Nearly 8 months after coming on the podcast to commiserate about being in a dating drought, Erica Shea is back on to share how she found her person and has built a happy and healthy relationship. Erica shares what changed for her in her dating life and mindset leading up to meeting him, their romcom-worthy meet-cute, and how going slow allowed her to feel more secure. She shares how they both knew it was right, and we hear what it’s been like introducing each other to their families and planning to move in together soon. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Seeing Other People

From Hopelessly Single to Happily In Love

I'm joined by Brianna McCabe, author of "The Red Flags I Repeatedly Ignored" to discuss why it's so important to consider our role in the things that happen to us. We chat about how our self-worth, friendships, and alcohol consumption all relate to the dating and relationship experiences we have, and why it's incredibly important to look within at our personal red flags. We discuss behaviors we've exhibited in the past that we're horrified about now, why the answers are always right there in front of us, and why college drinking and hookup culture has gotten out of hand.  Get "The Red Flags I Repeatedly Ignored" on Amazon!  Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Red Flags I Repeatedly Ignored

I'm joined by my childhood friend Jordan who made a sudden move from New York to Amsterdam, four years ago. Jordan shares why she took the risk to move to a new country, how her family and friends reacted to the news, and what it was like picking up and starting a new life in a new place. Jordan opens up about how she approached making friends, establishing roots, dating, and feeling comfortable and at home in a foreign country. We hear how she met her now longterm boyfriend and what her fears were surrounding meeting someone abroad and how that would impact her future. Jordan gives us incredible advice for taking chances, making the most of life, and not having any regrets.  Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Moved Abroad and Found Myself (& Found Love)

Emma Wilson, Life Coach and host of the Turning 30 Podcast, joins the show today! Emma and I discuss how to navigate feeling like you’re falling behind. We about the pressure we’ve felt at different phases of our lives to have it all figured out and get to that next stage, and why it’s so much better to wait for the right person rather than saying yes to one you don’t feel sure about. Emma opens up about breaking off a four-year long relationship at the age of 33 and how instead of setting her back, it set her free. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Accept The Timeline You're On

TW: This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around eating disorders and body image.  My friend Elana Rubin joins the show today to open up about how her struggle with disordered eating and body image has impacted her self-confidence, relationships, and dating life. She shares how a conversation with a boy when she was fourteen changed the way she viewed herself and had a lasting impact on her self-worth. Elana vulnerably discusses how she's worked through her struggles, what she's learned in therapy, and where she's at now.  Check out Elana's horror comedy short film Scalped and follow along on Instagram @scalpedmovie   Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Overcoming My Body Image & Self Worth Insecurities”

I’m joined by celebrity fitness trainer, Daniel McKenna, AKA The Irish Yank, to hear about how becoming mentally and physically stronger can transform your confidence and change your dating life. We discuss why fitness has the ability to get someone through a difficult time, and how to get yourself to go to the gym if you’re intimidated. Daniel shares what he’s observed from his female clients when it comes to their dating lives. We hear what he wishes women understood about men and what he sees women struggling with in dating. We debate whether couples who work out together, stay together, and how we can rewrite a healthier narrative for ourselves surrounding going to the gym and working out.  Follow Daniel @theirish_yank, learn more at irishyank.com, and download Daniel’s incredible at home workout app at irishyank.app Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Becoming Mentally and Physically Stronger Changes Your (Dating) Life

On this week's Unfiltered episode, I’m joined by Mitchell, a 26-year from Minnesota who shares his experience starting a situation off casual, but later having it turn to more. We discuss how "box theory" doesn't account for how dynamic we are as individuals and how our feelings are constantly evolving. Mitchell opens up about learning from each dating experience and relationship he's had, and how he holds himself accountable for not making the same mistake twice. Finally, we discuss the pros and cons of dating as an introvert. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Learning From Past Dating Mistakes"

Remi Stern, life coach, and her husband Jonathan are cohosts of the "You're Allowed to Hate Your Hubsand" podcast. Remi and Jonathan join the show to talk about what they were looking for when they met each other, the expectations vs. realities of marriage, and how they view marriage as a dedication vs. "work." Jonathan shares how he thinks women can approach dating in a better way, and we discuss how we can shift our mindsets to have less pain and more success in our dating lives and relationships. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What To Look For When Dating To Find a Life Partner

I'm joined by Jacob, a 28 year old in NYC who opens up about going from a tumultuous, long distance, on again off again relationship to now being one year into a healthy relationship with someone he met on Hinge. We hear what his frustrations were when navigating the apps for the first time, what stood out about his now-girlfriend's profile, and how they stayed in touch when she went away for a few weeks after their first date. He shares how guys vs girls in his life approach dating when it comes to texting and overthinking. Finally, Jacob and I answer listener questions about exclusivity, photos of exes on Instagram, and more. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are Guys Overthinking Everything, Too?

I'm joined by Garin Flowers, writer, journalist, communications expert, and former Bachelorette contestant. We chat about how long you should wait to see if chemistry develops, how to talk about your values and dating goals on a first date, and whether or not a first-date kiss is a reflection on how the date actually went. Garin shares what he learned about dating and confidence from being on The Bachelorette, as well as how being a journalist has helped him navigate communicating on dates. We answer listener questions about moving in with your partner against your parents' wishes, dates ending after going deep, and always being the 5th wheel.  Follow Garin on Instagram at @garinflowers, TikTok at @garinflowers and subscribe to Garin's Youtube Channel youtube.com/@gflowers Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

First Date Conversations You Need To Be Having with Garin Flowers

This weeks unfiltered guest joins us to open up about reconnecting with two people from her past, almost two decades later. She shares what she learned from the experience, what surprised her, and if she would recommend reaching out to your ex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I Reconnected With My Ex After 17 Years & Learned THIS"

TW: This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around eating disorders and body image. Dr. Rachel Goldman, PHD Psychologist and Speaker, joins the podcast to share her expertise on how to overcome some of the biggest challenges that women are facing when it comes to dating, self love, and confidence. We discuss the pressures that society and social media put on us when it comes to how to look, what we're doing, and what our timelines are. Dr. Rachel explains why we should strive to feel "good enough" in our daily lives instead of perfect. Follow Dr. Rachel on Instagram at @drrachelnyc and learn more at https://www.drrachelnyc.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Believe You're Good Enough For What You Want

My maid of honor Julia (!!!) and her fiancé Luke join the show to share their experiences dating while Julia went through medical school and now her residency. We hear what drew them to each other on Coffee Meets Bagel and how their app date turned into a livelong love story. We discuss what how their relationship changed when Julia became a med student, what sacrifices and compromises they each had to make, and how they worked through Julia’s demanding schedule together. We chat about their move to LA for her residency and what it was like moving across the country and moving in together at the same time. Finally, they give their best tips for anyone navigating a relationship where one partner is in school or has a job that requires a lot of their time and energy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So You Don't Think You Have Time To Date?

Talia Koren AKA @dating.intentionally and I sit down to discuss why dating is so damn hard and what steps we can take to make it suck less. We hear about Talia’s recent engagement, how she and her now-fiancé built a strong foundation, why she was dating other people when she met him, and how she gave a chance to someone who wasn’t her usual type. We discuss the importance of experimenting with different dating styles, testing out dating advice, and finding what works for you. We chat about love bombing vs. general interest, accepting that you and your ex weren’t compatible, dating a bad texter, and more.  Check out Dating Intentionally on Spotify and follow Talia at @dating.intentionally on Instagram   https://intentionally.dating/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stop Overcomplicating Your Dating Life

Kristina Kane, Actress and Host of Dirty Daytini, joins the show to discuss some hard truths she’s learned throughout dating. We discuss the differences in dating in LA vs NY, how we healed from toxic relationships, going after what we want,  tailoring our profiles to help attract the right person, and more.  Follow Kristina on Instagram @itskristinakane and listen to @dirtydaytini wherever you get your podcasts!  Watch the Tyler Perry “Let Them Go” video here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Healing From Toxicity & Learning Hard Truths

Modern dating sucks, but dating expert Ilana Dunn is here to make it suck just a little bit less. Join host Ilana and both well-known and anonymous, unfiltered guests as they navigate the complexities and realities of modern dating. From first dates to breakups, they’re not afraid to bare all as they dive deep into what it means to be single, in a relationship, or anything in between. Whether you're looking for love, or just want to laugh and commiserate with others, tune in to explore the rollercoaster that is the ever-evolving world of dating. And in the meantime, follow along @seeingotherpeople to feel a little less alone.

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