to change your habits and avoid temptations around you. More often than not, we need someone who will push us or even inspire us, so we could handle the pressure that comes and goes.  It goes to show that having an accountability partner is a great way to start this journey. They are the people who are willing to help you stay committed to your goals and motivate you to reach them. This person could be someone who is going through the same thing you are struggling with. When you're in it together and helping each other, you're both much stronger because you're rooting for each other. In episode 86, we have an amazing duo here with us today, Jorge and Hideaki. They’re here to share with us how an accountability partner can help withstand the test of time and become better, happier, and healthier men. They will be discussing all accountability partners, its benefit, why it is helpful, and their personal experiences on how they trusted each other and had the freedom, to be honest, and share their struggle in relation to gaining their sexual integrity. The two will also share what solidified their relationship as accountability partners, what an accountability partner gets in return, and what they learned about sexual integrity and self-awareness or accountability. Remember to always be positive and make sure to take full responsibility for your life. Check out the High Noon Ascent Course here and download the High Noon International app to your desktop or phone to help you find your accountability partner to overcome porn and develop your sexual integrity with a supportive community.  Shownotes Seeking accountability [3:31] Developing the energy of giving love [6:29] ‘Care’ is the start point to everything [7:36] Identifying your struggle [10:20] Having the ability to reach out [11:11] Being an accountability partner is a big responsibility [12:46] Benefits of having an accountability partner [14:42] The opposite of addiction is connection [24:09] Real connection gives you power [25:55] Overcoming things together with your accountability partner [34:24] Click HERE for the show transcript.

#86 - Why Accountability is AMAZING | Jorge & Hideaki

Have you ever caught yourself smiling because someone has crossed your mind? If yes, maybe you've already been crushing on someone. And don't be so surprised if you're noticing some changes in how you behave. There were moments where you feel intense emotions just by hearing his or her name, or sometimes you're too excited or you're too anxious. You even feel butterflies in your stomach whenever they are around.  But have you ever wondered: Where is this coming from? Why am I feeling this way? and how is this feeling connected with God? Sometimes we become infatuated with different people here and there. But did you know that when we have feelings over someone, those feelings are not actually about that person, but instead, it’s telling us something about ourselves? These feelings tell us that we are longing for connection and intimacy. So how do we handle them?  In this week’s episode, Andrew and Carina share with us how they dealt with crushes and explain why this is happening. These feelings seem innocent and normal yet it should be something to pay close attention to because if we don't know what to do with them, and we misinterpret the feelings, it can make our lives very complicated, or worse, terrible. Crushes are an indication that you admire someone, and there's a good quality in them but it is often driven by emotion. It’s only an idea and the feeling of being in love yet we all know that having love without commitment is a disaster. So, join us in this episode to master this concept of crushes and make something good out of them, and turn them into something productive to learn the process of controlling yourself and your feelings. Mastering the concept of crushes [00:38] Navigating your emotions and understanding them [2:58] Dealing with obsessive crushes [8:05] Unity with the mind and body [13:01] Why prayer and meditation is good [15:52] The difference between crushes and love [20:46] How an accountability partner helps you [27:45] Helping someone in the process of overcoming a crush [31:05] Click HERE for the show transcript.

#85 - How to Deal with Crushes

Are you someone who’s been having wet dreams? Do you know what it means or why it happens? There can be a lot of factors why wet dreams happen and it’s not only because of your sexual desires. Knowing why it occurs can help you control it, but remember that your lifestyle can also affect your body, mind and even your sleep.  In Episode 84, Benjy and Andrew talk about something that’s directly connected to focusing your sexual energy in a productive way, and it is all about wet dreams. We will unpack what it truly means, why they happen, and what you can do about it. They also share some tips that you can do throughout the day that can help you have a more productive sleep at night.  Listen in as we try to answer questions like: How are you going to bed? What are you doing before you go to bed? What are the things that affect your sleep state in general? Upon answering the following you can learn to accept this natural phenomenon, control it, and understand why it happens to you or your body. Join us to learn more! What is a wet dream? [3:39] Practical stuff to apply to avoid wet dreams [7:00] What is lucid dreaming? [7:55] How the environment affects your dreams [9:48] Self-introspection and reflecting on your mental, emotional, and physical state [13:31] Meditating before you go to sleep [13:54] Learning to control your dreams [24:21] Helping people to grow without getting wrapped up in sexuality [30:29] The seven stages of growth [32:35] Shame should never be a part of the process [37:09] The goal is self-mastery [38:18] Click HERE for the show transcript.

#84 - Wet Dreams Discussed

Giving and receiving is one of the most essential elements of a healthy relationship. Sometimes, an imbalance between giving and receiving might cause conflicts and resentment especially if the other one does not feel appreciated or valued. It also takes a lot of commitment for the relationship to thrive, so both parties must work together in every way possible. Prioritizing what your partner needs and being sensitive is an act of love that leads to perfecting the input to bring them joy, love, and a strong feeling of connection. In this episode, Benjy and Andrew talk about the idea of input vs output and how to achieve a good outcome to feel satisfaction in our everyday lives. This is crucial at first, but it will be something that you will look forward to along the way if your goal is to make the partnership grow. They also talk about the divine principle, the idea of object consciousness, nullification, the importance of an accountability partner, the power of kindness and compassion in a relationship, handling expectations, and how to master the punch of positivity to get the best results in your sexual integrity. Before you dive into a long day of work, make sure you spend a few minutes to reflect and focus on the input and output of your actions. Join our newsletter for good quality and accessible information every week. Click here. The power of kindness in marriage [3:05] Subject consciousness [4:48] Nullification [6:29] Misconceptions about women [7:30] Commitment to grow, support and love each other [10:13] The idea of input vs. output [11:32] Practicing and mastering the punch of positivity [17:42] Believing in the future [19:14] Click HERE for the show transcript.

#83 - Input vs Output

Whenever you hear the word ‘intimacy’, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Well, for many, this word has always been associated with any sexual act. However, it’s important to know that it’s more than that. Intimacy is more than just physical affection. It’s about the connection that we have with the people close to our hearts.  Intimacy happens when two individuals are willing to be vulnerable in exposing their true selves without reservation and pretension to each other. Not only that, it lets you be more open and free to tell the deepest, darkest secrets that you have, or to share the things you are passionate about because you feel safe with that person. Intimacy is vital for every relationship to last long. So in this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about intimacy and how you can find and achieve it whether you’re single, married, or even create intimacy within yourself.  By listening to this episode, you can create a sense of intimacy that’s more genuine, grounded, real, and long-term, whatever your love language is. Andrew and Benjy share how they experienced intimacy in their lives, how they built a strong foundation of intimacy with their wives, and how they created a sense of confidence through intimacy with themselves. Get on board to learn more about intimacy, emotions, connection, and the five languages of love. Intimacy is the result, not the process. [00:26] Sex is a means to the ultimate end [1:22] Finding ways to be intimate [6:23] Porn is a temporary fill to that connection. [8:30] Reasons why people don’t pursue real intimacy [11:36] The idea of individual perfection [13:54] Intimacy is predicated on trust. [16:09] The five love languages are a helpful framework [18:05] Being reliant on superficial ways of feeling loved [20:50] How intimacy with yourself impact your relationships [24:00] Dealing with your negative emotions [30:45] Recognizing an emotion and dealing with it in a productive way [33:25] Intimacy requires presence and presence requires effort [37:24] 

#82 - What is Intimacy?

No relationship is perfect. There will come a time wherein couples go through a rough patch and it's normal. As they say, it's not always a walk-in-the-park experience. Oftentimes, these challenges are also necessary for a couple to make improvements and adjustments to save the relationship. However, failing to recognize the most obvious signs and the root of the problem may put the couple in a situation where they need to decide whether to break out of it or stay together. But regardless of the hardships, remember that if you and your partner are willing to work things out, you will be able to surpass whatever struggle comes your way. In Episode 81, we invited a self-made man who helps men who are on the brink of divorce to salvage their marriage. Geoffrey Setiawan is a Youtuber who creates videos to pursue his passion that led to an actual online course for everyone.  He’ll be sharing with us how he pivoted from data science to being someone who helps not just men but also women and how they can save their relationships and how they can learn to manage their emotions. He courageously stepped out of his comfort zone to pursue his passion and built his confidence to continue paving his path to help other people as well. We’ll discuss further the following: Common reasons for Divorce [15:34] Pillars of the Relationship [18:10] The Identity Shifting [31:24] The Paradox of Change [39:29] Conflicts as a part of life [38:27] Different terminologies If you are someone who is trying to change to save your relationship, this episode is just for you. Use the knowledge and be inspired on how you can rebuild a love better than ever.  Join us, and together let us dive deeper to learn more and reflect on the lessons from this episode! Connect with Geoffrey: Website Youtube Shownotes The term “Stonewalling” [7:41] The fundamental attribution error [8:55] Why it’s good to have differences in a relationship [16:15] Anger and emotion management [20:03] Attachment styles [28:28] Two parts of self-esteem [29:06] Meditation as a tool [33:27] Successful vs failed couples [36:13] The program “Connection equals freedom” [42:07] 

#81 - Helping Men on the Brink of Divorce | Geoffrey Setiawan

In wedding ceremonies, we often hear the words "become one flesh" which means union between two individuals. Imagine how wonderful it is to have reached that deep connection and bond filled with love and happiness. This sacred unity is also evident in a sexual relationship in marriage. While it may seem uncomfortable to talk about, you will see how beautiful it is if we will only look at it from God's perspective.  In marriages, sex helps a couple to strengthen the connection not only physically and mentally but also spiritually. Having a common understanding of the value of sex and knowing its importance and its purpose in a relationship can create a special bond between a husband and wife more than we realize. Also, intimacy and closeness can help establish a long-lasting relationship especially if it is rooted in love, respect, trust, and commitment despite many differences in so many aspects. To lead us into an insightful discussion on sexuality, intimacy, and marriage, we are joined by Cheryl Wetzstein, an award-winning journalist for over 40 years. She is happily married and is successful in her current field. In this episode, she will be sharing with us more about her journey in life- how she was able to manage to pursue her passion being a mom and a wife, and how she was able to keep a healthy relationship with her husband.  Cheryl’s writings talk about love, sex, pregnancy, marriage, parenting, marriage renewal, abortion, divorce, gay marriage, pornography, and all about the inconvenient truths of our society.  Learn more about the benefits of sex and marriage, what is sexuality, what is healthy and unhealthy sexuality, and how that pertains to sustainable sexuality and marriage and relationships. Join us and don’t forget to visit us here for us to guide you in your journey to build the life of heavenly sexuality that you deserve. Understanding what real and healthy sexuality is [2:04] How the internet changed everything [4:02] Why there’s a lot of single people in journalism [6:52] Learning how to handle fights in marriage [10:29] Benefits of sex and marriage [11:27] How a relationship can grow [12:39] Rebirth of love and passion in a marriage [14:49] Pillars of love [17:21] Studying each other’s personality types [22:23] The cuddle hormone [29:43] The problem with hypersexuality [47:09] Truly understanding love and sexuality [52:59] 

#80 - Marriage: The Benefits of Married Sex | Che Wetzstein

"If you're still waiting for your special someone, don't give up. They're out there, they're worth waiting for, and you’re worth waiting for. God has a great plan for your life.”  - Leena Vincenz-Gavin Nowadays, the evolution of technologies and social media has made it easier for everyone to communicate with each other. Even finding a person to date is now possible with just one click. In modern times like these, more and more teenagers, especially young adults, are taking risks of meeting people through dating sites leading to "meet-ups". As a result, maintaining purity has become far more difficult as you try to remain strong against the pressure and temptations around you. At the end of the day, only you can decide.  Remember that embracing purity is a long journey, and you must be prepared for the many challenges along the way. Sometimes, you may even have to remove certain people in your life especially if they are leading you back to your worldly pleasure and sinful desires. That is why you need to have the right reasons and a clear purpose for why you want to be pure.  Make sure that you want to do this because you love God and not because you are forced to do so.  In this episode, Carina Cunningham will be interviewing Leena Vincenz-Gavin, the co-director of the school of love, which is under the High Noon who helps parents have rewarding and fruitful conversations about sex with their kids.  Leena shares her own story growing up being an adolescent and how she was able to surpass all the common issues that come with it, particularly dating. She also opens up about her meaningful moments with her husband from the time they met until they grew together as a couple. As a parent, she pointed out the value of talking to children about sex. In addition, she also shares the difference between wanting a committed relationship versus looking for the right person. Join us, as we tackle how teenagers can align their goals to their values, handle peer pressure, learn the importance of prayer in their pursuit of purity. Value of purity [4:30] Seeking out my relationship with God [7:09] Aligning your values [11:08] Learning to try to let things go [17:33] Matching your goals with your values [19:25] Putting everything in God’s hand and learning to let go [23:47] Growing and learning from your experiences [27:02] Staying committed in a marriage [30:45] Value of purity in saving sex or marriage [33:32] Focusing more on the principles of creation [34:03] Learning to listen to your children [38:28] 

#79 - My Purity Journey | Leena Vincenz-Gavin

Sex is something just about everyone is interested in, yet it's so hard to find reliable, sensible information on how to create a healthy, fulfilling sexual relationship that lasts decades. Join Andrew and Sammy on their deep dive into topics like porn, masturbation, romancing your spouse, and anything to do with real, practical insight on healthy sexuality.

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