In this episode, Lara discusses expectations with Hannah Pye.  Hannah shares how she did not fulfill her dream of becoming a surgeon, and how "things that looked like a failure but can set you up for success."  She also shares her categories for managing expectations during the residency years.  This episode is sponsored by Better Help.  To learn more and get 10% off your first-month visit here.   

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#142: Managing Expectations During Residency and Beyond

Jacqueline Harounian shares her knowledge of family law and how it impacts physician spouses.   

140: Family Law and Physicians

In this episode, Lara talks with board-certified sexologist Dr. Lanae St. John about sex and stress. We cover topics from the struggles we may face in our relationships, tips to improve our sex lives and relationship, and how to teach sex positivity to our kids. Announcements Share the Podcast It would mean the world to me if you would share the podcast with your friends and family! This podcast and our community has always grown simply by word of mouth. Let's keep growing and supporting one another! Private Facebook Group and Zoom Calls   Come join our private Facebook Group. We are also doing Face to Face Zoom calls, daily check-ins, and creating a supportive community during this crazy time. If you’d like to join in, please feel welcome to do so! Feature Fridays Come join us for LIVE events in the Facebook Group! Just to name a few…we have made homemade pasta, learned how to find and understand scientific/medical articles, and participated in a paint along. All put on by fellow physician spouses! I Want to Hear from You! I am accepting blog posts if you’d like to write about your experiences! Email me at lara@marriedtodoctors.com New Sponsor BetterHelp Asking for help is so important when it comes to our mental health. I’m excited to share that I have partnered with BetterHelp. BetterHelp has licensed therapists who are certified by their state’s board to provide therapy and counseling. I’ve signed up myself and am currently using it so I have someone to talk to during this time. This service is perfect to take advantage of while during this time of social distancing. You can receive licensed counseling through video calls, phone calls, or text messaging. You will be matched with a counselor in 24 hours or less, which is one thing that I love. Plus, you can receive 10% off your first month of counseling through this link. 

#139: Sex, Stress, and More

Blogger and life coach, Kendra Harvey shares with us her experiences as a physician spouse and how life can be good at any stage.  This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.com/Married They offer a 10% discount to all listeners if you use this link.

#138: It Gets Better Now

Today's episode is a replay of episode 27.  It is a great example of reaching out for help.  With emotions close to the surface, I want to encourage all of you to know two things:  1. people care about you and your well being and 2. there are resources you can use For information on coaching with Lara visit:  https://marriedtodoctors.com/coaching/ Today's sponsor is Better Help.  For 10% off your first month, visit www.betterhelp.com/married If you are a medical professional, there is a free hotline during COVID: www.councilforrelationships.org    

#137: Asking For Help

Is it okay to laugh in the middle of a pandemic?  Lara will share some research on the healthiness of laughter and how it brings us together.  She also attempts to tell some (bad) jokes with her sister-in-law.   Enjoy! Announcements New Sponsor BetterHelp Need help to counterbalance negative emotions? I’m excited to share that I have partnered with BetterHelp. BetterHelp has licensed therapists who are certified by their state’s board to provide therapy and counseling. I’ve signed up myself and am currently using it so I have someone to talk to during this time. This service is perfect to take advantage of while during this time of social distancing. You can receive licensed counseling through video calls, phone calls, or text messaging. You will be matched with a counselor in 24 hours or less, which is one thing that I love. Plus, you can receive 10% off your first month of counseling through this link. Private Facebook Group Come join our private Facebook Group. We are also doing daily check-ins and creating a supportive community during this crazy time. If you’d like to join in, please feel welcome to do so!

136: When Lara Attempts To Be Funny

Lara shares how naming our emotions can help us have a greater sense of control over our feelings during these complicated times.  She gives personal examples and helps give words to what many of us are experiencing.  Today's episode is sponsored by Better Help. You can receive licensed counseling through video calls, phone calls, or text messaging. You will be matched with a counselor in 24 hours or less, which is one thing that I love. Plus, you can receive 10% off your first month of counseling through this link.

#135: Naming Our Emotions During COVID-19

Lara will walk you through an exercise she uses with clients to help them counterbalance their negative thinking.  She teaches you the four "magic" words that will allow room for positive as well as negative emotion when you are stressed.  Download Lara's free guide to using this tool here, or on her website, www.marriedtodoctors.com This episode is sponsored by Better Help.  To get 10% off your first-month use this link: betterhelp.com/married 

134: Counterbalancing: Making Space for Both Positive and Negative Emotion

Lara speaks with fellow physician spouse, Donna Rovito about what physician families are doing to stay safe during the COVID 19 Pandemic.  They share reasons why couples are staying together as well as reasons to separate. Read Donna's article here.  For complete show notes, visit www.marriedtodoctors.com  This Episode is sponsored by Better Help.  To get 10% off your first month, visit www.betterhelp.com/married

#133: Keeping Physician Families Safe During COVID-19

COVID-19 has created a crisis. Medical professionals are heroically serving the public without proper face masks because they don’t have them and can’t get them.  This incredible need inspired physicians, dentists, and their families to make a new mask available to print locally.  It's permanently free for anyone to produce. Join this urgent worldwide effort to help protect those caring for the sick in your community.  Visit www.makethemasks.com to learn more, including how to approach your hospital about this option.  This is episode is sponsored by Better Help.  To learn more and get 10% off your first month, visit betterhelp.com/married

Working Together to Make 3D Printed Masks an Option During COVID-19

COVID-19 is affecting our children.  Learn more about the importance of play and how to help them in this special bonus episode.  If you enjoyed this (or know someone who would) please share the new podcast, Positivity When Social Distancing with others.   

Kids and COVID-19

COVID-19 has changed our lives.  I discuss briefly a few resources for you, including my new podcast: Positivity When Social Distancing.  Then I share an interview with a dual physician couple.  They discuss how they work together, gender differences, and feelings of jealousy that can arise even though they are both practicing medicine. 

#131: Working Together as a Dual Physician Household

In episode 130, Lara interviews Shane Tenny of Spaugh Dameron, Tenny to discuss ways he has seen couples demonstrate various levels of financial infidelity.  They explore how finances and our conversations about money affect our marriages. 

#130: Financial Infidelity

Our favorite resources:  https://coronavirus.jhu.edu/  This is a good all-around website with information for both the public and healthcare providers alike.    Home care for patients with suspected novel coronavirus (COVID-19) infection presenting with mild symptoms, and management of their contacts The article describes in detail how to care for yourself and others at home in a fashion to prevent others from catching the illness, too. https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/hcp/guidance-risk-assesment-hcp.html This link gives practical definition, stratification, and guidelines to exposure of healthcare professionals, which we can extrapolate to some degree to the public as we all start to come in contact with others, who turn out to be infected. https://www.jhsph.edu/podcasts/public-health-on-call Podcast from Johns Hopkins on COVID-19. https://marriedtodoctors.com/beyond-disney-plus-18-ways-to-keep-sane-if-self-isolating-with-older-kids/ Ideas when practicing social distancing.   

#129.5 Bonus: COVID 19 and Physician Families

Few things are more terrifying than adverse outcomes when working as a physician, but when you add litigation anyone would be stressed.   In this episode Lara and Dr. Dearmin discuss how malpractice effects the physician, and the relationships at home. You'll leave with ideas of how to support your loved one should they ever be faced with these challenges.  

#129 Impacts of Malpractice Litigation

The Married to Doctors podcast pushes away the stereotypical "doctor-wife" image and is a space where people from all different backgrounds can find a community, explore solutions and share stories about the unique challenges that come from being in a relationship where medicine often feels like the extra partner. We discuss loneliness, debt, communication, romance, moving, parenting and more.  The host of Married to Doctors is Lara McElderry, a trauma surgeon's wife, who has been navigating the medical world for the last seventeen years as she’s supported her husband through medical school, residency, a specialty change, fellowship, as well as raising five boys. She hopes the podcast will inspire others to share and implement ideas for how to make successful homes happier. Thank you, subscribers, for the amazing reviews!

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