The standards of masculinity are not exactly clear. On one end of the spectrum, you have the guy driving a Prius who’s in touch with his feelings, does yoga, drinks kombucha, has tons of female friends and rejects all forms of violence. On the other end, you have the guy driving a giant pick up truck who’s addicted to violence, porn, hating women, dominating men, and who rejects anything perceived as “feminine” such as admitting any kind of weakness or asking for help. There has to be a middle ground. Perhaps a dude in a BMW addicted to violent yoga? I don’t know. But it’s clear that with the rise of the #MeToo movement, rampant sexual violence and addiction, the normalization of misogynistic hate groups and the fact that an entire generation of young men are now being vastly outnumbered by women in college admissions, men are at a crisis point. Can men be fixed? This week’s guest, Traver Boehm believes they can. And he’s just the guy to do it. Traver Boehm knows men. How they think, what’s behind their behavior, and most importantly — their unique challenges in today’s evolving landscape. Traver is the the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, the author of Man UNcivilized as well as a two time TEDx speaker, and podcaster. Traver believes that many men are suffering from unprocessed trauma, more often than not, inflicted by other men. Of course, as one of millions of women who’ve had to endure unchecked male privilege, nauseating mansplaining, being paid less than male colleagues for the same work, sexual impropriety, walking through parking lots with keys laced through my fingers, being completely diminished, ignored, and charged more for just about everything, I have a somewhat difficult time feeling sorry for the apex predator. On the other hand, I honestly like men and I think it would benefit everyone if the broken ones seriously got their shit together. This is will not be an easy conversation for some of you to hear. If I somehow offend you with my feminist point of view, please know that I don’t fucking care. (See list of justifiable complaints above). To find out more about Traver Boehm’s work, the courses he offers, and his live workshops and retreats, go to manuncivilized.com You can find Traver online @traverboehm and see his TEDx talk here. If you occasionally get naked with men, and you want to take your pleasure and happiness to the next level, be sure to order a copy of my new book, 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, an Amazon #1 New Release in Sexual Health. For every copy that’s sold, I promise to buy myself an unsweetened iced tea. See? Everybody wins! Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!    

Sex Ed The Musical

HOW TO FIX MEN -- WITH TRAVER BOEHM

 For years I’ve been extolling the health benefits of masturbation. But did you know buzzing one off on the daily could lead to a lucrative career? That’s right. You can be a sex toy reviewer!!! Now, before you think just about anyone can become the Pauline Kael of strap-ons, you have to realize that this job takes dedication, a relatively fearless snatch and genuine writing talent. In fact, there’s one person who’s basically cornered the market to the point where she is quite rightfully, America’s #1 Sex Toy Reviewer — Hey Epiphora! Having been featured in featured in Playboy, Slate, Women’s Health, VICE, and many other major outlets, Epiphora’s relentlessly honest sex toy reviews have earned her the reputation as one of the most trusted and smart voices in the world of dirty stuff. Having been in this game for over a decade and personally tested and reviewed just about every ridiculous pleasure product invented since 2008, Epiphora is now the proud owner of more than 800 sex toys and counting. In fact, here are some amazing photos of her vast and impressive collection. I don’t know about you, but I’ll never look at those over the door shoe storage things at Bed Bath and Beyond the same way again. On this episode, Epiphora shares her humble beginnings as a college girl with a dream, to how her very discerning vagina (and writing talent) have helped her become America’s “trusted source for relentlessly honest sex toy reviews and snarky musings.” She shares her opinions on… All time favorite sex toys to Sex toys that could (quite possibly) kill you and just about everything in between. It also turns out, we share quite a few opinions on long distance toys, remote controlled sex toys, one very popular “couples” sex toy we both did not enjoy at all, and the greatest, completely accidental pleasure product of all time, that just so happens to have a very well-known, conservative manufacturer that had its name removed from the product so as not to be associated with any kind of fun dirty stuff. Her buzz-worthy review is here. To find out more about Epiphora’s amazing work, you can follow her at: Twitter: @Epiphora https://twitter.com/Epiphora Instagram: @HeyEpiphora https://www.instagram.com/heyepiphora/ Facebook: @HeyEpiphora https://www.facebook.com/HeyEpiphora/ To add even more fun and pleasure to your life, be sure to order your copy of my new book 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted, an Amazon #1 New Release in Sexual Health. Sex Ed The Musical participates in the affiliate program at Amazon. We may receive commissions for items purchased on this site.    

AMERICA'S #1 SEX TOY REVIEWER

 Has your sex drive vanished? Are you no longer interested in intimacy? Would you rather spend 45 minutes waiting in line for a vegan taquito sample at Costco, than have sex? Well…you’re not alone. In April 2018, Pamela Joy delivered the TEDx talk, Reclaiming Female Sexual Desire, which has been viewed nearly 2,000,000 times. Her brave and personal story clearly struck a note with all of the other women facing this exact challenge. In fact, looking for a solution to her sex life, changed the trajectory of her entire life. Pamela left a career in high tech and founded Down To There to share her real-life stories of challenges and successes around sexuality in her marriage. Now, through her writing, speaking and coaching, she hopes to inspire individuals and couples to find ways to renew and deepen desire and intimacy in their own relationships. On this episode, she offers solutions for: Finding a middle ground for the desire discrepancy between you and your partner. How to get out of the pattern of having painful “obligation sex” with your partner. How simple things such as your morning cup of coffee or the smell of your favorite shampoo can lead to an increase in your sexual pleasure. And much, much more. A lack or a complete loss of sexual desire is a problem that affects not just millions of women but people of all genders and sexual orientations. Whether it’s sharing these stories with your friends or seeking the help of a professional sex and intimacy coach, there is hope. Pamela Joy, M.A. is a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach (CSC) and has a Masters in Counseling Psychology. She is available for private online coaching sessions for couples and individuals who want more pleasure, more intimacy and more connection in their relationships. You can contact her directly at pamela@downtothere.com or 1-650-887-4751.   If you’re looking for other ways to enjoy a happy and healthy relationship, be sure to check out my new book, 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted. An Amazon #1 New Release in Sexual Health, it’s been called, “An NSFW Masterclass in maintaining a Happy, Healthy, Sexy relationship!” I completely agree! Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please follow, share and subscribe wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d be so kind as to leave us a 5-Star Review, we’d gratefully appreciate it. Check out my writing on Medium.com here! Including a very special excerpt from my 3 Secrets To The Happy & Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!   Sex Ed The Musical participates in the affiliate program at Amazon. We may receive commissions for items purchased here.  

HOW TO GET YOUR SEXY BACK WITH PAMELA JOY

 “Make failure your fuel.” —Abby Wambach   About 4 years ago, after I left Playboy, I was feeling completely directionless in my career. Overnight all of my structure, value and access to unlimited free lube had vanished. I had not vision for my future. Looking for some next-level guidance, I reached out to a Shaman I had met a few months earlier at a retreat. She point blank asked me, "Exactly what is it you want to do?" Without even thinking I replied, "I want to help women and laugh all day." She looked at me softly in this very knowing way and said, "Then do that." Uhhh… So, I did exactly that. As you’re about to hear in this episode, this is a story of almost having everything, then losing almost everything, then finding a whole new success powered by a world renown soccer player and a litany of complete indifference. That might be the worst logline ever. Or the best. Just listen to this very special episode and all of it will make perfect sense. Here’s the link to Abby Wambach’s life-changing speech at Barnard College. Here’s the link to my life-changing book. Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please follow, share and subscribe wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d be so kind as to leave us a 5-Star Review, we’d gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! Including a very special excerpt from my new book, 3 Secrets To The Happy & Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!    

MAKE FAILURE YOUR FUEL

 Welcome Back! Yep, I’ve taken a few weeks off this summer to release my first book, 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted which, I am thrilled to announce is a…   A Top 100 Book on Amazon and the #1 NEW RELEASE IN SEXUAL HEALTH!   I wrote this book because I realized that millions of people are caught up in toxic relationship overthinking. They’re constantly repeating the same mistakes and bad decisions with no idea how to change this behavior. In my work as a Sexologist and the creator of premium, sex-positive programming, I’ve discovered if you really want to have a happy and healthy relationship, you only need to do 3 things. And one of the things has nothing to do with your partner at all! Once you put my 3 Secrets into play, a lifetime of love, happiness and fun can follow. 3 Secrets To The Happy & Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted is a completely clear and candid roadmap to relationship success, offering ADVANCED SEX TIPS, TOYS, and ROMANTIC ADVENTURES that will turn you into a Stealth Superfreak. Plus, IRRESISTIBLE AND SIMPLE RECIPES designed to set the table for romance. In addition, the book features an entire section specifically designed to empower women to become the AUTHENTIC, SHAMELESS, POWERFUL, SELF-LOVING, EPIC BADASSES they’ve always wanted to be. Whether you've been with a partner for years or you're currently single, this is the last relationship book you'll ever need. Oh and fellas…trust me when I tell you that this book is THE PERFECT GIFT for your female partner. Trust. Me. Now, I’m super thrilled to be sharing the most downloaded episode from the past season. I know it resonated with a lot of you. I found a funny quote the other day. It says… “Dating after 30 is easy. It’s like riding a bike. Only the bike is on fire. And the ground is on fire. Everything is on fire. Because you are in hell.” Okay. Now imagine dating after 50! On this week’s show, I interview actress, voice artist and my good pal, Mari Weiss. Mari was on the podcast nearly two years ago in an episode called How Being Tied Up Released Me. She shared an amazing story about dating a guy who slowly-yet-firmly led her into the world of BDSM. Her first surprise was how willing she was to obey him. Her second surprise was how much she enjoyed it. Before and since then, Mari, like many other single folks, has gone on more than her share of dates. But unlike the days when you’re 25 and sprucing yourself up to no end in order to meet some grown man in a baseball cap, when you’re 50+ you have a lot more perspective on life. You’re also probably not so interested in putting up with anyone’s bullshit. We talk about what causes women, particularly, to constantly set our own feelings aside and put up with people who are clearly unkind and/or unworthy of us. And why it’s a radical idea to enjoy being single and child free. Which, according to science, is actually the healthiest option out there for women. I also touch on losing my best friend and how I traveled to Chicago to scatter her ashes in a sacred temple I will not be naming. Let’s just say, all of its followers are true blue. Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please follow, share and subscribe wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d be so kind as to leave us a 5-Star Review, we’d gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! Including a very special excerpt from my new book, 3 Secrets To The Happy & Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!    

DATING OVER 50 - WITH MARI WEISS - FAN FAVORITE

Imagine if your job is selling a product that is likely be rejected by 29 out of 30 buyers. Those are terrible odds. Well if you’re a TV producer trying to sell new shows, that’s a pretty typical fail rate. On this episode I speak with Dave Noll, a wildly successful TV producer who has created, pitched and sold some of the most iconic TV shows in history, including the Food Network mega-hit franchise, Chopped. But Dave’s path to the chopping block was loaded with booby traps, ridiculous detours, and, at one point, an angry butler and a dog. I’m telling you right now, it’s a miracle any TV shows get made. In this really fun conversation, Dave shares his rocky road to the top of the TV heap and how every rejection is actually a positive thing. Plus, to keep him nervous, we play a very fun game where I test his knowledge of TV shows about sex. His answers genuinely surprise me. If you want to follow along with Dave’s amazing adventures in the crazy world of creating and selling TV shows, you can follow him on LinkedIn, Instagram or Twitter @davenolltv. Even if you’re not a TV geek like me, all of his stories are inspiring and ridiculously entertaining. REMEMBER, TO GET YOUR EXCLUSIVE, COMPLETELY FREE, SNEAKY PEEKY CHAPTER OF MY BRAND NEW BOOK, “3 SECRETS TO THE HAPPY AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP YOU’VE ALWAYS F*CKING WANTED” COMING OUT LATER THIS SUMMER, SIMPLY EMAIL ME AT INFO@SEXEDTHEMUSICAL.COM. Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!

DAVE NOLL -- WHY GETTING CHOPPED IS GOOD

Earlier this week, an active player in the NFL made huge news. Carl Nassib, a defensive end for the Las Vegas Raiders came out as gay. As of this writing, he is the only openly gay active NFL player. Hopefully, he won’t be alone for long. “Carl Nassib’s powerful coming out is a historic reflection of the growing state of LGBTQ visibility and inclusion in the world of professional sports, which has been driven by a long list of brave LGBTQ athletes who came before him,” said GLAAD President & CEO Sarah Kate Ellis. “As an accomplished athlete who is now the first out gay active player in the NFL, Carl Nassib’s story will not only have a profound impact on the future of LGBTQ visibility and acceptance in sports, but sends a strong message to so many LGBTQ people, especially youth, that they too can one day grow up to be and succeed as a professional athlete like him.” Representation matters. But for every massive step forward, there remain hundreds of steps backwards. According the Human Rights Campaign, “2021 has officially surpassed 2015 as the worst year for anti-LGBTQ legislation in recent history.” The HRC reports that more than 250 anti-LGBTQ bills have been introduced in state legislatures in 2021, including at least 35 bills that would prohibit transgender youth from being able to access age-appropriate, gender-affirming medical care. So when a badass defensive end for the Raiders, of all teams, comes out as gay and then makes a $100,000 donation to The Trevor Project, make no mistake, it’s a big fucking deal. Okay, but what does this have to do with my life? Well… Let’s imagine you’re sitting down with your 10 year-old for a dinner of mac and cheese, chicken nuggets and grapes. All on separate plates, of course. On the table there’s a box of spilled apple juice, a few Snoopy stickers and several dried out markers. Soccer gear is strewn on the floor alongside a few of this morning’s Cheerios and a naked Barbie missing half of her hair. It’s just another day. Until your kid turns to you and says, “Mom, I think I’m a lesbian.” How would you react in that moment? For many parents this is a moment they never saw coming, but it got there. Fast. What should you say? What shouldn’t you say? Were you completely surprised? Have you always known but never really accepted it? How do you hear this and let your child know that they’re safe and loved and what they’re feeling is perfectly okay? It’s a situation that millions of parents have faced. And thanks to increasing positive role models and representation, the average age of children coming out has dropped from their early 20s to anywhere between 14 and 16. Parents shouldn’t just assume their children are straight until proven otherwise. Even if your kid has a different identity in two years or two months, it’s important to support how they feel today. But where do you start? On this episode, a repeat of one of my most downloaded episodes, I speak with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Childhood Mental Health Specialist, Melody Parks https://www.parkstherapy.com/. She reveals the struggles that children of all backgrounds must navigate and gives parents tools to help their children know that they’re loved, supported and safe regardless of sexual orientation. I also speak with a friend whose 13 year-old daughter decided to come out during a family vacation. Blindsided, the mother responded in the best way she could. How you respond to your child’s coming out can be what keeps your kid alive. I’ve also found several very helpful resources for parents of LGBT kids: https://www.stonewall.org.uk/help-advice/coming-out/coming-out-advice-and-guidance-parents https://pflag.org/sites/default/files/OUR%20CHILDREN_PFLAGNational_FINAL.pdf https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/teen/dating-sex/Pages/Four-Stages-of-Coming-Out.aspx https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/tips-for-parents-of-lgbtq-youth https://nccc.georgetown.edu/documents/LGBT_Brief.pdf https://www.insider.com/what-to-do-when-someone-comes-out-2017-12 I also recommend the book: This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids: A Question & Answer Guide to Everyday Life Being gay is not a crime and it’s not a sin. Some people believe that having an LGBTQ child means they somehow failed as a parent. Disowning your child means you failed as a parent. I think most experts will agree that the best thing you can say to your child when they come out is: I Love You. That is the perfect place to start.  

OKAY, MY KID IS GAY -- RAINBOW REPEAT!

There are lots of men. Straight men who are often married with children. Navy SEALs, football players, construction workers, lawyers, doctors, mechanics, factory workers — you name it. Just regular guys…who happen to prefer to have sex with other guys. Are they gay? Not if you ask them. Sexual identity is complex. On this show I speak with The Straight Guy Whisperer, a gay man whose sexual partners are almost exclusively straight, married men. We talk about why these men reach out to him, what they’re really looking for, and the surprising reasons a gay man can be the safest partner for a straight guy. The Straight Guy Whisperer might sound familiar to my regular listeners. He’s the expert in my SECOND MOST POPULAR EPISODE OF ALL TIME: Expert BlowJob Tips From A Gay Man. This guy knows his way around another man and the fact that he almost exclusively hooks up with straight guys should tell you that he understands their pleasure on a level many women do not. At least not yet, anyway. Are these straight guys really closet homosexuals or bisexual? Can you exclusively have sex with someone of the same sex but still be 100% straight? A lot of that has to do with how you personally identify and what that really means. After all, at its core, your sexual identity is a label that you use to help others categorize you. As Toni Morrison famously said, “Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined.” Regardless, we can all get caught up in labels and panic and fear when it comes to sexual identity. Even though, when it all comes down to it…Pleasure is Pleasure. Happiness is Happiness. And Love is Love. Regardless of how you identify, there’s going to be something very enlightening for you in this conversation. REMEMBER, TO GET AN EXCLUSIVE, COMPLETELY FREE SNEAK PREVIEW CHAPTER OF MY BRAND NEW BOOK COMING OUT THIS SUMMER, EMAIL ME AT INFO@SEXEDTHEMUSICAL.COM AND LET ME KNOW WHERE TO SEND IT. Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!  

THE LOWDOWN ON THE DOWN LOW

Imagine one day you’re heartbroken, alone, and then to make matters worse, totally rejected by some random stranger in a seedy basement sex shop in New York. But within a few years, you are transformed into the most desirable woman in the room. This amazing metamorphosis really happened, and you’re about to find out how. On this week’s podcast, I speak to the Swinging Single Girl. We follow her story as she transforms from a brokenhearted reject into the most coveted person in a room full of sexy people. This is exactly the kind of evolution that can happen when you believe in yourself, embrace a life of adventure, and are completely open to the world's most interesting possibilities. You’ll learn what it’s like to completely reinvent yourself in the swinging lifestyle, important lessons about setting boundaries both sexual and personal, and understanding the difference between love and just random sex with your friends…things we can all benefit from mastering. Whether or not you’re interested in becoming part of this lifestyle, it doesn’t matter. Having spent five seasons on the set of the hit reality show Swing on Playboy TV, working alongside and then befriending many people in the lifestyle, I learned incredible lessons about my own closed-mindedness, why I was so defiantly boring, and that BBC doesn’t always stand for the British Broadcasting Corporation. You’ll have to trust me on that one. One of many topless women to have hugged me while I was at work, The Swinging Single Girl is incredibly honest, communicative, and self-aware — one of the many benefits of being in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Even if you can’t identify with her journey and life choices, there’s an awful lot anyone can learn here. Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!

THE SWINGING SINGLE GIRL

Would you ever consider having an open marriage? In the Colonial Era, marriage was largely about property and procreation. Of course, back then the average life expectancy was about 36 years old. Which means, “till death do us part” wasn’t really that long of a commitment. The modern idea of marriage as being about romance, companionship and registering for new dishes at Macy’s, didn’t emerge until the last couple of centuries. As society’s goals and structure changed over time, its rules and expectations of marriage evolved along with them. Now, marriage seems to be at a brand new crossroads. A recent study revealed that remarkable transformations in relationships have occurred over the past several decades. 20% of adults have engaged in some form of consensual non-monogamy and the public’s interest in polyamory is clearly on the rise. Despite the allure of sex with numerous groovy partners with no retribution, creating a successful, ethically non-monogamous relationship has an extremely high degree of difficulty. But, if you consider that 45% of all marriages fail anyway, maybe it’s worth the risk? On this episode, I speak with The Sex Guru℠, Dr. Stephanie Hunter Jones. A clinical sexologist, and nationally recognized sex and relationship expert who’s been featured in Playboy, People and Time, she answers such questions as: How to know if you’re stable enough to open up your relationship. The best time to open up a relationship. How to start the conversation safely and ethically. How adding a new play partner can completely reinvigorate a stale relationship. Even if an open relationship isn’t for you, there’s a lot you can learn from Dr. Jones about the advanced levels of communication, honesty and understanding required to have a successful open relationship…and, actually, a traditional relationship as well. Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!

SECRETS OF AN OPEN MARRIAGE

 In the early scenes of the Hitchcock masterpiece, Psycho, we see star Janet Leigh in a white bra and slip. These images were even featured on movie posters, which was quite scandalous for 1960. However, later in the film, after Marion has unmarried sex, steals thousands of dollars and becomes a fugitive, Hitchcock presents her in a black bra to illustrate she’s now a good girl turned bad. Nothing can tell a woman’s story quite like her underwear. For ages and ages, women’s lingerie has been a subject of great fascination and fetishization. From vintage Sears catalogs to an entire pageant featuring stately models clad in lingerie and angel wings (???), some folks simply can’t get enough of ladies in their unmentionables. For many women, however, bras can also be a subject of great annoyance, shame, and abject disappointment. ESPECIALLY if you’re a “full figured girl” as movie bombshell Jane Russell used to say in Playtex bra commercials from the 70s and 80s. Finding foundations that fit can be challenging for more voluptuous bodies and though, to some it may seem like a high class problem, I assure you it’s much more of a high class pain in the ass. Enter Jenette Bras. As they say on their website… "Most women blessed with a figure like ours are wearing the wrong size bra. Chances are that right now half of your boob is bulging out somewhere or other. I call it Mall Bra Syndrome. It’s a low inventory, low wage, low skill business model that just about works for gals up to a C-cup, if they’re not too picky. If you need a bigger cup you’re likely to be offered a bigger band instead. Seriously? Instead of fitting bras to our bodies, they expect our bodies to fit their limited selection of bras. Well, I come from a long line of women who are big on bosom and short on patience. So, enough already." Jenette Goldstein, a working actress who appeared in numerous blockbuster films and hit TV shows, decided to do something about the difficulties of finding a perfectly-fitted bra for the “full figured gal.” So she opened Jenette Bras, where their slogan is, “The alphabet starts at D.” Since I totally qualify and was in dire need for some new foundations thanks to a 50 pound weight loss, I headed over to their brand new Burbank, CA store where, and I am not kidding, my life changed. How did my life change at a bra shop? Great question, thanks for asking. As you’re about to hear in this episode, it was thanks to a simple photo, snapped at my request, by highly trained bra fitter. For the first time in my life, I finally saw what my body really looked like. And I liked it. In this interview we cover… How Jenette convinced director James Cameron to shoot her and her plentiful rack in a very specific way How bra sizes are completely arbitrary, meaningless and stupid The importance of being professionally fitted for a bra Why spending more for a handmade bra makes a lot of sense When it’s actually okay to get a cheap bra The surprising physical trait shared by Black women and Jewish women I also get very real about my own personal struggles with body issues and trauma. This episode is about a lot more than tits, but, we all know that’s always a great place to start. Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!       Janet Leigh photo from Psycho, Unknown author, Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons  

ROCKING YOUR RACK WITH JENETTE BRAS

This week we’re erasing the stigma of singledom to help solo people literally embrace their badass selves with Your Friendly Neighborhood Sexologist Dr. Megan Stubbs. Face it, quite a few of us spent the past year completely isolated and alone. No longer able to connect with others in person, millions have been dealing with touch deprivation. Even some partnered people are touch deprived. In her new book, Playing Without A Partner: A Singles’ Guide To Sex, Dating and Happiness, Dr. Stubbs offers all sorts of creative solutions for you to become your own best friend in the bedroom. Episode Topics Include How the pandemic wreaked havoc on millions of sex lives. An encouraging increase in diversity in the world of Sexologists. The sudden explosion of unqualified people branding themselves as Sex and Intimacy Coaches. The surprising change in rules around New York’s many gloryholes. The best ways to create a sense of touch and pleasure, even when you’re a party of one. Megan Stubbs is a sexologist, relationship expert, and body image specialist. With her degrees in biology and human sexuality, she is able to combine two of her favorite things, science and sex, into a cohesive platform to impact her audience. She is mindful of inclusion and brings a sensitivity to ethnic diversity rooted in her own complex heritage. She believes that sex should be fun and uses her lighthearted, intelligent, and humorous delivery to make it happen. She has been featured in many popular outlets including Playboy, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Self, Men's Health, Woman's Health, and Bustle to name a few. To find out more about Dr. Megan Stubbs, visit her website, https://www.sexologistmegan.com/ today. You can also follow her online @sexologistmegan. Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com. Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!         Disclosure: Sex Ed The Musical is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com. This post contains affiliate links. Any sales made through such links may net me a small commission – at absolutely no extra cost to you. When you make a purchase using an Amazon link, you help to offset the high price of producing this podcast and/or my breakfast taco addiction. Thank you!  

SEXOLOGIST DR. MEGAN STUBBS -- PLAYING WITHOUT A PARTNER

There’s a famous saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” Yet, despite all of the red flags, when it comes to dating, some people keep making the same mistakes over and over again and keep wondering why they just can’t find the right person. On this episode, I interview Mindset Mastery coach, Stephanie Kwong. Known as a secret weapon who helps people get to their next level, Stephanie uses her unique training to help her clients break through old patterns and rewire their subconscious in order to make extraordinary shifts in their lives. But what really attracted me to this story was the fact that Stephanie herself had a pattern of choosing one bad partner after another with the same disastrous results. The teacher became the student and using her own modalities she rewired her own subconscious and, finally trusting herself, found the love of her life a thousand miles away. She’s practically living in a Hallmark movie — only without the obscure Canadian actors and fake snow. So, whether you’re looking to break out of your negative dating patterns to find “the one,” or you’re interested in making a different kind of shift in your life, Stephanie is just the coach who can help you rewire your subconscious, and get out of your own way to manifest the life of your dreams with ease. Listen, Laugh, and Learn how to fall in love with the right person. To work with Stephanie or find out more, visit her website - https://www.stephaniekwong.com/ Follow her on Instagram @iamstephaniekwong And you can find her on Facebook @stephaniekaikwong   Hey friends, I have a brand new book coming out this summer. To get your free sneak preview chapter email me at info@sexedthemusical.com and I’ll send it your way! Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com. Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!  

REWIRING YOURSELF TO FIND LOVE WITH STEPHANIE KWONG

“Our next comic is a comedienne, so please be nice…” You may have heard on the previous podcast that last week was a particularly crappy week for me. I needed some serious cheering up. So, I called in the big guns and reached out to one of the funniest people I know. As one of the country's top comedians, Cathy Ladman is a fearless, anxiety-venting performer who draws huge laughs from such taboo subjects as her battle with anorexia to the endless indignities of menopause. At the top of the comedy world for nearly 40 years, Cathy appeared nine times on The Tonight Show. Johnny Carson was such a fan that she was the only female comic to appear on the last two of Johnny’s Tonight Show Anniversary specials. She’s made numerous appearances on The Late Late Show, had her own HBO One Night Stand comedy special, and was awarded the American Comedy Award for Best Female Stand Up Comic. A successful comedy writer for television, she’s also a versatile actor who has appeared in such acclaimed shows as Mad Men, Curb Your Enthusiasm, How To Get Away With Murder, Pretty Little Liars, and Modern Family to name a few. Cathy and I have a lot of fun talking about her early days in clubs, which comedy legends were big part of her nightly childhood bedtime routine, and then I give her some insider tips for turning her recent cancer treatment into a wealth of comedy material. I’m helpful that way. You can see Cathy Ladman live April 23 and 24 at the Alameda Comedy Club in Alameda, California. If you can’t make the live show, you can stream it any time you’d like at http://comediaplex.com/. Check out a terrific archive of her appearances here on YouTube and you should definitely follow her on Twitter @CathyLadman. I have a brand new book coming out this summer. To get a free sneak preview email me at info@sexedthemusical.com and I’ll send a free chapter your way! Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow Sex Ed The Musical wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions, feel free to email me at info@sexedthemusical.com. Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!  

CATHY LADMAN MAKES ME LAUGH

There’s not a lot I can say about this episode except that it’s my most intensely personal one yet. Which, if you've been listening to this show over the past two years, is really saying something. Plus, it features Charo, my eyebrows, and the opportunity to send thousands of dollars to paypal.me/wendymiller1661 Sex Ed The Musical is available on iTunes, Stitcher, Podtail, IHeartRadio, Podbay, Spotify and more. Please share and follow wherever you enjoy podcasts. Also, if you’d do us a solid and leave us a 5-Star Review on iTunes, we’d ever so gratefully appreciate it. Be sure to check out my writing on Medium.com here! If there’s anything you’d like to hear on this show, or if you have any questions email me at info@sexedthemusical.com Thanks, as always, for listening. See you next time!

GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION

Sex Ed The Musical is a funny, empowering and honest sex advice show for women that offers helpful tips, interviews from sex educators, nonjudgmental advice, solutions, comedic jingles and conversations with women just like you who are tired of settling for crappy sex lives. Sex Ed The Musical teaches the truth about sex and helps women enjoy the pleasure we all deserve.

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