Ask yourself a few questions: Is it wrong for a self-proclaimed spiritual leader to make a high-priced sex tape on purpose to get more exposure for her work? Is it unethical to outwardly say you are brainwashing your audience? Is it bad to advertise that you run a cult and seek followers? Is it unsafe for someone to be obsessed with celebrity culture and dream to be famous one day? Or is intent everything?  In episode 26 of the Maker/Mistaker podcast, you are in for a treat. Today's guest is Unicole Unicron, who describes herself as a "Pop Star Cult Leader and Digital Salvationist, or spiritual transhumanist... highly productive and creates content on a variety of platforms." She's one of the most interesting and creative humans I've ever met. She too suffered from severe anxiety and depression and feeling like she did not fit in no matter where she went. She describes tools on how she was able to find her way out of the darkness of depression and into the light of self-love and joy. Her goal is to inspire others to live in a constant state of JOY and she uses a variety of digital platforms to express that message. But what makes her so unique and interesting to me is how she flips the script on the methods that the occult elite have used for centuries to manipulate the masses and gain their own version of power based on greed. But what if you knew how to use those techniques to spread a positive message and empower others? I love how she just flat out OWNS her desires and intentions. She certainly challenges a lot of assumptions and at first glance you might think she's crazy. But she's incredibley aware, intellegent, and thoughtful. Listen to the episode and decide for yourself. Updates from Me: Get your Starseed Patches here! I soft-launched Starseed Supply Co. Follow @StarseedSupply on Twitter Follow @StarseedSupply on Instagram I released a pack of Peaceful Alarm Ringtones for iPhone and Android.   Topics Covered in this Episode Who is Unicole Unicron? Why does she call herself a Pop Star Cult Leader? How did you get your occult aesthetic? Do you call yourself a Starseed? What was your awakening like? Suffering from severe depression and anxiety Not fitting into society no matter what she did Healing out of depression, slowly but surely We The Arcturians book triggering Starseed awakening Not resonating with the Pleiadians at the time Why do you use the term Brainwashing? Brainwashing for good and not greed What is JOY and how to The path to Joy = Ascension Obsession with celebrity culture Celebrities are our modern-day spiritual leaders Why we are obsessed with celebrity? Finding your light in the darkness Your mess is your message Unialarms - waking up to affirmations Collaborating with other Starseeds Living in the Unitopia - Heaven on Earth The big picture - what does the future look like? Unicole's five steps to JOY Cynicism Attention Truth Creation Time & Dedication Attachment to our pain and fear You can CHOOSE to be in love or happiness Choosing happiness is like lifting weights How do we deal with our negative emotions? Authenticity and truth Channeling Mother Earth Being true to yourself really is changing the world The power of FOCUSING our consciosness The power of ATTENTION - a commodity/commodeity Why do you want to be famous? Sex Tape - Uniporn How does the sex tape fit into your vision? Sexuality is HOLY Unicole's reasons why she is making a porn film Shames around making money and sexuality Cam Church every Sunday Morning Sex - Casual, Monogamous, Telepathic Sex is more than just physical or spiritual Am I still not drinking coffee? Find Unicole all over the Web Unicole Unicron official site Outside Time and Space (music project) Uniporn (sex tape) Cam Church Unicult Un1v3rs3

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Unicole Unicron – Pop Star Cult Leader and Spiritual Sex Tape Maker (ep 26)

I have an unbelievable story to share with you. I had the chance to talk with the world-famous Samantha Hess, the affection-starved woman who divorced her husband to cuddle everyone she possibly could. She turned cuddling into her job, seriously. And then she got famous for it.

Samantha Hess: Professional Cuddler (ep 25)

Hey friend, I just got back in from being outside in my car after midnight in the rain - recording a podcast! This episode is just me talking about what I've been interested in the past few weeks. I've been reading a lot about manifesting money as well as The Red Pill. When a man wants advice on dating or relationships, where does he go? His parents? His friends? The internet usually. And if you do any searching for this, you're sure to run across the PUA (pickup artist) scene and The Red Pill. Both are large, community driven groups aimed at helping men have more success with women. Both have been criticized for being crass, manipulative, and misogynist. But I found myself endlessly curious and it took up a large part of my reading this month. Find out what I think in this episode of the Maker/Mistaker Podcast. I talk about healing my inner Alpha as well as my curious look into the BDSM community and The Red Pill Topics Covered in this episode: My move to Austin begins this weekend! Starting my new life and what I want to do when I get there Digital Detox Update: Quitting Facebook and Instagram Taking Yoga classes, Kirtan, and Meditation Group Worried about money, scarcity mentality How much money I make per month Manifesting money and abundance Get Rich Lucky Bitch book on manifesting money A Happy Pocket Full of Money book The Red Pill subreddit Alan Roger Currie - Mode One book Leandra Vane interview on my podcast Four letters that helped me feel better as a man: BDSM Fetlife BDSM community The Rational Male blog and book Men being raised in a Feminist Culture David Deida - Way of the Superior Man No More Mr. Nice Guy Why desire fades in long term relationships The dance of masculine and feminine energies Esther Perel - Mating in Captivity book Catalyst Con in Chicago

Alpha Males, BDSM, and The Red Pill (ep 24)

This was such a fun episode, but it's definitely one of the more far out episodes. And I love it! Today's guest is Krista Raisa, aka Galactic Faery. She and I recently collaborated on a music project as well as some Starseed patches! Krista is such a fun and beautiful soul. She's got a wildly popular YouTube channel and has written a bunch of books. She makes a ton of cool patches and clothing items on her Etsy store and channels extraterrestrial beings called The Orion Council. This episode was really fun as we get to share the story of Krista's awakening and realization of her Starseed nature and channeling abilities. Find Krista Raisa on the web Krista Raisa official site Krista "Ezoterrarist" on Soundcloud Krista Raisa - Galactic Faery - on Instagram Krista Raisa on Twitter Krista on YouTube Krista's Angels creations on Etsy Krista on Facebook About Krista Raisa Krista Raisa is an accomplished psychic medium, multi-dimensional channel, intuitive artist, spiritual teacher and healer. She is well-known internationally thanks in large part to her success as a YouTube sensation. Her YouTube Channel has thousands of subscribers from all across the globe. With an African-American, Finnish and Lakota ancestry, she was raised in New York City, and has lived and studied in Finland. Currently she resides in Sedona, Arizona. Krista’s mainstream education includes Master’s Degree studies in English Literature with a heavy focus on Psychology and Cultural Studies. Non-conventional studies include certification as an Angel Tarot Reader by Doreen Virtue as well as having attained the level of Master in Usui Reiki Healing. Krista is bi-lingual speaking fluent English and Finnish, as well as Spanish basics. Her flair for art and hip-hop serve as other mediums for self-expression. Awakening to the spiritual nature of reality began for her at an early age when she built an altar in her closet at age nine, but it wasn’t until 2011 that it moved to the forefront and became the main driving force in her life. Krista always had a strong desire to help our planet and the life living on it. From a very early age she developed a strong connection to Mother Earth and the Nature Spirits, and as her psychic abilities continued to develop she eventually became aware of her cosmic origins and ancestry as a Starseed. A Starseed is someone who’s soul or spirit has Extra-terrestrial origins. We are all part of a connected conscious universe that is alive and teeming with life. Krista is a contactee and an ambassador for a collective known as the Orion Council. In 2011 this collective revealed themselves to Krista as she spontaneously began trance channeling in a Whole Foods car park! Orion Council are a benevolent group of E.T.s, accompanied by Angels, Archangels and other conscious forms of life. Krista has since authored 6 books on Spirituality, Metaphysics and Self-Help topics, some of which can be purchased from Amazon.com. Furthermore, her hand-made arts and crafts are highly rated on Etsy.com. Krista is available for private readings, life coaching, workshops, group sessions, teaching, live events, and public speaking. She is very knowledgeable in a multitude of areas and is passionate about transposing star consciousness with art and music. Working with clients physically and also in the dream-space and multi-dimensionally is very common in her practice. Topics Covered in this Episode Sedona, Arizona Awesome patches including 11:11! Get yours at http://makermistaker.com/patches Starseed creators to live your purpose Krista's creations on Etsy - Dreamcatchers, Krista's story, waking up to her channeling abilities Growing up in New York, college in Finland Dark night of the soul and hitting rock bottom emotionally Verbal abuse, bullying Seeing 11:11 all the time Giant alien frogs, just your average awakening Watching Spike Lee's Malcom X Depression

Krista Raisa – Starseed Creators, Channelers, and Alien Frogs (ep 23)

I'm quite excited about this episode of the podcast. I talk with Leandra Vane, author of one of my favorite books Trophy Wife: Sexuality, Disability, Femininity. It might be one of my more "controversial" episodes because we talk openly about sex, porn, disability, kink, BDSM, sexual fantasies, open relationships, fear, shame, and shit. Leandra has a way about her that makes these subjects feel relatable and safe to talk about. Leandra Vane - The Unlaced Librarian I loved her book. Here's my five star review I just posted. One of the best books I've read in a while. Such honest and intimate writing. It was so relatable and I found myself feeling inspired and hopeful for my own "sexual coming-of-age" in my 30s. We may not all have the same challenges, but are all "passing" in some form or another. Meaning, we try to fit into society and "be normal", but are hiding our true selves underneath fear and shame. Leandra puts this struggle into such beautiful words. She doesn't hold back and has the courage to talk about taboo subjects with such intelligence and vulnerability. I can't recommend this book enough for anyone who is trying to be more authentic and true to themselves Topics covered in this episode: Having a disability Feeling different from everyone else Fear and shame around our bodies, sexuality, and kinks Femininity and "one of the guys" Shit... yes, shit. Bowel and bladder issues in dating BDSM and Kink Honesty and authenticity "Passing" as a "normal" or a socially acceptable person instead of being ourselves Pornography and "porn therapy" Erotica and fan fiction Devotees and disability fetishists Body Identity Sexual objectification Open relationships and polyamory Ethical Non Monogamy Get in touch with Leandra Vane The Unlaced Librarian blog Trophy Wife: Sexuality, Femininity, Disability book Leandra Vane on YouTube Leandra Vane on Twitter Leandra Vane on Facebook

Leandra Vane – Trophy Wife: Sexuality, Disability, and Femininity (ep 22)

In this episode of the Maker/Mistaker podcast, I welcome April Hannah back on the show to discuss the book Attached - The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love. Listen to the show by clicking the play button above, or find this episode in your podcast app or in iTunes. The idea of attachment styles in relationships is interesting. It's an attempt to shed new light on the patterns we have experienced in our relationships. Do we tend to attract unavailable partners or ones that want to control us? Do you have a fear of commitment or a fear that you'll never find the one? This book explains three different styles - anxious, avoidant, and secure. Personally, I thought the book was interesting and definitely helped make me more aware of some of my patterns. But I felt like I could relate to ALL the different styles, even within the same relationship. Sometimes I feel anxious and overly worried if the person isn't as close as I'd like. But then I'd feel anxious if they were getting too close. Hah! Whether you like labels or you don't, I think it's a cool way to look at it. Anxious attachment is rooted in the fear of abandonment. You crave being close to a partner but fear they won't ever love you as much as you love them. Avoidant attachment is rooted in the fear of losing independence or freedom. They like being in love, but are hypersensitive to being controlled or suppressed. The secure attachment is what you think, more balanced. There doesn't seem to be any overriding factor that constantly stresses out a person with a secure attachment style. First, some updates from me this week: Black Friday deal is still on! Wake Up VIP Package is now Pay What You Want Currently Reading - Leandra Vane's new book Trophy Wife: Sexuality, Disability, Femininity - Love her honesty and authenticity. She's inspires me as a blogger and writer. Also finished reading Outrageous Openess: Letting the Divine Take the Lead by Tosha Silver and Meditations on Tantra by OSHO Created another song called Look Around You and also a new track called Galactic Faery Grime for my Starseed sister Krista Raisa Which one are you? You can take the quiz here http://www.attachedthebook.com/compatibility-quiz/ When I took this quiz, I had a particular relationship at the forefront of my mind and I got anxious attachment. Yet I feel like the definition of secure suits me better. And while reading this book, I found that I resonated a lot with the avoidant tendencies - but I think that's because I'm just getting out of a 12 year relationship/marriage and I don't feel inclined to jump into a seriously committed relationship without exploring the single life for a little bit. It's hard to date and be romantic or sexual with women knowing you aren't looking for the next long term partner. That produces some avoidant anxieties there! I'm currently more about exploring options and finding out what's out there. So while I love being in love, I don't want to feel possessed. Whereas when I was 20, I was more inclined to pair up and be exclusive. I do love intimacy and closeness, and I'm not historically an avoidant, more anxious. Unless they are too controlling... Errm, I don't know what I am! :-) Even though I don't feel like I fit a particular label, it's helpful to know there's nothing wrong with me. And there is always a new way of looking at it. It has increased my awareness and has helped me come to terms with who I am. Yay! Make sure you check April Hannah's podcast Path 11! One of the best about consciousness and out of body experiences including interviews with greats like William Buhlman and Tom Campbell.

Which Attachment Style are You? Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? (ep 21)

Here's a twist, what if you looked at inspiration and ideas as conscious beings? Non-physical entities not unlike imaginary friends. And those non-physical beings want to incarnate into physical reality. They want to become manifest in this world and they chose YOU to be the conduit. Why? Because you are a suitable partner! In today's Maker/Mistaker Podcast episode I talk about this new way of looking at inspiration and ideas. Click the play button above to listen to the episode in your browser. Or find it in iTunes or your favorite podcast app. Before I get into the topic, just a few quick updates from me. Updates from me: My eBook Wake Up is now Pay What You Want - get it here and name your price I'm moving to Austin in early 2016! I'm working on some ideas with my Austin friends for a Starseed event I made two new songs this week! What's this new way of looking at inspiration? Inspiration and ideas are attracted to you because they match your energy, your vibration, or your frequency. They are attracted to your skills and abilities and believes you are capable of giving birth to this idea in physical form. The idea follows you around and pesters you from time to time and gives you feelings of inspiration and even chills down your spine. You can choose to engage with the idea and actually begin to work on it. Or you can ignore it over and over until it goes away. Or you can flat out reject it. And when that inspiration dissipates, where does it go? What if it was simply moving to another suitable partner that was more willing to create it? Examples from Big Magic I'm in the middle of reading the book Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert and this is one of the concepts she writes about. She tells a story of how she had this amazing idea for a book and was in the middle of writing it when she had to put it on hold to take care of some other matters. When she came back to the book some time later, the inspiration had run out. She no longer could write it! She ended up meeting another author at a conference and the two became friends and pen pals. They wrote letters back and forth and developed a deeper connection. And one day they met up again and it turns out this author was writing the same book! The same storyline and everything, minus a few minor details. This idea left Elizabeth and found another creator to manifest itself. A Crazy Synchronicity And a crazy synchronicity happened after I read this part of the book. I logged into Instagram and saw a photo someone posted of some Starseed patches she had made and was selling in her Etsy store. I thought, "no fucking way." Because I had almost the exact same idea months ago! I even had the sketches to prove it. I was going to produce some Starseed patches just like hers - with illustrations accompanying the different ET races such as the Pleiadeans, Sirians, Orions, etc. She beat me to it. A photo posted by Krista Raisa (@galacticfaery) on Nov 20, 2015 at 2:38pm PST Here are just a few of my original sketches. I can't seem to find the rest that showed off my ideas for the different races. But you see the "Pleiadean" on the left page. A photo posted by Jeff Finley (@jeff_finley) on Aug 21, 2015 at 2:00pm PDT But I was too slow. I didn't give it as much time and attention and the idea left me. I ran out of inspiration and got distracted. Turns out this idea didn't just disappear, it found a new creator! The crazy part was how I actually noticed it and the timing of all this. How weird! In another synchronicity, I had started initial planning of my Starseed event that some friends and I working up. And I logged into Instagram a few months ago and this same person had posted a video herself asking her audience, "If there was an event for Starseeds, what would you want?" I thought it was uncanny that she had the same idea. Whatever inspiration being that I was tapped into, she was as well.

What You Don’t Know About Inspiration (ep 20)

Two weeks ago I got message from April Hannah, whom you might remember from an older podcast about her Path Documentary Series. She had been listening to some of my recent podcast episodes about dating, love, and relationships and reached out to me to relate some of her own ideas. April is a well read and experienced psychotherapist and holistic mental health practitioner that's very familiar with helping people with their relationships. She proposed the idea of collaborating or doing a show about relationships and I loved the idea! I told her I was reading The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships by Neil Strauss and it turns out she was too! So we thought we should start our collaboration by talking about this amazing and controversial book about love, sex, monogamy, infidelity, polyamory, sex parties, orgies, and sex addiction therapy. In the episode we start off by talking about Neil's book The Truth **Spoiler Alert! Read it first if you don't want to be spoiled** Then we transition into talking about sex and relationships in general. We cover a lot of ground and I plan on having on her on the show a few more times at least to dive deeper into these fascinating subjects! Topics discussed in this episode: Neil Strauss's new book The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships Monogomy or Polyamory and other lifestyles Sex parties, New Age Tantra orgies, swinging, and harems How our relationships with our parents affect our adult relationships Relationship therapy and sex addiction rehab Porn, infidelity, and cheating Attachment styles, anxious, secure, and avoidant Love addicts and love avoidants Fears of abandonment and fears of commitment Honoring the Masculine and Feminine in each of us Links for this Episode Episode 9 of the Maker/Mistaker Podcast with April Hannah about her Path Documentary Series My original article about my feelings after reading The Truth The Truth book on Amazon Helen Fisher Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel Attached the book by Amir Levine Homecoming the book by John Bradshaw Opening Up by Tristan Taormino The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton About April Hannah April Hannah, LMHC operates a wellness & psychotherapy office that serves people to achieve wellness for the mind, body and spirit. April Hannah offers a blend of traditional psychotherapy and energy practices to serve each individual’s needs. April A. Hannah, MS.Ed., LMHC is a New York State Licensed Mental Health Counselor, who provides services to individuals, couples, families and supervision to health professionals. Her approach to therapy blends holistic studies and cognitive behavioral techniques which are solution focused. Hannah's Healing - April's therapy practice April on Twitter and Facebook

Uncovering “The Truth” about Sex and Relationships with April Hannah (ep 19)

This is the second part of my interview with Todd Acamesis. We talk about synchronicity, out of body experiences, spiritual awakenings, and how to live a life full of joy and wonder. It's one of the most mind-blowing episodes I've ever done and we get into some really deep topics including the nature of reality, how thoughts manifest in the physical form, and even a bit of meditation. Open your mind, open your hearts. Don't believe what we say but try it for yourself. Choose what resonates and discard the rest! Enjoy the episode! Listen to Part 1 here Links for this Episode: Todd Acamesis on Facebook Synchronicity Walk official site Video of Todd hosting a walk Pandora Star OBE light machine

Synchronicity and Living a Magical Life with Todd Acamesis – Part 2 (ep 18)

I'm super pumped for this two part interview I did with Todd Acamesis. It will inspire you! Todd is a guy that has figured out how to turn daily life into a magical life. One that smashes boring routine and brings back that childlike wonder on a regular basis. He acts as an agent of synchronicity, or meaningful coincidence. He goes out of his way, or rather GETS out of the way, to let synchronicity be a driving force in his life. Imagine rolling dice and letting complete strangers tell you what to do next. There's trusting your intuition, and then there's trusting a stranger's intuition! Todd spent his younger years hitchhiking and trusting strangers, knowing that a larger, unseen force is guiding him to just what he needs. He releases worry and anxiety and lives in the present moment and is full of love, joy, and childlike glee. He's a super inspiring person to talk to, and I'm very happy to have him as a guest on my podcast. Listen to the PART 1 of my interview with him above. So what's synchronicity? What's a magical life? Have you ever experienced a coincidence that felt really meaningful? Like, not an ordinary coincidence. But one of those magical moments in life where you feel that things just lined up perfectly for you? Meeting someone at the right moment at the right time or when you think about a person and they call you. Those are simple examples of synchronicity. What if you could actually amplify or control these experiences to some degree? How the heck can you let go of control and trust this unseen force that many people call God, the Universe, Synchronicty, or WHATEVER. In fact, that's the beauty of this. You don't have to have to believe in God, have faith in anything, or be a member of any religion. You just have to open your mind and heart for a brief moment and accept that there may be more to life than you know. And then use your imagination and allow yourself to have fun. Then go with the flow. And see where it takes you. You'll notice you'll have plenty of judgement and fear pop up and that's ok. But what if you put it aside for now and let yourself be a kid? Todd has organized what he calls "Synchronicity Walks" where he gathers a group of curious and skeptical people for a magical walk through the city. They roll dice and leave the decisions up to "chance." What happens next is often remarkable and leaves grown adults laughing in disbelief and feeling once dormant sensations of wonder and awe and gratitude. Nothing like direct experience to expand your consciousness! Todd recently designed a deck of cards to offer suggestions and ideas to make the walks more fun. I had the pleasure of doing the illustration and graphic design for these cards and I'm so excited for them to be released and start hosting my own synchronicity walks. The power of synchronicity doesn't just happen on these walks, but in every day life. With practice you can feel more alive and more magical instead of boring and predictable. Thank you Todd for bringing this to the masses! Enjoy the episode! Links for this Episode: Todd Acamesis on Facebook Synchronicity Walk official site Video of Todd hosting a walk

Synchronicity and Living a Magical Life with Todd Acamesis – Part 1 (ep 17)

I saw this post yesterday on Facebook the other day and thought it was on point. It was a list of 14 core differences between true love and toxic love. I've experienced my share of both. It's always hard to define what true love is, but another word is unconditional love. You may have felt divine, true love in one moment, but then dipped back into attached and needy love the next moment. What is interesting, is as a collective, humanity is beginning to shift into more of the "true love" state of mind.At least, that's what I'm noticing for myself. This is what I am calling "new world." The "old world" paradigm is founded on separation, attachment, and fear. I notice thoughts and feelings come up that also carry this insight that this is "old world" and it's bubbling up to my awareness for me to heal and integrate. This is something I am seeing myself naturally progress to the more I follow my heart's instincts. "Love is not supposed to be painful. There is pain involved in any relationship but if it is painful most of the time then something is not working. Loving relationships are based upon appreciation & affection and not fear and manipulation." - Lightshifter.com Listen to this week's podcast episode where I break down this list and give my oh so humble opinion on the matter. 14 Differences Between True Love and Toxic Love (source I found it from, original source) Love: Development of self first priority. Toxic love: Obsession with relationship. Love: Room to grow, expand; desire for others to grow. Toxic love: Security, comfort in sameness; intensity of need seen as proof of love – may really be fear, insecurity, loneliness. Love: Separate interests; other friends; maintain other meaningful relationships. Toxic love: Total involvement; limited social life; neglect old friends, interests. Love: Encouragement of each other’s expanding; secure in own worth. Toxic love: Preoccupation with other’s behavior; fear of other changing. Love: Appropriate Trust (trusting partner to behave according to fundamental nature.) Toxic love: Jealousy; possessiveness; fear of competition; protects “supply.” Love: Compromise, negotiation or taking turns at leading. Problem solving together. Toxic love: Power plays for control; blaming; passive or aggressive manipulation. Love: Embracing of each other’s individuality. Toxic love: Trying to change other to own image. Love: Relationship deals with all aspects of reality. Toxic love: Relationship is based on delusion and avoidance of the unpleasant. Love: Self-care by both partners; emotional state not dependent on other’s mood. Toxic love: Expectation that one partner will fix and rescue the other. Love: Loving detachment (healthy concern about partner, while letting go.) Toxic love: Fusion (being obsessed with each other’s problems and feelings.) Love: Sex is free choice growing out of caring & friendship. Toxic love: Pressure around sex due to fear, insecurity & need for immediate gratification. Love: Ability to enjoy solitude by being alone. Toxic love: Unable to endure separation; clinging. Love: Cycle of comfort and contentment. Toxic love: Cycle of pain and despair. Love: Conversations based upon intent to Understand, Help, or convey affection. Toxic love: Conversations based upon intent to blame, defend, or manipulated

True Love vs Toxic Love: 14 Core Differences (ep 16)

This past week I've been feeling restless living at home with my parents. I came here to feel nurtured and comfortable after ending my marriage and working nonstop for 18 years of my life. And while I love my family and am grateful, they know I'm restless. It's nice to have a rent-free place to stay while I travel as well. But I'm finding that I just can't feel settled. I want to travel and explore! I want to have adventures! I want to experience love and freedom! That's what this week's episode of the Maker/Mistaker Podcast is all about. I'm gonna start traveling again after I take care of some things here in town. But I want to have extended stays in different cities. Portland comes to mind, but I was recently offered a place to stay in Asheville, NC. I might do that, we'll see. But lately I've been obsessed with dating apps. I went on two dates last week and had nice connections and I'm grateful. They definitely helped me expand my comfort zone and opened me up to what is possible. But the issue I'm struggling with is there's a desire to see these women again and get closer, but I know I'm going to have to leave and end whatever consistency we establish. Will people get hurt? Is this safe? Am I doing this right? I wonder how much I want to keep this dating thing going. If I'm being honest, it's fun but exhausting. It can be a lot of swiping and starring and messaging just to get a date. And then what? I still like to use these apps like OK Cupid and Tinder to meet people I never would otherwise know or consider asking out. I am enjoying it for now, but I know it's just temporary and something I'm "getting out of my system" so to speak. My real priority is me and my personal growth. I find that when I'm feeling safe, secure, and loved by myself then good things tend to happen to me. You know, not giving that power away to other people. When I'm going after what I love and what feels inspiring, people are attracted to that and they come to me. It's a lot better than me feeling lonely and swiping right on 100 Tinder profiles only to get a few automated bot messages back. Haha! The takeaways in this episode are put the intent out there and be “open to receive” be grateful for every experience and know that it’s temporary everything is a mirror reflecting back your state of being

Dating and Feeling Restless (ep 15)

We hear a lot about following your passion/heart these days, don't we? We also hear a lot about how messed up this world is with all the violence, war, and unfairness. But what can we do about it? My latest podcast episode was inspired by this amazing blog post by my friend Elz asking "What Will You Create?". Such an empowered voice! After reading the post I decided to invite this wise woman on the show. We talk about why now is the time to create from your heart. There is so much fear-based discussion about "the state of the world" and lots of people feeling powerless as to what they can do about it. There's a lot of complaining and consuming going on, but what about creating? What does being a heart-centered creator mean anyway? And what's the alternative? We even talked about how the Pixar movie Inside Out is super relevant to understanding ourselves and becoming more of our true, authentic self. We also talk about why authenticity is becoming a prime directive in this lifetime. Enjoy the show, and please comment! Links for the show: Elz Anders blog - LivingDiscernment.org What Will You Create? blog post Inside Out movie Charles Eisenstein's "The More Beautiful World" book

Now is the Time to Create From Our Hearts – with Elz Anders (ep 14)

In this episode of the Maker/Mistaker Podcast, I talk about my week at The Monroe Institute where I was enrolled in the 5-day Out Of Body Exploration Intensive workshop taught by William Buhlman. It was quite an experience. Listen to the episode to hear the story! Links Mentioned in this Episode: The Monroe Institute OBE Intensive Workshop William Buhlman official site Maha Mrityeonjaya Mantra by Hein Braat (beautiful meditation chant) Homecoming by John Bradshaw SUBSCRIBE Subscribe to the podcast in iTunes Podcast Archive | RSS Feed | Soundcloud | YouTube Look us up in your favorite podcasting app. I like Pocket Casts.

I Took a 5-Day Out of Body Exploration Class at The Monroe Institute (ep 13)

A common theme on my trip has been following my heart, surrendering to love, and awakening my sexuality. Yes, my sexuality. And I'm already feeling triggered and embarrassed just mentioning that. In this episode I break down my week on the road as I traveled through Austin, Houston, New Orleans, Georgia, and Asheville, North Carolina. I seem to be drawn toward connecting with women, but I'm beginning to realize there is a greater purpose for this. Now, in this podcast episode, I get really vulnerable and honest. I apologize in advance to anyone who hears what I'm saying and is triggered in any way. I must speak my truth, but I always feel unsafe when talking about people and they might listen to the show. But this is my honesty and authentic truth. So if you have an issue with what I'm saying, please talk to me about it. Two unrelated people sent me this message last week and a psychic told me I was building my tribe. If you look at the lions, it looks like the females are leading the pack. Boom.   As I come out of my marriage, which was largely a companionate, non-sexual relationship, I realize how much I had repressed myself in this area. I'm awakening to my sexuality and am starting to see hints of hope and fulfillment coming my way. I want to learn Tantra and learn how to express my truth and own this part of myself and heal emotional wounds. Listen to the episode to hear my story. Thanks for listening to me speak from my heart. Resources for this episode: Codependency and Narcisissm YouTube playlist Human Magnet Syndrome book Allison Armstrong books In Sync with the Opposite Sex Celebrating Partnership Keys to the Kingdom The Amazing Development of Men Understanding Women Enlightened Sex by David Deida SkyDancing Tantra Margot Anand Tantra Teacher Ecstatic Marriage SUBSCRIBE Subscribe to the podcast in iTunes Podcast Archive | RSS Feed | Soundcloud | YouTube Look us up in your favorite podcasting app. I like Pocket Casts.

Love, Sex, and Building my Tribe (ep 12)

We are powerful creators, yet we stumble and struggle. Overcome fear, self-doubt, and get inspired as Jeff Finley and his amazing guests give you unfiltered, real-talk about personal growth, finding happiness, love, and purpose. Honest and from the heart.

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