How do you move gracefully through grief? Good question! Grace doesn't have to look pretty during grief. Grace is being willing to open your eyes through the tears, the sorrow, the anger and confusion.  In this case, Jay and I walk through some of his grief together. You'll hear us chat through a coaching conversation where new tools, insights and ideas are shared providing some encouragement and perspective. We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart.com for more information.

Unbreak My Heart

Fear robbed me of my sweetheart | Part 2 | Jay

One of the scariest things we encounter with heartbreak is losing a loving bond to fear and regret. Jay thought he met the woman whom he'd marry. They were a perfect fit, or so he hoped.  Three years into dating it felt like it was time to start taking things to the next level. Jay felt panicked and his fears seemed to override his hope and love for his girlfriend. What felt safe became rocky and ultimately broken. This is a fresh breakup story, listen as Jay shares with us how he's coping with his heartache and all the things he's learning from their relationship.  We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart.com for more information.

Fear robbed me of my sweetheart | Jay

Alcohol: friend or foe? Good question. Alcohol has a common presence in relationships and in breakups. Ann tells her story of finding out that she was truly an alcoholic. She outs herself in her book called "Drink". Many people know the woes of alcohol but not as many know both the woes and wins of sobriety. Listen as Ann shares her lessons, her heartache, and discovers her gains! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart.com for more information. Check out Ann's book here: Drink

Drinking and how it changed my life | Ann Dowsett-Johnston at TEDxHomeBushRdWomen

What happens when your intuition tells you one thing, yet you do another? Consequences!  This conversation is a vulnerable recounting of the heartache and lessons learned in dismissing one's intuition. In Kate's case, when her intuition hinted she couldn't trust those who asked for her heart in marriage, she doubted herself and said yes anyway. The consequences? She found herself assaulted, gaslit, betrayed, and publically humiliated. In the wake of these heartbreaking experiences, she was determined to recover, find her voice, and to never again ignore her intuition. Mission accomplished! Not only did she overcome but in time, she wrote her memoir, Everything is Perfect. I highly recommend listening to it on audible to hear how Kate "unbroke her heart", and found herself stronger on the other side. We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart.com for more information.  

Everything is Perfect | Kate Nason

Jennifer was teaching English overseas when she met a man in the military who won her heart! They got engaged and she was hopeful for a future together.  Along the way, there were signs, some things about his stories didn't add up. After some time and "gut-led" investigation, she discovered he was married and had no intention of marrying her.  This is a woeful tale of heartache, embarrassment and learning tough lessons. This break up has caused Jennifer to take her healing further and overcome depression, anxiety and a lack of trust!

"The common denominator is me" | Jennifer

What if someone could study how we make choices? The attitudes and philosophies behind the decisions we make? When we reflect on our relationship choices or the patterns of behavior we have - sometimes it's hard to make sense of it!  Sheena takes us through her research about studying choice! It's fascinating and may provoke some new thoughts and insights. Enjoy! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information.

The Art of Choosing | Sheena Lyengar TedGlobal

What do you do with all the stuff that remains left behind after a breakup? What if you can't bear to get rid of it?  Understanding that grief has many phases and comes and goes in waves will help you be patient with yourself and the process. This episode has practical steps and examples on how to help yourself move past the lingering remnants of you and your ex. You are worthy of love. Remember, you are worthy of love! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. Check out this book! Everything is Perfect by Kate Nason

Help with "Purging" & Closure After a Breakup pt. 2| Cheri

Life is happening one way for a time. There's a routine. Then life changes, our partner is gone and we're stuck with whatever residual and leftovers there are. How can we move on when we're bottled up inside or everything is bottlenecked trying to come out at once? One solution: purging! Listen to here some good ideas on purging and how it can help you find peace and sanity! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. Check out this book! Everything is Perfect by Kate Nason

Help with "Purging" & Closure After a Breakup | Cheri

Along the way, we learn life lessons. Love is always pursuing us and we may not know it or be able to receive it. What about when we declare our love to someone and behave in a way that is contrary to what we say? Why do we hold on to someone when we don't want to be faithful? Or when we want a completely different life?  In this example, Femi shares his personal story of a time when he was put to the test to see if he meant what he said when he found the woman he wanted to marry! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information.

How To Tell If Someone Truly Loves You | Femi Ogunjinmi | TEDxXavierUniversity

Our emotions can hit us like a tidal wave. We can splash around asking for friends and family to be our lifelines, is that enough? How do we go from drowning in our sorrow to staying afloat and navigating our way out of the dangerous waters of despair?  I share some insights on how to identify what's keeping you stuck with on your ex and suggestions on how to strengthen yourself as you work through letting go.  We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information.

Tips on post-breakup recovery | Cheri

We hope to avoid bad things happening to us and we do our best to not be the bad guy in someone else's life. What happens when the bad things come? No sex? Cheating? Loneliness? Divorce and break-ups?  Maureen speaks to the unspeakable things that we tend to handle on our own - isolated, afraid, embarrassed or ashamed. You're in for a treat! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. Maureen McGrath - nursetalk@hotmail.com - hosts the Sunday Night Sex Show on News Talk 980 CKNW. She is a Registered Nurse, Sex Educator and author of “Sex & Health".

No Sex Marriage – Masturbation, Loneliness, Cheating and Shame | Maureen McGrath | TEDxStanleyPark

What is something that makes breakups so tough? This episode, I will share some tips and ideas on steps you can work on during the relationship.  Communication is sometimes one of the toughest elements in a relationship and when that fails working through the loss of your partner increases exponentially. Listen to discover some fresh ideas or find assurance in things you may already be working on. We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information.

Speak up now, reduce pain later | Cheri

Ari and Rachel were together for 3 years. Their relationship worked well on the surface and suffered from a superficial foundation.  In this episode, we discover that Ari's mindset to control and protect himself hasn't really allowed the opportunity for trust and true connection.  Listen as he discovers a new perspective on what it means to feel safe and come out of hiding! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information.

What am I afraid of? | Ari

They decided they weren't each other's forever person. It was their sophomore year of college and even though they had fun together, the spark just wasn't there. However, there was no ill will and they wanted to involve their close friends in the breakup. Jyssica and Benji decided to host a Break-Up Party. 10 friends gathered together to pronounce their friends single! Little did Jyssica know, that meeting her true love was just around the corner! Enjoy as Jyssica shares the story of her heart! Learn more about Jyssica and her business, Style Opal at  Instagram.com/jyssica and Instagram.com/thestyleopal We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information.

Our breakup dinner party | Jyssica

How often do you hear yourself say: "I love online dating!" or "Social distancing is helping me connect so much better with others than ever before."? Ha! That's the opposite of how most of us tend to feel. One thing that makes both virtual and face-to-face experiences tough is how do we have a conversation with a stranger?  Celeste provides excellent tips on improving conversation. They will help you be mindful, you can apply them right away both for connecting with your new date or people you chat with regularly! We have a Patreon account - you can sign up as a member to receive special perks for supporting the podcast! To sign up visit: https://www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart

10 Ways to have a better conversation | Celeste Headlee Tedx CreativeCoast

A podcast about navigating the messiness and aftermath of breakups. Our guests enter into the conversation shackled to their break up stories and together we find the keys.

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